would this offend you or are people just to touchy

jenhug

my mum in law would take it in good spirit. she also sides with me in a row and doesn't see what i see in her son so she really wouldn't care!

pollypenny

This MIL is feeling a bit fragile at present, after two months of baby-minding and walking on eggs. I wouldn't appreciate the joke - maybe in some months.

BugglyB

LadyMorticia wrote: »

I found it funny but I wouldn't post it on my page.

It's the kind of thing that would need to be taken in context. My MIL is fantastic and we have a great relationship. If I showed it to her in person with an explanation of how she is nothing like that, she would find it amusing. However, if I just posted it on my page then there wouldn't necessarily be any context to it and it might offend her.

I don't get all these MIL jokes either, to be honest, or why so much emphasis is put on most people supposedly having a "strained" relationship with their MILs. Most of the people I know have fantastic relationships with their partner's parents!

I think the meme comes from a time when a womans only sphere of influence was the home and family, and it was important to keep tight rein over what happened within. Thankfully now most women - mils and dils - the world is bigger than just the home and family. Horizons are broader and little things matter less. Women are judged less on their 'home making abilities'.

Someone else correct me if im wrong but it used to be common for dil to live w wwith in laws or nearby? Thus relationship with mil was all important

BugglyB

Sorry my phones being weird. Dil more likely to now live further away and not bein dependent on in laws financially or for child care. So mil access to sons family is conditional upon dil liking her.

Mojisola

BugglyB wrote: »

Someone else correct me if im wrong but it used to be common for dil to live w wwith in laws or nearby? Thus relationship with mil was all important

I don't know. There's an old saying "A son is a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter's a daughter for the rest of your life".

In some cultures, the new bride is expected to become part of her husband's family but, more often in the West, the bride looks to her family.

jackieb

My Mum stayed with her in-laws for almost 2 years after her and my Dad were married. I think my brother was about 9 months old when they got a house of their own.

Person_one

Mojisola wrote: »

I don't know. There's an old saying "A son is a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter's a daughter for the rest of your life".

In some cultures, the new bride is expected to become part of her husband's family but, more often in the West, the bride looks to her family.

I hate that expression.

LadyMorticia

BugglyB wrote: »

I think the meme comes from a time when a womans only sphere of influence was the home and family, and it was important to keep tight rein over what happened within. Thankfully now most women - mils and dils - the world is bigger than just the home and family. Horizons are broader and little things matter less. Women are judged less on their 'home making abilities'.

Someone else correct me if im wrong but it used to be common for dil to live w wwith in laws or nearby? Thus relationship with mil was all important

I moved in with my husband (he was my boyfriend at the time) and his parents after 4 months of going out with him, and it was the same after we were married in 2010 as we couldn't find our own place. We only moved out in December last year.:p

My MIL has always been fantastic but I'm pregnant at the moment with our first child so that could all change when baby is here! lol.

Mado

LadyMorticia wrote: »

I moved in with my husband (he was my boyfriend at the time) and his parents after 4 months of going out with him, and it was the same after we were married in 2010 as we couldn't find our own place. We only moved out in December last year.:p

My MIL has always been fantastic but I'm pregnant at the moment with our first child so that could all change when baby is here! lol.

Congratulations!:D
Don't worry, if you can liven peace in the same house as your MIL, she is very unlikely to turn into monster when the grandchild arrives.

LadyMorticia

Mado wrote: »

Congratulations!:D
Don't worry, if you can liven peace in the same house as your MIL, she is very unlikely to turn into monster when the grandchild arrives.

Thank you.

That's what I thought but you never know! :rotfl: