Would you be angry?

looby75

arbroath_lass wrote: »

Sorry you thought that Looby, I've "seen" how bad period pains can be. I wouldn't dispute the amount of pain someone was in.

I'm sorry too for jumping to that conclusion. It's a bit of a touchy subject for me having been through horrendous pain myself and then seeing my daughter go through the same pain. For years I was told I was "wimp" and had a low pain threshold but it was only when I went through my son's birth with only minimal pain relief (gas and air just before starting to push) and my daughter passing kidney stones drug free, that I realised my/her period pains weren't normal.

moomoomama27

raven83 wrote: »

Ditto! I would be so peed off with myself for not taking her and someone else had to do it! I wouldn't want my girls to go through what i went through.

Me either. My DD suffers terribly with her periods, as did I at her age, (thankfully after having children they did calm down to being managable with painkillers). I took her to the GP after the second month of the terrible pain she was in, and she was given the pill. Which also helped to regulate her TWO WEEKLY periods Not looked back and she's very content and can enjoy her life without 10 days of misery every 2-3 weeks!

raven83

moomoomama27 wrote: »

Me either. My DD suffers terribly with her periods, as did I at her age, (thankfully after having children they did calm down to being managable with painkillers). I took her to the GP after the second month of the terrible pain she was in, and she was given the pill. Which also helped to regulate her TWO WEEKLY periods Not looked back and she's very content and can enjoy her life without 10 days of misery every 2-3 weeks!

I think people get very worked up with teens having the pill because they instantly think they are going to be having sex. I was just relieved to get my life back and it meant i didn't have to wear them horrendous pads that were 3 inches think and looked like you had a bulge down below:rotfl:

raven83

looby75 wrote: »

I'm sorry too for jumping to that conclusion. It's a bit of a touchy subject for me having been through horrendous pain myself and then seeing my daughter go through the same pain. For years I was told I was "wimp" and had a low pain threshold but it was only when I went through my son's birth with only minimal pain relief (gas and air just before starting to push) and my daughter passing kidney stones drug free, that I realised my/her period pains weren't normal.

Yeah, when i dad my girls i had only gas and air with the first one and then nothinh with the 2nd and found birth not as painfull as my periods! Crazy hey:eek:

moomoomama27

raven83 wrote: »

I think people get very worked up with teens having the pill because they instantly think they are going to be having sex. I was just relieved to get my life back and it meant i didn't have to wear them horrendous pads that were 3 inches think and looked like you had a bulge down below:rotfl:

I agree I do think it's more the hysteria of the contraceptive/sex side, rather than the risks that freaks people a little.

mrcow

pinkladyof66 wrote: »

I cant believe that the periods were so heavy that the girl couldnt have just taken to her bed with a hot water bottle and waited til the mother returned.

That's the voice of someone who's never suffered truly painful periods before.

I've been rolling on the floor in agony with them. And I'm not talking figuratively. I remember once trying to get to a toilet but not being able to get off the floor.

I remember when I was 15 overdosing on about 6 Ponstan and goodness knows how many paracetamol in one go and literally not being able to get off the floor.

Anyone who could have seen me would have called an ambulance or got me to a doctor if they could - they would have been too scared to do anything else. As it was no one was around. Eventually I was prescibed the pill (without my mother's knowledge) when I was 16.

I've since had three kids (including an emergency caesarian due to my baby getting stuck), lost two babies, and have had broken bones, but the periods that I suffered as a teenager were in memory some of the worst pain I've ever suffered.

If the girl's pains were anything like mine, the friend would have had little choice over what to do. It being someone else's child, I'm sure it would have been very alarming.

peachyprice

Bangton wrote: »

The friend's mother surely wouldn't have known they were going to prescribe the pill for the heavy periods. Why flame her for something the doctor felt was the right thing to do?

Would you also be mad then if the mother had taken the daughter to the docs and merely been given pain relief..or would you view her as responsible for checking the health and wellbeing of a young girl with awful periods

It's a period, something that happens with regularity, not something that needed immediate medical intervention.

In the circumstances the usual thing to do with someone elses daughter who was staying with you would be to make sure you had plenty of sanitry towels/tampons, some big knickers, paracetamol and hot water bottles. All she needed to do was make sure the girl was comfortable and clean, taking her to the doctors wasn't going to achieve anything different, the pill isn't an instant cure for heavy periods.

Mojisola

mrcow wrote: »

If the girl's pains were anything like mine, the friend would have had little choice over what to do. It being someone else's child, I'm sure it would have been very alarming.

So wouldn't the first move be to phone the girl's mother?

mrcow

Mojisola wrote: »

So wouldn't the first move be to phone the girl's mother?

You would hope so.

lostinrates

raven83 wrote: »

I think people get very worked up with teens having the pill because they instantly think they are going to be having sex. I was just relieved to get my life back and it meant i didn't have to wear them horrendous pads that were 3 inches think and looked like you had a bulge down below:rotfl:

But this was not a decision that ha to be made immeadiately.

T h, while i would not totally ignore the contraceptive aspect, ( nor tule it out because of that, but these are things i would want to talk to a child about, as part of her growing up ) i would be more upset a long term health plan, as oppod to short term intervention, was made without my input and with a child not having my support.

I thinkhermanmunster must be right.