Mothers day and wivies

studentphil

mountainofdebt wrote:

Of course what the dad could do is go shopping with the 3 year old and give the money to the child to give to the cashier so theoretically the child will have bought the card & pressie

That is a smart idea.

Dumbledore55

mountainofdebt wrote:

Of course what the dad could do is go shopping with the 3 year old and give the money to the child to give to the cashier so theoretically the child will have bought the card & pressie

Exactly what I was going to say. Give the child some pocket money and help him choose 2 cards 0ne for his mum and one for his step mum. My son always gets his step mum a Mother's Day Card - I don't care whether it says Mum, Step-Mum or Someone Special because nothing can change the fact I'm his real Mum. I like the fact he gets on well with his Step Mum otherwise his life could be pretty miserable when staying at his dad's.

In fact, I think it's his step mum that helps him get the card and present for me.

studentphil

Wife 2 gets on well with her step son and they go on holiday together , go out at weekends and so on which is really good that they can be like a proper family step mum, dad, son 1, dad and step mum's child. So it would be a shame if they all fell out over Mothers day.

Dumbledore55

Perhaps dad could ask Wife2 to help son buy card for Wife1 - that way she gets to choose the words and knows he hasn't.

studentphil

Dumbledore55 wrote:

Perhaps dad could ask Wife2 to help son buy card for Wife1 - that way she gets to choose the words and knows he hasn't.

That is a good idea!!

mountainofdebt

Another thought has occured to me - does the son go to nursery or something similar where a card might be made anyway?

Jay-Jay_4

My ex husband buys me stuff 'from' our daughter. I buy him stuff 'from' my daughter. If we didn't do this who would be upset?? I wouldn't be upset not to receive anything 'from' my daughter but my daughter would be VERY upset if she couldn't give me a card and a gift.

Even when my ex and I were dragging each other through the courts we still did this for the sake of our daughter.

Becles

I've always helped my boys buy my ex gifts for Fathers Day, Christmas and his birthday.

He has never bought anything on behalf of them for me though. Not even a card.

shellsuit

Becles wrote:

I've always helped my boys buy my ex gifts for Fathers Day, Christmas and his birthday.

He has never bought anything on behalf of them for me though. Not even a card.

The kids Dad moved in with his GF in October, I didn't get a Christmas or birthday card from the kids (which he normally would have bought), THEN the cheeky sod asked me to get his Mum a birthday card from the kids 2 weeks ago!

I still bought a card for him from the kids and I even wrote a card out to him and his GF from me.

I don't ask him to buy my family cards from the kids so why should he ask me to buy his family cards from the kids?

I probably won't get a Mothers day card this year unless I give the kids money to buy me one ~ kids Dads GF won't let him buy me one :rolleyes:

bunty109

I think the idea of getting the step-mum card too is good.

Personally, I would sit wife 2 down and ask her how she would feel if she didn't get a card on Mother's Day from her child because another woman wouldn't let her have one.

She's obviously insecure, but this is a 3 year old child we are talking about and she needs to think about him rather than herself! Saying she treats him as her own son is one thing, but to tell the dad not to buy the mum a card is not practising what she preaches!