Mothers day and wivies

Rachie_B

studentphil wrote:

Wife 2 gets on well with her step son and they go on holiday together , go out at weekends and so on which is really good that they can be like a proper family step mum, dad, son 1, dad and step mum's child. So it would be a shame if they all fell out over Mothers day.

why not suggest they MAKE a card & even a little gift for the little ones mum ?! home made from your child is always so much more appreciated than an overpriced card !

then the husband wont have to "buy " anything

sarymclary

I agree with the idea that the dad should take the child to a shop for the son to choose a card for his mum. I really do not feel that this way the 2nd wife can have any ideas about her husband choosing a card with sentimental words from him inside the card. This is about Mother's Day, not Wife's Day (there are anniversaries for that, and I doubt hubby recognises Anniversary 1 anymore - unless he truly has a deathwish!).

I was wondering, since this is Wife 2's 2nd mother's day, how hubby tackled it last year? He needs to make a decision now that sets a precedent, otherwise he'll have the same dilemma again next year, and so on. Eventually, if he provides his son with some pocket money when he's a bit older, it will be the son's own money, if you will, that buys his mum's presents. Just because his mum and dad aren't together anymore shouldn't deprive this little 3 year old of the same rights to buy him mum a card like most other kids do. This is about the child, not the parents.

That said, my 4 boys don't have a daddy anymore , so it's down to me to give them the cash to go out and buy me something whenever occasions like this come around (they never remember to save any pocket money). So, as self-serving as it might sound, sometimes us mums (and single dads too for that matter) have to buy our own gifts ultimately anyway. My 2 youngest boys did do homemade valentines for me this year though, which of course I will treasure forever.:smileyhea

studentphil

sarymclary wrote:

I agree with the idea that the dad should take the child to a shop for the son to choose a card for his mum. I really do not feel that this way the 2nd wife can have any ideas about her husband choosing a card with sentimental words from him inside the card. This is about Mother's Day, not Wife's Day (there are anniversaries for that, and I doubt hubby recognises Anniversary 1 anymore - unless he truly has a deathwish!).

I was wondering, since this is Wife 2's 2nd mother's day, how hubby tackled it last year? He needs to make a decision now that sets a precedent, otherwise he'll have the same dilemma again next year, and so on. Eventually, if he provides his son with some pocket money when he's a bit older, it will be the son's own money, if you will, that buys his mum's presents. Just because his mum and dad aren't together anymore shouldn't deprive this little 3 year old of the same rights to buy him mum a card like most other kids do. This is about the child, not the parents.

That said, my 4 boys don't have a daddy anymore , so it's down to me to give them the cash to go out and buy me something whenever occasions like this come around (they never remember to save any pocket money). So, as self-serving as it might sound, sometimes us mums (and single dads too for that matter) have to buy our own gifts ultimately anyway. My 2 youngest boys did do homemade valentines for me this year though, which of course I will treasure forever.:smileyhea

That is very sweet of your sons

I think last year wife 2 with a few week old baby did not care when he did as she was too busy I would assume.

Zoetoes

It's the little boy who would be upset if he can't give his mum something on Mothers Day.

The dad shouldn't give in to his 2nd wife, he had the little boy before he got with her and he should come first.

If she just doesn't like the idea of him picking something then he should take the little boy to pick.

little_miss_thrifty

Why doesn't the little boy make a card, then it is totally from him to his mum and the dad hasn't had a hand in it in anyway, hence keeping the 2nd wife happy (phew!?)

anguk

Becles wrote:

I've always helped my boys buy my ex gifts for Fathers Day, Christmas and his birthday.

He has never bought anything on behalf of them for me though. Not even a card.

And that is, in my opinion, what makes you the better person.

victory

little_miss_thrifty wrote:

Why doesn't the little boy make a card, then it is totally from him to his mum and the dad hasn't had a hand in it in anyway, hence keeping the 2nd wife happy (phew!?)

Yes absolutely, surely if he is at nursery/school he can make one on his own that makes it all the nicer?

studentphil

victory wrote:

Yes absolutely, surely if he is at nursery/school he can make one on his own that makes it all the nicer?

He does go to nursery some days. They might make one there I guess.

victory

studentphil wrote:

He does go to nursery some days. They might make one there I guess.

They do:D or they make paper mache daffodils, or a hand print but they will make something:D

studentphil

victory wrote:

They do:D or they make paper mache daffodils, or a hand print but they will make something:D

Long time since I was 3 years old you see. I can not remember.