leaving children for 6 months

meritaten

you would be hairdresser on a cruise ship - and this is a 'fantastic' job? yeah - a fantastic job for a single person. If you want to go - then go - but dont expect your family to not have their own lives while you are gone. and you may not be welcomed back with open arms. Things change when people leave hun. be prepared for that.

Welshwoofs

VfM4meplse wrote: »

You're always so quick to assert your opinion on others. Perhaps you should reserve judgement until you've been in that environment yourself. What goes on at sea, stays at sea. No-one's going to brag about it when they get back to the reality of life.

You happily proclaim that everyone who goes to work on a cruise ends up in a relationship with someone else on board - the implication there being that she'll be unfaithful because, once on board, she'll be part of your sweeping 'everyone' won't she. You then pose an utterly preposterous point that it'll more than likely be the personal trainer...because they're nearby.

You may think you've just dropped absolute pearls of wisdom on the op but what you've actually done is insult her with an assumption that she's not going to be able to keep her knickers on once she's on board....oh and given me a good laugh and a mental tick in my '2nd best in Dumb Posting of the Week Award'

And yes, I am quick to assert my opinion...and my opinion is that YOU should reserve judgement about the bloody faithfulness of someone you wouldn't recognise if you walked past them on the street!

Tiddlywinks

Kimberley82 wrote: »

Would be a very good thing to have on my cv, I dont feel they children would suffer long term for it, yes they would miss me but they wouldnt be alone

You are not showing any empathy for how your children might feel for that 6 months when you are not there. But, of course, that won't be your problem as you won't have to deal with that.

Kimberley82 wrote: »

Yes things were bad, but have hugely improved, my son has come on very much and both our working lives have changed. My children were not aware of our marriage problems and while the will miss me i dont belive it will be damaging, it will not be for another 3 months until the start date

Children are remarkably perceptive to troubles between parents, was it only coincidence that he had difficulties at the same time that you had marital problems? I think you are choosing only to see things from an angle designed to support a decision to leave rather than considering others.

Importantly, your son had some difficulties recently, do you really think he needs unnecessary change?

Kimberley82

meritaten wrote: »

you would be hairdresser on a cruise ship - and this is a 'fantastic' job? yeah - a fantastic job for a single person. If you want to go - then go - but dont expect your family to not have their own lives while you are gone. and you may not be welcomed back with open arms. Things change when people leave hun. be prepared for that.

well considering I was still waiting for my husband when he worked away for long periods I am certain he will do the same for me.

CruisingSaver

Kimberley82 wrote: »

Yes I am sure I have it in writting

Good. If it's something you feel you have to do and you've got the support of your husband and children, then go for it.

Will you be working for a cruise line that sails out of the UK? If so, then your husband and kids can always come down to see you on turnaround days.

Good luck OP I hope it turns out to be everything you hope for.

Kimberley82

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

You are not showing any empathy for how your children might feel for that 6 months when you are not there. But, of course, that won't be your problem as you won't have to deal with that.



Children are remarkably perceptive to troubles between parents, was it only coincidence that he had difficulties at the same time that you had marital problems? I think you are choosing only to see things from an angle designed to support a decision to leave rather than considering others.

Importantly, your son had some difficulties recently, do you really think he needs unnecessary change?

I am fully aware it will be hard for them, its something I have been discussing at great lengths with my husband

moomoomama27

meritaten wrote: »

you would be hairdresser on a cruise ship - and this is a 'fantastic' job? yeah - a fantastic job for a single person. If you want to go - then go - but dont expect your family to not have their own lives while you are gone. and you may not be welcomed back with open arms. Things change when people leave hun. be prepared for that.

I totally agree with this.

I wouldn't be so sure that it won't damage the children. I worked in a school , and there was a family one of the parents decided to take a 4 month contract away from the family, it was a disaster and the child was so distressed, a totally different child to when the family were together, it was as traumatic as a breakdown of a family unit. The child was so confused and angry, his schoolwork suffered and his behaviour went downhill, he felt rejectedm second best and it was very upsetting to witness.

It's a lot more complex than missing Mummy, it's a whole new lifestyle for them to adjust to.

emsywoo123

Kimberley82 wrote: »

I am fully aware it will be hard for them,

And you are still considering going? You were having "troubles" 6 months ago, your son was having academic difficulties, you are aware it would be hard for the children, yet you still want to bu99er off for 6 months?

Tiddlywinks

Kimberley82 wrote: »

I am fully aware it will be hard for them, its something I have been discussing at great lengths with my husband

So, then you have to choose between what is best for your family and what is best for you alone.

If you choose yourself then your children will be upset, may have setbacks at school and you and your OH will not be able to build on you newly fixed relationship. But your CV may be enhanced by your leaving them for a job.

If you choose your family, you will only negatively impact on your career.

I know which I would choose.

scooterpig

I think this sounds like a great opportunity for you and you should go for it. You obviously enjoy what you do, which is great, and if you can do something that's going to open up things for for you in the future, you should absolutely go for it.

I find it astonishing that people are talking down because it's hairdressing. The world benefits more from hairdressers, restaurant staff, binmen etc than it does from many lawyers, accountants, bankers etc (and I say that as one whose whole career has been in one of those professions).

As for the children, they're not tiny, they can understand and you'll be back before they know it. Many kids - I was one- have to cope with a parent working away. They just get on with it and it certainly doesn't d them any harm.