would this offend you or are people just to touchy

Tiddlywinks

mummyoftwomonkeys wrote: »

...on the flip side the person who "reported back to her" never went to her own sons wedding and doesn't talk to her son or daughter in law so maybe she thought she would try and do the same to us and when she sees me in the street always asks me if her daughter in law is expecting yet

Stop deflecting by trying to make someone else look bad....

You posted something, your MIL is offended - that's reality. No one else is to blame.

coolcait

mummyoftwomonkeys wrote: »

Well if I thought she was the kind of person who wouldn't take a joke then I wouldn't have posted it but I honestly thought she would find it funny, the part about having one of yours at home more than anything because she knows full well what her son is like and we always joke its like me having 3 kids. "If she had shared a jokey cartoon with the caption dear daughter in law, you aren't doing a very good job of raising your children, would you genuinely have thought it was just a funny cartoon, or would you have read into it an implied slight?"
i don't think that's the same at all

At least there's some context to you posting the message - use that as part of your apology to your MIL.

BIB - sorry, but it is the same. just add in a cartoon face.

londonsurrey

You haven't indicated how you know she's annoyed with you. Did she send you a text, or do you have a circle of acquaintances who like playing chinese whispers?

faerie~spangles

londonsurrey wrote: »

You haven't indicated how you know she's annoyed with you. Did she send you a text, or do you have a circle of acquaintances who like playing chinese whispers?

Very good question.

Four_leaf_clover_2

What a fun way to spend a tuesday evening OP. Start a thread about a joke shared on fb and get yourself hung, drawn and quartered by MSE.

How you going to top this tomorrow night? :rotfl:

coolcait

londonsurrey wrote: »

You haven't indicated how you know she's annoyed with you. Did she send you a text, or do you have a circle of acquaintances who like playing chinese whispers?

Well, the OP knows that 'someone' phoned the MIL to let her know about it.

I think that FatVonD hit the nail on the head - it's the 'public humiliation' aspect of it which it probably most hurtful.

A birthday card - seen only by the family - would probably have got some appreciative laughter, as a faimily in-joke.

A message which can be seen by a wide circle of acquaintances can come across as a deliberate dig.

Especially if it has been reported to the MIL as "This is what x posted on Facebook - 'dear mother in law, I don't need you to teach me how to handle my children, I have one of yours living at home and he needs a lot of improvement'!!"

Which is absolutely true...

Mado

Four_leaf_clover wrote: »

How you going to top this tomorrow night? :rotfl:

Write a thread on how she apologised to her MIL and how they're all happy.:T

The problem about jokes like this is that they can be funny or plain downright insulting and it's not obvious to someone who isn't in the relationship.

ska_lover

OP, I cannot honestly see the funny side of this at all.

Not only does it infer your MIL was a bad parent, but it also infers that your OH isn't up to scratch either. It is insulting to both of them. It is a sarcastic ''pretending to be a joke but really taking the p1ss'' kind of way.

I would imagine that my MIL would be furious, and I too, if my DIL posted this, would be too.

It smacks of immaturity and a deep disloyalty to your hubby.

You really need to apologise - and quick.

Alleycat

Just because you found it amusing (and yes it is) you could have just liked it instead of sharing it. If I were your MIL I would have been offended as by sharing it, you're saying that this is what you think.

I'm not surprised your MIL is upset and I think removing it and a public apology (as well as a personal one) on Facebook is the way forward.

We all inadvertantly do or say things we shouldn't but as long as we hold our hands up and admit we've maybe been a bit daft it shouldn't cause long term damage.

faerie~spangles

jayzuss, some folk really ought to get a life.

The op posted something that amused her.

How other people perceive that, is out of her hands nor her responsibility. She found it to be funny and passed it on.