leaving children for 6 months

emsywoo123

Kimberley82 wrote: »

would you leave an 8 and 9 year old with their very loving and capable father for 6 moths to take a dream job?

This man who hit you in October of last year?

No.

CL

No way. I have 6 nieces and nephews who are 8 or 9 years old and they get very, very upset when their parents go on holiday without them. They get very reserved and cry at the slightest thing. I would hate to see them after 6 months.

Your husband may be supportive, but I honestly think it could be the beginning of the end for a lot of marriages.

If it's worth losing your marriage and causing your children to have abandonment issues, then knock yourself out.

VfM4meplse

Kimberley82 wrote: »

I find it very insulting you think I would jump into bed with someone like that

I don't know you, but I've been on enough cruises to know that everyone, yes everyone, ends up having a relationship on board. It's almost an inevitable consequence of working and living in that environment, internet access onboard is v expensive and you'll soon find your life on board separated from what's going on at home. Salon staff usually hook up with the personal trainers because of their close working proximity.

Besides which, there's no prestige in styling the hair of obese middle-aged to elderly women.

claire16c

Kimberley82 wrote: »

Its a big step up from where I am now, and if I manage the salon well could well get me into a top salon back home

Ah ok so it would be essentially for a promotion? Well thats a good reason to do it then.

But still.. your kids... I dont know.

I think if it was me Id just work my way up and stay at home.

I mean if you dont take this job - it doesnt mean you cant get into a top salon, ever, right? So for me that would be the deciding factor.

Welshwoofs

VfM4meplse wrote: »

I don't know you, but I've been on enough cruises to know that everyone, yes everyone, ends up having a relationship on board.

Really? That's odd because I also know a few people who've worked on cruises and none of them had a relationship with people on board. And what about all those people in the Navy who spend months and months at sea - you think they all hop into bed with other people too?

Salon staff usually hook up with the personal trainers because of their close working proximity.

Jeez....it's been at least 3 days since I read as big a pile of bullshyte as this...and that was from a guy who thought Synchronised foresaw his own death in the Grand National :rotfl::rotfl:

mrcow

OP - is the job offer actually in writing, or are you at considering an application stage?

If the latter, then just apply for it.

Speaking as a Mum of 3, I have to say that if my partner was offered a position that meant as much to him as this job seems to you, I'd be kicking him out of the door to go. You need to live your life with the decisions you feel are best. Others will have different opinions and many just won't understand how something like this could be so important in comparison to the overwhelming desire to always "be there" for their kids.

Have you spoken with your children about this? 6 months is not a long time in the big scheme of things, but if something important happens whilst you're away, you need to accept that you won't/can't be there for them. That's the clincher that would stop me. 6 months with no chance of contact is simply too long.

suki1001

What exactly career wise would you gain from being on a cruise ship as opposed to doing the same position on shore?

Is this really about a career opportunity, or the experience of being on a cruise ship? I suspect it's about both. In which case, why do you feel the need to do this? If I was given the opportunity, I think I'd have to turn it down, not just because I would miss my children too much, but because chosing a lifestyle like living on a cruise ship makes it almost seem you're not happy at home. As there are opportunities on land that would be career progressing, I can't see why you would need to go on a cruiseship unless you're searching for something else. Are you being completely honest about the career opportunity or are you looking for something else?

For most parents I think they would struggle to leave their children. Remember people in the services etc, don't have a choice.

Lunar_Eclipse

Kimberley82 wrote: »

would you leave an 8 and 9 year old with their very loving and capable father for 6 moths to take a dream job?

My initial reaction was no way, on the basis that there isn't a job in the world that is more important than my role as a parent. (And I have the same view of men doing it too.)

But then I wondered if I'd feel differently if I was paid £1m (or more) during that 6 months and realised I would give it serious consideration. So because my children come way above any job ever could, it would depend on whether the sacrifice was worth it to us a family in the longer term.

If running a hair salon on a cruise ship is really your dream job, could you make it happen, for the whole family? (Homeschooling.) Or plan for it later when they leave home? In all honesty it's not really a job that justifies leaving your children for 6 months is it?

pollys

It wouldn't be for me. I would miss my children and husband far too much.

Kimberley82

suki1001 wrote: »

What exactly career wise would you gain from being on a cruise ship as opposed to doing the same position on shore?

Is this really about a career opportunity, or the experience of being on a cruise ship? I suspect it's about both. In which case, why do you feel the need to do this? If I was given the opportunity, I think I'd have to turn it down, not just because I would miss my children too much, but because chosing a lifestyle like living on a cruise ship makes it almost seem you're not happy at home. As there are opportunities on land that would be career progressing, I can't see why you would need to go on a cruiseship unless you're searching for something else. Are you being completely honest about the career opportunity or are you looking for something else?

For most parents I think they would struggle to leave their children. Remember people in the services etc, don't have a choice.

I am under no illusions that it will not be a fun glamorous job, I know I could end up working more than 12 hours a day, its not for the life style,

I havnt been offered such a good opertunity on land

I love my family and my marriages is at the best its ever been, yes we have had problems in the past and have been having a lot of counselling I am not running away from my family.