leaving children for 6 months

euronorris

Firstly, please forgive me if I repeat myself, but I don't have the time to read all 19 pages.

Kimberley - this is a big decision for you and your family. It doesn't matter what we, or anyone else thinks. What matters is you and your family.

On that basis, I would suggest making a list of pros and cons for how it will affect you, how it will affect your husband, and how it will affect your children.

Then you can consider what, if anything, can be done to lessen the con's in each case and weigh up if the pro's outweigh the cons or vice versa.

I'm not sure if it has been mentioned before, but I'd also consider how your husband will cope if the children are ill and need to be looked after at home. Will he be able to take parental leave, or work from home. Will he find it too stressful. Don't forget, he will essentially be a single dad, day-to-day, whilst you are away and that will be a big change for him. Are you sure he will handle the transition well? Is he?

jellyhead

Kimberley82 wrote: »

it will not be for another 3 months until the start date

Will you miss christmas? or any of their birthdays? Sorry if that's already been asked, I haven't finished reading the thread yet.

jellyhead

crusty_toenail wrote: »

Put your family first. No one is more qualified to look after your children than you.

You should stay at home and work on sorting out your marriage and be there for your children.

Get your priorities straightened out or you will end up with no husband and children who will want nothing to do with you when they are old enough to realise how selfish you were.

I'm sure it's been said already but I don't agree. Her husband is just as qualified to look after them. If they are not breastfeeding then he can do everything that she can, surely?

Marisco

jellyhead wrote: »

I'm sure it's been said already but I don't agree. Her husband is just as qualified to look after them. If they are not breastfeeding then he can do everything that she can, surely?

It has jelly, I said it! I just cannot understand these women who seem to think that fathers are not as, if not more, capable of looking after kids as they are! Maybe they are afraid that when they complain of it being "very hard work" that if men do it they'll suss it's not as hard as they are being told it is!

Welshwoofs

quantumleap wrote: »

Just out of curiosity, (and I'm being genuine here) when did this thread become about boarding school? Have I missed something in the OP's post? (I may have as I've just skimmed the last few pages)

Because a list of instances were given where parents are away from their children - including such things as parents working abroad or children going to boarding school. There was then a few comments from people saying they couldn't understand how parents could send their children away to boarding school anyway. So I'm answering why people do (and why I would).

euronorris

Marisco wrote: »

It has jelly, I said it! I just cannot understand these women who seem to think that fathers are not as, if not more, capable of looking after kids as they are! Maybe they are afraid that when they complain of it being "very hard work" that if men do it they'll suss it's not as hard as they are being told it is!

Or, it could be based on their experiences with their own husbands interaction with the kids. If their hubbies find it challenging to remain calm, or don't keep track of the kids schedules (with clubs, after school activities etc), etc etc then it may be hard for them to envisage their husbands being in charge of the kids 24/7. Maybe it just wouldn't work for them. But that, of course, does not mean that it wouldn't work for every family, or that Kimberley's husband wouldn't be able to cope.

Lunar_Eclipse

Gorgeous_But_Grumpy wrote: »

Six months without sex!!! Boy, you must want that job BAD!

I hadn't thought about that ... but you're so right and I'm surprised no-one's mentioned it!

In fact, I think I might find it even harder to leave my husband for 6 months than my children (completely unrelated to sex) because he's very easy going and nice to be around all the time. I probably laugh more with the kids though.

Gigervamp

babymoo wrote: »

According to this thread you have just started a business so why on earth do you want to leave so soon after going into business would it not be better to concentrate on that? I would have this opinion regardless of your chosen career.

I wondered about the business too.

quantumleap

Welshwoofs wrote: »

Because a list of instances were given where parents are away from their children - including such things as parents working abroad or children going to boarding school. There was then a few comments from people saying they couldn't understand how parents could send their children away to boarding school anyway. So I'm answering why people do (and why I would).

Ah, thank you.


I couldn't send my kids to boarding school to be honest, I'd miss them too much! I find it difficult to understand how parents can do it but I do accept that people do have their reasons and I wouldn't dream of questioning them.

shellsuit

I wouldn't even entertain the idea.

I chose to have children and love being a Mum, so I couldn't leave them for 6 months to persue something I want to do. Hopefully I'll have plenty of time to do whatever I want to do in the future.

Saying that though, I have no problem with anyone else doing it, it's just not for me.