Strange Request for a wedding?

Person_one

Abbafan1972 wrote: »

I would be wary of taking my kids to a civil partnership (I don't have anything against this personally). Kids have a habit of asking awkward questions at awkward moments, like why 2 men/woman are getting married!

That's the most easily avoided 'problem' I've heard in days!

cte1111

Abbafan1972 wrote: »

I would be wary of taking my kids to a civil partnership (I don't have anything against this personally). Kids have a habit of asking awkward questions at awkward moments, like why 2 men/woman are getting married!

Can't say I see that as an awkward question, just a straightforward one. My children know that 2 men or 2 women can get married, it's not some kind of dodgy secret.

I have friends that have partners (including civil partners) of the same sex and it's not an issue with us. I certainly wouldn't want my children growing up feeling that if they or any of their friends were in a same sex relationship that it was somehow 'awkward'.

Abbafan1972

cte1111 wrote: »

Can't say I see that as an awkward question, just a straightforward one. My children know that 2 men or 2 women can get married, it's not some kind of dodgy secret.

I have friends that have partners (including civil partners) of the same sex and it's not an issue with us. I certainly wouldn't want my children growing up feeling that if they or any of their friends were in a same sex relationship that it was somehow 'awkward'.

I guess it's not the questions directly to me or DH, but kids have a habit of saying embarrassing things rather loudly in front of other people and probably said couple as well. Would rather save myself the embarrassment!

Person_one

Abbafan1972 wrote: »

I guess it's not the questions directly to me or DH, but kids have a habit of saying embarrassing things rather loudly in front of other people and probably said couple as well. Would rather save myself the embarrassment!

Don't worry, gay couples know they're gay, they're unlikely to be that bothered by a small child pointing it out.

Just use whatever technique you'd use to keep them quiet during a heterosexual wedding.

Norma_Desmond

Our wedding was 'open' to all our family and friends and included gay and lesbian couples, one transgender gal, doctors, loony artists, a number of old goths and punks, a retired barrister, hippy beardies and a Times journalist......the ONLY thing we stipulated was absolutely no children; we don't have them, don't particularly like them and didn't want their antics (and the doting parents discussing said antics) overshadowing our day.

peachyprice

Abbafan1972 wrote: »

I would be wary of taking my kids to a civil partnership (I don't have anything against this personally). Kids have a habit of asking awkward questions at awkward moments, like why 2 men/woman are getting married!

Firstly why is that an awkward quesdtion and secondly why would a child have any preconcieved idea that it was in the least bit out of the ordinary?

Wilma33

Abbafan1972 wrote: »

I guess it's not the questions directly to me or DH, but kids have a habit of saying embarrassing things rather loudly in front of other people and probably said couple as well. Would rather save myself the embarrassment!

Are you going to keep your children away from pregnant women too, incase they ask her how babies are made?

jellyhead

Kids nowadays know about gay couples and aren't the least bit bothered about it. He knows the men involved and the only comment he has made about the wedding is about the men having the same name, which would get confusing if they both take the same surname after the ceremony.

He's more interested in whether there will be bunk beds in the hotel.

VJsmum

Abbafan1972 wrote: »

I would be wary of taking my kids to a civil partnership (I don't have anything against this personally). Kids have a habit of asking awkward questions at awkward moments, like why 2 men/woman are getting married!

How about "Because they love each other"? When my DD was about 8 or 9 she started saying things about "being gay is wierd" so we took the opportunity to point out that her beloved godfather was gay, the first thing she asked was "Who is he gay with"?:rotfl: As he had a long term partner who she also adored, we just said "Have a guess" to which the answer was "Daddy????" :D

Since then neither of my two have the slightest problem. Although DS did once have an issue with going to the ballet "with the gays" . They (the gays :cool:) were so enchanted with this that they threatened to wear pink tutus when we went :rotfl:

Norma_Desmond wrote: »

Our wedding was 'open' to all our family and friends and included gay and lesbian couples, one transgender gal, doctors, loony artists, a number of old goths and punks, a retired barrister, hippy beardies and a Times journalist......the ONLY thing we stipulated was absolutely no children; we don't have them, don't particularly like them and didn't want their antics (and the doting parents discussing said antics) overshadowing our day.

I so wish I had been there - I'd have left the kids at home! Sounds divine! Seriously, I agree, other people's kids are so boring - apologies for the story above

Mrs.W_2

Abbafan1972 wrote: »

I would be wary of taking my kids to a civil partnership (I don't have anything against this personally). Kids have a habit of asking awkward questions at awkward moments, like why 2 men/woman are getting married!

Ach, so kids ask obvious questions. A little information beforehand goes a long way. Just present the information without drama, and your children will know what's about to happen. Just as you'd do for any new situation for them.

My daughters, 8 and 2, both think the world of Uncle P and Uncle J. The eldest had a few ideas about her Uncles having a baby (when I was carrying her younger sister) but they disappeared after year 3 sex education lessons.

ETA: She did not believe us or her Uncles when we told her they could not spawn, but when her teacher said so, that was gospel. :rotfl: