leaving children for 6 months

ognum

I am going to go against the flow here and say that I think you should do it if your really want to.

I am saddened that some people here believe a head stylist on a cruise ship is not a career worth progressing. If it will give you a step up in your career then it is important.

You know your children and your husband, I am sure you would not even consider it if you felt it would be detrimental to your children. I believe it is important for our children to understand that work is an important part of life and perusing your career is for them as well as for you.

My belief has always been that children should be given 'roots and wings' we should not hold them back with our needs and the same applies to parents. You will give them emotional strength and an understanding that love and understanding doesn't just have to be here and now but also from a distance. Think of all the interesting things you will have to talk with the about.

Talk with them about how you feel and ask how they feel. Sometimes we need to do something for ourselves and loving ourselves is part of loving others.

Have fun!

lostinrates

Both my parents did it, sometimes at the same time (boarding school, family friends for exeats) the difference was i went to them most half terms and holidays.

I would wonder how much improvement it would be on you cv, and if the financial aspect merited it. If they were able to visit places you would be on days you could visit (e.g. If it were a european/med cruise and they could go with dad for a weekend break on a day you will get to shore somewhere) it might break it up for them.

Also, skype, regular calls.

I would say i think it can be an immense strain, that fairly or not it potentially will be used against you by cross angry kids later in their teens, or by a partner at a low point; even if they do not really mean it.

Spendless

Would the opportunity still be there 10 years from now, when they are working/at college/Uni? Will you have a job to return to once the cruise ship contract was up? Will Dad manage the logistics of him working f-time and childcare without you there to help? I know you've posted before about childcare arrangements and shift work and the kids accompanying you to work. These are all things I'd be taking into consideration as well as could I leave them for 6 months to work.

Kimberley82

an9i77 wrote: »

Can't you wait til they are older, like teenagers, then do something like this?

I might never get this chance again

lostinrates

an9i77 wrote: »

Can't you wait til they are older, like teenagers, then do something like this?

Hmm, i think i found it harder when my parents were away when i was a teen than when i was younger, personally. Copable in both situations, but easier when younger.

Kimberley82

Spendless wrote: »

Would the opportunity still be there 10 years from now, when they are working/at college/Uni? Will you have a job to return to once the cruise ship contract was up? Will Dad manage the logistics of him working f-time and childcare without you there to help? I know you've posted before about childcare arrangements and shift work and the kids accompanying you to work. These are all things I'd be taking into consideration as well as could I leave them for 6 months to work.

I dont know if I could still do this in 10 years time

Yes I will have a job to return to

Our child care and work situations are very different now

GracieP

balletshoes wrote: »

you're right, if it were your husband no-one would bat an eye, and if you really want to do it and think you can do it, then go for it.

Sorry but that's a complete crock. I know a large number of men who do this and so many people talk about them behind their back about what a shame it is for their children. And these are men who earn big, big money so there is at least a massive financial benefit to their children.

ognum

how many people would be saying don't do it if it was the male member of a partnership.

Men go to oil rigs, forces, merchant navy, trekking etc etc. Are you all saying they shouldn't?

as long as they have good Dad with them they will be fine, it's not like you are not going to be talking with them plus SKype etc

Kimberley82

GracieP wrote: »

Sorry but that's a complete crock. I know a large number of men who do this and so many people talk about them behind their back about what a shame it is for their children. And these are men who earn big, big money so there is at least a massive financial benefit to their children.

I ahve never heard anyone talking badly of men who do it, my dad did, I never felt abandoned or felt bad about it.

ognum

GracieP wrote: »

Sorry but that's a complete crock. I know a large number of men who do this and so many people talk about them behind their back about what a shame it is for their children. And these are men who earn big, big money so there is at least a massive financial benefit to their children.

But life is not just about financial benifits it's about fulfilling your life in a way you choose. 6 months away is a small part and will give endless experience and things to talk to children about