leaving children for 6 months

anguk

aliasojo wrote: »

Ah, didn't know that. Perhaps most people assume that the terms are similar to normal day schools.

I always thought that too and "normal" state school holiday's seem to be about every 8 weeks?

DKLS

Speaking from experience, my mum did a couple of 9 month runs to the Falklands whilst I was growing, and it hardly tramatised me.
I used to have a weekly if lucky, ship to shore call with her with modern technology it should be much easier.

Kimberley as well as being a mum, don't forget who you are and what your dreams and aspirations, it's all very well for many posters here to sacrifice heir lives at the alter of children, but at what cost?
If this move can give your career a boost and ultimately improve your family units lifestyle, why not, 6 months is nothing.

FatVonD

anguk wrote: »

I always thought that too and "normal" state school holiday's seem to be about every 8 weeks?

Nope, private schools have much longer holidays, though not as long as university, my stepson's girlfriend has broken up for the summer already :eek:

Kimberley82

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Boarding schools generally have shorter terms. Mine were 10 weeks. So *max* 3 months at a time?

You also have the children who only went home for the summer holiday and stayed in school for about 9 months

LadyMorticia

Would you be coming back to see them or would it be literally 6 months without seeing them?

I guess it depends on if you trust their dad too. Kids grow up so quickly that you might "miss" important things and achievements if you were away.

Is this job a "once-in-a-lifetime" thing?

On the other hand, 6 months goes by so quickly, but if it were me (I hate using that line!), I would ask them how they feel about it and to address any fears they have (not that I think you won't.:o).

It's a toughie, but at the end of the day, only you can decide what you feel is best for your family.

ETA: Really sorry if you've answered those questions. I didn't notice that there had been 8 pages of replies.:o

anguk

DKLS wrote: »

Speaking from experience, my mum did a couple of 9 month runs to the Falklands whilst I was growing, and it hardly tramatised me.
I used to have a weekly if lucky, ship to shore call with her with modern technology it should be much easier.

Kimberley as well as being a mum, don't forget who you are and what your dreams and aspirations, it's all very well for many posters here to sacrifice heir lives at the alter of children, but at what cost?
If this move can give your career a boost and ultimately improve your family units lifestyle, why not, 6 months is nothing.

:huh: As far as I'm concerned, at no cost. I never worked when my children were young, my choice, I've never felt like I've sacrificed my life "at the alter of children" for one minute, I've had a very happy and fulfilling life thank you very much. I have my dreams and aspirations, just because I chose to stay home with my kids it doesn't mean I've settled for some sort of substandard life.

And my now grown up kids are emotionally balanced and independent, I haven't clipped their wings or stunted their emotional growth by being home throughout their childhood.

Person_one

robpw2 wrote: »

i just thought , if the kids were in boarding school they would be away for about 5 months and they wouldnt get to skype every night so this is only 1 month more and they get there dad which is a huge bonus

You say that like sending an 8 year old to boarding school is just fine and dandy.

Honestly, I don't understand why some people bother having children, do they know its not compulsory?

aliasojo

anguk wrote: »

.... I've never felt like I've sacrificed my life "at the alter of children" for one minute, I've had a very happy and fulfilling life thank you very much.

I do.

I haven't.

We all have different experiences which is why the OP really can't base her decision on anything we say. :rotfl:

lostinrates

anguk wrote: »

:huh: As far as I'm concerned, at no cost. I never worked when my children were young, my choice, I've never felt like I've sacrificed my life "at the alter of children" for one minute, I've had a very happy and fulfilling life thank you very much. I have my dreams and aspirations, just because I chose to stay home with my kids it doesn't mean I've settled for some sort of substandard life.

And my now grown up kids are emotionally balanced and independent, I haven't clipped their wings or stunted their emotional growth by being home throughout their childhood.

Its a balance. A parent who works away need not emotionally stunt their child, neither need a sahp. But both could!

If we had a child i would be a sahp, dh would work away still, and shock horror, later it would be very likely to board. Poor thing would be scuppered on all counts, with the worst of all worlds.:D

Kimberley82

Person_one wrote: »

You say that like sending an 8 year old to boarding school is just fine and dandy.

Honestly, I don't understand why some people bother having children, do they know its not compulsory?

My grandfather was both sent to boarding school at 8, so were his brothers etc, my father and 3 brothers were not, my granny didnt want them to but they were the only ones from their generation in the family who didnt. None of them felt unloved by their familys and they really enjoyed it.

I didnt go to boarding school till much older and loved it, there were children there who only went home for the summer holidays and i still know a few of them and they are happy adults and have no bad feelings about it. The ones who stayed that long did so because either their parents moved a lot due to work or lived abroad