Strange Request for a wedding?

Gavin83

My only request would be no children. People could wear what they like.

suki1001

Gavin83 wrote: »

My only request would be no children.

I've missed a few weddings because of this request - hasn't bothered me, or offended me, just logistically not been possible.

*Louise*

kiss_me_now9 wrote: »

I have no problem with the fact that when I get married, 'no pure white or black outfits to be worn' will be going on my invites.

Same as I won't have calla lilies in my flowers - in my family they're a flower used solely for funerals. In my family and my head white is for the bride only and solid black outfits are for funerals.

I plan on having ushers ready to turf out anyone who turns up in solid black or white, petty maybe BUT it's MY wedding day and anyone who doesn't understand me well enough to comply with one simple request can sod off.

You would tell your own family to 'sod off' if they didn't comply to your demands?

Wow

I mean I can understand asking nicely that people don't wear a certain thing... but to turf them out is something else.

The sheer self importance and selfishness of some brides to be never ceases to amaze me.

geoffky

It was a nice way of telling you that you are not welcome...

My brother never came to my wedding because of the no children rule..

SingleSue

We made no demands for our wedding day, children were allowed (we were childless and were intent on remaining so for the forseeable future, I am not the most maternal of people), beards were allowed, complete freedom on colour of clothes choice etc.

Our only 'demand' was that people had a good time, whether that be with or without alcohol, with or without children etc and that they joined in our celebration.

To be honest, it never crossed my mind to make requests/demands...maybe I am from the wrong generation!

GobbledyGook

The only time a 'no children' rule has really bothered me is when the bride got stroppy because I couldn't go.

It does bug me when couples claim it is that way so that I can enjoy myself more - have your rule, it's your wedding, but don't pretend it's for my sake.

*Louise*

SingleSue wrote: »

To be honest, it never crossed my mind to make requests/demands...maybe I am from the wrong generation!

Or maybe you just have good manners and trusted your guests to do the 'right' thing as well.

*Louise*

GobbledyGook wrote: »

The only time a 'no children' rule has really bothered me is when the bride got stroppy because I couldn't go.

It does bug me when couples claim it is that way so that I can enjoy myself more - have your rule, it's your wedding, but don't pretend it's for my sake.

Totally agree

'No children usually means either: 'We are saving money on meals /we don't want noise during the ceremony or we don't want kids running about at the reception', no matter how else it's dressed up.

If I wanted to 'enjoy myself more' I would make my own decision whether to take my children or not.
Mind you, the 'no children' rule is great when it comes to a wedding I'm not bothered about going to........I can never seem to find babysitters for those ones.....*whistle* thankfully all my relatives have always welcomed the children to be present...after all, they are members of the family too.

1940sGal

I don't know, I could happily go in for the 'no children' rule. A nice day spent in adult only company with no risk of kids talking through the service or babies screaming and parents having to get up to take them out...sounds good to me

Northern_Princess

SingleSue wrote: »

We made no demands for our wedding day, children were allowed (we were childless and were intent on remaining so for the forseeable future, I am not the most maternal of people), beards were allowed, complete freedom on colour of clothes choice etc.

Our only 'demand' was that people had a good time, whether that be with or without alcohol, with or without children etc and that they joined in our celebration.

To be honest, it never crossed my mind to make requests/demands...maybe I am from the wrong generation!

This was exactly our view. Unfortunately one guest (the wife of a workmate of my husband) took umbridge that we had left snack boxes on each child's seat for the ceremony. Some of them them had been travelling for 2 hours over lunchtime and we thought they might be hungry by the time they arrived as our wedding was at 2.30. Her exact words to me when we were chatting to guests later was 'I am capable of feeding my child there was no need for a snack box'. Needless to say that particular colleague or his wife have been invited to nothing else!