leaving children for 6 months

FatVonD

CH27 wrote: »

I think it is a disaster in the making.

I agree, if she's really lucky her husband will still be there waiting for her. If, as I believe, she decides to end her marriage when she gets back her husband will have residency of the children and be living in the house (that's in his name) that she's invested £85k in. She stands to lose a lot more than just her youth.

peachyprice

Kimberley wrote: »

Goodness me why do so many people put their daily lives and personnel buisness on these forums? You must know her more then her neighbours :eek:

Took me a while there to work out that you weren't OP talking about herself in the third person :rotfl::rotfl:

JoeyG

I think rather than listing the pros and cons of going on the ship, the OP should give some idea of her ultimate goal (ie run her own her salon after x number of years), then look at the different ways the goal could be achieved both off and on land, and how the timescales would be need to be adjusted... There are clearly a lot of people reading this thread so potentially a lot of useful feedback.

Of course if the OP is actually more interested in the going on the ship than the ultimate goal then that speaks volumes.

POPPYOSCAR

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Well, I am amazed. I, most of my family, and my daughter go to private (boarding) schools and I have NEVER heard of children only going home in the summer holidays!

I was a 'day girl' at a boarding school and quite a few of the boarders there only went home in the summer holidays

A few were even there at Christmas which I used to feel was really sad.

gingin_2

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I was a 'day girl' at a boarding school and quite a few of the boarders there only went home in the summer holidays

A few were even there at Christmas which I used to feel was really sad.

I was a day girl too but all boarders had to have a guardian in the country, even if it was a paid one. No one was left at school for christmas, everyone went home, or to their guardians for holidays and exeat weekends.



I still think it's a bad idea. Two children are being left at home with a father who was abusive to the mother in the last 6 - 9 months. Apparently it's all rosy now, but I'm afraid that doesn't ring true with me.

Why not just wait until a better time?

StumpyPumpy

Seanymph wrote: »

And I'll say it again. Women have a very different skillset than men when it comes to raising children. Especially young, dependent children who up to recently had their mother as their main carer.

What as totally misandrous comment. Apart from the ability to lactate, women and men possess the same skillsets when it comes to raising children and anything else. Would you be happy to be told that you are not allowed to drive a car because, well, let's face it, women just don't have the same skill set when it comes to operating machinery do they?

Welshwoofs

Seanymph wrote: »

The point though surely is that it isn't the ONLY way that the OP can progress in her career.

Of course - there's always more than one way to skin a cat. However only she will know which is the best path for her and honestly she didn't come asking for career advice, she came asking for opinions on leaving her kids with their Father for 6 months.

Welshwoofs

FatVonD wrote: »

I think he'd have got the same replies had he then said that his idea of career advancement was managing a bar in Ibiza because he knew someone that did that once that then went on to manage a bar at home afterwards though! And had Kimberley been, say, a zoologist wanting to work in tiger conservation in the field for 6 months or a scientist working on AIDS research that had the opportunity for some in-depth study that would put her at the top of her profession I think the answers may have been a little different.

What I'd find interesting is how many of those rubbishing her career choice actually have a career worth a damn themselves

sassyblue

StumpyPumpy wrote: »

What as totally misandrous comment. Apart from the ability to lactate, women and men possess the same skillsets when it comes to raising children and anything else. Would you be happy to be told that you are not allowed to drive a car because, well, let's face it, women just don't have the same skill set when it comes to operating machinery do they?

It's nowhere even close to misandrous. l agree with seanymph, women are instinctive nuturers and are better at understanding children than men are, it's something that is primal. Operating machinery and driving cars is incomparible.

Person_one

Welshwoofs wrote: »

What I'd find interesting is how many of those rubbishing her career choice actually have a career worth a damn themselves

I'm certainly not going to rubbish her career choice, mine is no great shakes and as someone with badly behaved hair I know the value of a good hairdresser!

I would question whether the cruise ship salon is the place to further her career though, I realise there's the management element but wouldn't it mostly be shampoo and sets for little old ladies? The cruising demographic seems to be 65+ for the most part.

All the best hairdressers I've been to further their careers by going on courses at the top academies and entering competitions I think. Getting all those certificates for the wall of the salon!

I have to agree with others who think that, especially considering the OP's posts over the last year or so, this is not really about her career.