Strange Request for a wedding?

haras_nosirrah

I have to admit we had the no child rule

In our case it was a financial reason. Our venue held a maximum of 40 people and we counted 22 children among our family alone (of which I have only ever met one of them) so unless we wanted half the guest list to be under 13 we had no choice. Most of the children were the kids of my husbands first cousins - one had 5 children (of which only one was his but the other 4 lived with them) We had to accept that he couldn't come but it was our choice.

Stephb1986_2

Since I last posted on this thread, we've found our venue and booked it a maximum of 60 people over 10 of our guest list is is kids I think we're going to say no kids apart from h2b's sisters kids as they are immediate family where as his cousins kids aren't but it's only because of numbers

It's nothing horrible or anything

System

I've just read the whole thread, and I'm completely gobsmacked. As someone else has said, every time someone posts a story, you think nothing can top that - then along comes someone else with something worse! No facial hair, delaying an operation, having a BMI requirement for the photographs... I'm actually shaking my head in disbelief as I right this!

A dress code is fair enough, I suppose, although thinking back it never occurred to DH or I to include one. I also don't think it's unreasonable to say that children aren't invited, although you have to accept that some people won't be able to attend in that case. We had no choice in the matter, as our guest-list was almost all family, and most were travelling several hours to get there and staying overnight! We would have wanted them there anyway, TBH. As someone said early on in this thread, we wanted to have a celebration with the people we loved, not a pristine, perfect photo-opportunity!

As for the facial hair issue, I'm honestly appalled that anyone would think it was OK to make that demand. Our best man has a full beard and offered to shave it off - I expressly told him not to, as he would have looked so odd without it! If it were me, I wouldn't go. I'd drop a polite note to the bride and groom explaining that OH would prefer to keep his beard, and (much as we'd love to share in your special day) was unwilling to shave it off just for the sake of a single day. They wouldn't be getting a gift, either.

Also, the dress code requirement (#1s, morning attire, lounge suits) is bizarre. Totally agree that it sounds like a Hyacinth Bucket moment.

shellsuit

anguk wrote: »

When my son gets married there isn't going to be any kids at the actual ceremony, not because he doesn't want them there but because it's in a registry office with limited numbers and they'd be bored. But all the kids are coming to the reception afterwards, he's even hiring an ice-cream van for them! Although I suspect the adults will enjoy that more.

They'd be bored for half an hour?

I got married in a registry office, my 3 children were there, youngest wasn't even 2, but he was fine, and we also had my cousins little girl there who was about 8 months old and she was fine too.

If they wanted them there, they'd have them. Little kids can always sit on knees

jellyhead

shellsuit wrote: »

They'd be bored for half an hour?

They have to sit still for longer than that in school assemblies.

I had a fair few kids at my wedding, all aged 5 and under. We provided things for them to do at the reception, but for the wedding bit itself the parents and grandparents managed to keep the kids quiet.

It was a registry office service though - I suppose a church wedding would last longer.

I have 4 wedding invites on my fridge for the coming months and none of them mention any requests. Only 1 of them misses out the children, but that's fair enough because the couple have never met me or my children.

I'm taking my 6 year old to a civil partnership service soon and nobody's worried about his ability to be quiet during the service.

FatVonD

It's not the kids I object to as much as the parents that, once their beloved offspring start whimpering don't get up immediately and take them outside but instead jiggle them about (like it's going to make a difference) while looking apologetic and shushing in a stage whisper and then only get up to walk out once the screaming is in full force. (And don't get me started on kids skating around the dance floor in their socks!) :rotfl:

We didn't have any children apart from ours at our wedding, only one couple didn't come so we took our wedding album round the next time we saw them, that'll learn 'em

System

FatVonD wrote: »

(And don't get me started on kids skating around the dance floor in their socks!)

We had that at our wedding, and I loved their energy! :rotfl: I guess it takes all tastes!

katie1812

Oh my goodness what a ridiculous request!

Bluemeanie_2

Some of the requests on here are funny and ridiculous. The lengths the Bridezillas will go to is very funny.
I didn't have any of this, now Hubby proposed just before Christmas 2010. I rang my Mum to ask her if she and Dad could get a day off in the week as I was ringing for a registry office cancellation and thought she would like to come and we could go for dinner afterwards. She went nuts and turned into MotherofthebrideZilla.

I had a small doo twelve weeks or so later, registry office, 20 people to a posh pub lunch and a night party for 80. All very relaxed and informal. Only thing I did was pick a dress and sort my hair and make up. Mum did and paid for the rest. She wanted the Wedding lol.

His sister still fell out with us both though and still doesn't speak to us. Not seen our nephews in nearly 18 months.

They seem to bring out the worst in people! Which is a crying shame.

I accept all my friends and family appearence for who they are.

Abbafan1972

jellyhead wrote: »

They have to sit still for longer than that in school assemblies.

I had a fair few kids at my wedding, all aged 5 and under. We provided things for them to do at the reception, but for the wedding bit itself the parents and grandparents managed to keep the kids quiet.

It was a registry office service though - I suppose a church wedding would last longer.

I have 4 wedding invites on my fridge for the coming months and none of them mention any requests. Only 1 of them misses out the children, but that's fair enough because the couple have never met me or my children.

I'm taking my 6 year old to a civil partnership service soon and nobody's worried about his ability to be quiet during the service.

I would be wary of taking my kids to a civil partnership (I don't have anything against this personally). Kids have a habit of asking awkward questions at awkward moments, like why 2 men/woman are getting married!