leaving children for 6 months

emsywoo123

Kimberley82 wrote: »

No i havnt made my mind up

But for everyone that is saying no, you are putting forward the opposing case?

claire16c

What exactly would the opportunities be after, that you dont have now?

Say for example, you were to work at a prestigious salon in the UK instead - how would that differ?

Surely if you are good at your job - then you could do this job anytime? And by saying that Im not saying you arent - you just come across as a bit pessismistic perhaps?

VfM4meplse

Kimberley82 wrote: »

6 month contract on a cruise ship as head stylist

I've only read up until this post but would strongly advise against it.

Cruise ship culture is quite different from real life, and it's not as glamorous as it may seem. Either you'll end up having an affair with another member of staff on board, or enjoy the lifestyle so much you'll jump at the chance of future contracts, or possibly both! Either way I think it's going to put your marriage at risk.

In your position I would try again when the kids are grown up, if your heart really is set on it. Otherwise you seriously risk your future as a family unit.

emsywoo123

Kimberley82 wrote: »

good for you, but I have more in my life than just my husband and children

Then go!!!

Kimberley82

claire16c wrote: »

What exactly would the opportunities be after, that you dont have now?

Say for example, you were to work at a prestigious salon in the UK instead - how would that differ?

Surely if you are good at your job - then you could do this job anytime? And by saying that Im not saying you arent - you just come across as a bit pessismistic perhaps?

Its a big step up from where I am now, and if I manage the salon well could well get me into a top salon back home

Kimberley82

VfM4meplse wrote: »

I've only read up until this post but would strongly advise against it.

Cruise ship culture is quite different from real life, and it's not as glamorous as it may seem. Either you'll end up having an affair with another member of staff on board, or enjoy the lifestyle so much you'll jump at the chance of future contracts, or possibly both! Either way I think it's going to put your marriage at risk.

In your position I would try again when the kids are grown up, if your heart really is set on it. Otherwise you seriously risk your future as a family unit.

I find it very insulting you think I would jump into bed with someone like that

peachyprice

I could do it, I'd miss them, but not unbearably so. It's not like you wouldn't be in contact with them for 6 months.

But I wouldn't because I know my daughter would be totally distraught, the boys not so but they're that much older.

It really depends on YOUR children, and how they will cope, nobody can make that call other than you.

ognum

coffeemonster*123 wrote: »

my children and husband have been my passion

This worries me much more than the OP planning to leave her well adjusted children with a supportive husband.

To me it feels stifling for the children. We all need passions that are not our family

ognum

VfM4meplse wrote: »

I've only read up until this post but would strongly advise against it.

Cruise ship culture is quite different from real life, and it's not as glamorous as it may seem. Either you'll end up having an affair with another member of staff on board, or enjoy the lifestyle so much you'll jump at the chance of future contracts, or possibly both! Either way I think it's going to put your marriage at risk.

In your position I would try again when the kids are grown up, if your heart really is set on it. Otherwise you seriously risk your future as a family unit.

You know this how exactly, from reading the tabloids or watching reality TV

Welshwoofs

Op - go for it!

Despite the 'it's only hairdressing' replies, it's a fact that it's ruddy hard to get a decent job on a cruise liner. I have a friend from school who did just what you are contemplating. She was single though so spent longer away (a few years). The money is pretty good but it's the tips that really push it up and in hairdressing it's very good on the CV. My friend now has her own salon and is thriving.

It is not a huge amount of time and if you have a solid marriage it could well be doable (only you know that) and these days with video conferencing you will all see each other. If you send them little things from each place you stop then it also becomes an adventure for them and an education.

I don't see any downsides personally - if you feel you can do it, screw what anyone else thinks and whether they'll look down on you - just go for it girl! The one thing you don't want to do is sit there on the day your children are adults and fly the nest and have a list of regrets.