leaving children for 6 months

ognum

Kimberley82 wrote: »

I might never get this chance again

No you may not and you should emabrace your chances in life. it creates a positive role model for your children.

Spendless

Would you get time off during that 6 months, I mean a week or 2's break not just odd days off? Will the job run over some school hols when they all could visit? I think I might be more inclined to do it if I was seeing them at least at some point over the 6 months away, than if I was departing 1st May and wouldn't see them in RL again till 1st Nov for example.

Kimberley82

Spendless wrote: »

Would you get time off during that 6 months, I mean a week or 2's break not just odd days off? Will the job run over some school hols when they all could visit? I think I might be more inclined to do it if I was seeing them at least at some point over the 6 months away, than if I was departing 1st May and wouldn't see them in RL again till 1st Nov for example.

I would have very limited time off, even if they came to meet me I would not be able to spend much time with them.

lostinrates

Kimberley82 wrote: »

I ahve never heard anyone talking badly of men who do it, my dad did, I never felt abandoned or felt bad about it.

I think it is to the benefit their is family precedent. That means it is acdepted withing ypur immeadiate unit.

That doesn't mean people beyond that think well of it, they often don't. But we all have different priorities and acheive ends in different ways. In my family having time away in school etc seems to have benefitted us emotionally, while for others it is crippling. What works for you family might not be something universally approved of. And so what? If the family unit are in favour and functional that is really what matters.

moomoomama27

No way, no job in the world would be good enough for me to leave my babies for 6 months solid, and even if it were appealing or a dream, I wouldn't, because my children come first, and their best interests are by far more important than mine at this point. It would be wonderful, but 6 months is a very long time with no contact. I think personally it could have a detrimental effect, even if it's not immediatley apparent. But that's just my opinion, based on my feelings. I struggle to be without my children (who are 14, 9 and 7) for more than 24 hours!

affordmylife

you must follow your heart of course. but with all due respect it is hairdressing. hardly worth not seeing your young children for 6 months in my book. in fact im struggling to think of anything that would be a dream job that would make me give that up. xx

Kimberley82

2sides2everystory wrote: »

Doesn't sound like much of a chance. Some Cruise ships are just floating Butlins aren't they??

If the gig was actually onboard "The World" I might say there was something a bit special about it ...

I am not going to mention which company but I know someone else who has worked for them and it has opened many doors for them when they got back.

FBaby

In the end, your heart will tell you if you should do it or not. There is a big difference between considering such a decision and actually going for it. If you do, it is because you will feel capable of it, and if you are, it most likely means all will be ok. If not, then I'm sure with some notice, you will be able to come home much sooner.

becominganobsessivesaver

I used to have a job where I worked long hours (left the house at 6am back at 11pm and worked from home at weekends). After DD was born i got a new job where working away was the norm, but generally I got my weekends. If I didn't have those weekends to look forward to I would have found it so hard to be away (i was away 26 weeks at least last year). Don't underestimate how hard it is to be away. Working in the UK means I can get home if I need within 4 hours (for example when DD got chicken pox and needed a cuddle from Mummy), but if I was on a cruise ship in the middle of the Pacific it could have taken up to a week to get back - think about how you would feel in that scenario. I will definitely have to work away again, and would proactively seek this to further my career, but I could never go long periods without seeing them.

londonsurrey

Even given the perfect independent children and perfect supportive husband, I'm more inclined to wonder if you're ready for it.

This is because you are worrying if "people will look down on you". The fact of the matter is there will always be people who always look down at you. They will look down at you for going, for staying, for having standard children, for being a hairdresser, for not being a supermodel, etc.

This applies for all of us, and you have to have the courage of your convictions when doing things, not wondering what the invisible neighbours think.