leaving children for 6 months

Kimberley82

Person_one wrote: »

Why did you make that decision?

I'm completely serious, I can't get my head round why someone who actually liked their children would do that, unless they were severely disabled perhaps to spare the child carer duties.

in my family it was for the education and experiance, look at the top schools in the country most are bording

cleggie

Northern Princess, you dont need to explain yourself to anyone.

aliasojo

Person_one wrote: »

I'm completely serious, I can't get my head round why someone who actually liked their children would do that, unless they were severely disabled perhaps to spare the child carer duties.

Isn't that a failing on your part though, rather than a failing on the parent in question who chooses a different option to the one you might choose?

I'm not having a dig but just pointing out that parenting and raising a child is not something that comes with a set 'one size fits all' format.

Just because someone cannot understand another's choices, does not lessen the validity of that choice in any way.

Imo.

Person_one

cleggie wrote: »

Northern Princess, you dont need to explain yourself to anyone.

Of course she doesn't need to, I doubt she needed you to tell her that either, however she can if she wants to.

Person_one

aliasojo wrote: »

Isn't that a failing on your part though, rather than a failing on the parent in question who chooses a different option to the one you might choose?

I'm not having a dig but just pointing out that parenting and raising a child is not something that comes with a set 'one size fits all' format.

Just because someone cannot understand another's choices, does not lessen the validity of that choice in any way.

Imo.

Sending your children away is a pretty recent development and only generally done by the wealthy, most people's instinct is to keep their children close and has been for many thousands of years.

I do seriously wonder if some people have children because its 'the done thing' rather than because they truly want them.

lostinrates

Person_one wrote: »

Why did you make that decision?

I'm completely serious, I can't get my head round why someone who actually liked their children would do that, unless they were severely disabled perhaps to spare the child carer duties.

Quality of education and extra curriculars
Type of education perceived appropriate for the child
Family norm
Commitments other than work for a sahp
Fostering qualities that some people believe are important and others do not (as is their right)
Health issues for parent
Geography (i.e. if local education is not available or appropriate)
The experience, particularly if the school is mixed day and boarders, some day pupils want to board.



My eldest neice actually asked to board from the time she was six and my sister relented at eight.

Kimberley82

Person_one wrote: »

Sending your children away is a pretty recent development and only generally done by the wealthy, most people's instinct is to keep their children close and has been for many thousands of years.

I do seriously wonder if some people have children because its 'the done thing' rather than because they truly want them.

what do you class as recent?

withabix

Kimberley82 wrote: »

would you leave an 8 and 9 year old with their very loving and capable father for 6 moths to take a dream job?

Someone else has probably beat me to (or similar) it but....

What has 6 moths getting a dream job got to do with you leaving your husband?

cleggie

PersonOne- how mnay children do you have, and how old are they?...just curious.

coolcait

Seanymph wrote: »

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/7861762.stm

there you go.

The aggressive pursuit of personal success by adults is now the greatest threat to British children, a major independent report on childhood says.


"Children with separate, single or step parents are 50% more likely to fail at school, have low esteem, be unpopular with other children and have behavioural difficulties, anxiety or depression," it argues.
"Child-rearing is one of the most challenging tasks in life and ideally it requires two people," the report concludes.It also suggests that having many more working mothers has contributed to the damage done to children.

TBH, the line "children with separate, single or step parents" is closer to your own situation than it is to the OP's.

That paragraph was preceded by this one:

"It cites research suggesting that three times as many three year olds living with lone parents or a step-parent have behavioural problems compared with those living with married parents."

I note that the report was commissioned by a christian charity - which may explain why they are looking at the issues of 'separate, single and step parents' as opposed to 'married parents'.

Also, the summary of the report suggests that it looked at far wider issues than the parents' marital status.