leaving children for 6 months

Kimberley82

affordmylife wrote: »

you must follow your heart of course. but with all due respect it is hairdressing. hardly worth not seeing your young children for 6 months in my book. in fact im struggling to think of anything that would be a dream job that would make me give that up. xx

So what job would be worth it?

Hairdressing is my passion

msb5262

Hi OP,

I've got to say, I wouldn't do this.

Six months to children of that age is a lifetime and could have a lasting impact on your relationship with your children, not to mention your OH.

Obviously the children would be "ok" but they would miss you hugely; your OH would effectively be a single parent for six months and I really think unless it's a matter of life and death, it can only have negative effects on families to be separated for such a long period.

Some posters here think that it's generally acceptable for dads to be away for months on end due to work commitments, but I'd disagree - people in the services find it very hard to be away from home and their families, and very few people would think it actually beneficial for parents to be away from their children for extended periods.

Yes the children would survive, but is that what you want for them? Children whose parents are in hospital/in prison go through a grieving process even when they are able to see their parent on a regular basis; I am concerned that you aren't really aware of the impact your absence would have on them.

Sorry to be a wet blanket, but if you choose to do this it will be for your own benefit and decidedly not to the advantage of your family. It really isn't that long until your children will be grown up and gone - in the blink of an eye, you'll find that their childhood is over!

Could you persuade the company to let you have a trial period of perhaps 2-4 weeks, then have a long talk with your OH and the children about your ambition to do a longer contract? This would probably be the most positive way to approach the whole thing.

I'm sorry - this is obviously not what you want to hear but you asked for opinions!

All the best, whatever your decide

MsB

mountainofdebt

!!!!!!

Posted a long reply and then it disappeared.

OP from your replies I don't think it matters what our opinion is - it sounds as if you want to do this so you'll end up doing it.

For the record I would be might naffed off if OH decided that he was going to do something similar - and using the argument of people that are in the forces do 6 months tour is daft.....I bet many people go into relationships, and subsequently have children, with people who are already in the armed forces so they know what they are letting themselves in for .......I would hazard a guess those who enlist whilst being in a relationship / have children either don't stay in the armed forces for long or the relationship doesn't last.

Why is this such a good opportunity anyway?

emsywoo123

Reading this thread OP, I would say you have decided to go and are perhaps looking for validation?

emsywoo123

LOL @ Mountain of Debt, same thoughts, cross posted!

claire16c

Kimberley82 wrote: »

I would have very limited time off, even if they came to meet me I would not be able to spend much time with them.

So are you going for the job then as opposed to the travelling benefits - as I suspect many staff on cruise ships dont actually get to see all that much off the ship anyway.

And if so, is it really that good a job? Unless the wages are huge, how much better would it really be than being a head stylist in a normal salon? I guess that would be one of the main points if it was me deciding.

Why would you never get the chance again? Surely you could apply for the same thing in a years time when your kids are older.

Was there a reason why you never did a job like this before you had kids?

For me it would have to be something really incredible to consider it. And I hate working away from home so personally I couldnt do it.

Kimberley82

claire16c wrote: »

So are you going for the job then as opposed to the travelling benefits - as I suspect many staff on cruise ships dont actually get to see all that much off the ship anyway.

And if so, is it really that good a job? Unless the wages are huge, how much better would it really be than being a head stylist in a normal salon? I guess that would be one of the main points if it was me deciding.

Why would you never get the chance again? Surely you could apply for the same thing in a years time when your kids are older.

Was there a reason why you never did a job like this before you had kids?

For me it would have to be something really incredible to consider it. And I hate working away from home so personally I couldnt do it.

Yes its for the job, and then the opertinities I would get after.

I never had the oppertunity to do it before I had children.

Im not saying I couldnt do it in the future but there is no garentees

Kimberley82

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Reading this thread OP, I would say you have decided to go and are perhaps looking for validation?

No i havnt made my mind up

coffeemonster*123

my children and husband have been my passion

Kimberley82

coffeemonster*123 wrote: »

my children and husband have been my passion

good for you, but I have more in my life than just my husband and children