a fathers responcibilty to his kids

killiebabe

Seanynmph i have children of my own ... Jus goes to show uv mistakingly read somewhere tht i dont ... Which may i add i havent disclosed this info till now !

killiebabe

Thatgirlsam ... No one is saying shes a bad mother,, certainly not me.. There was jus difficulty surrounding the parental skills at the time..

CH27

OP you have to be on a wind up or are very thick.

I feel so sorry for that poor boy.

killiebabe

Also does it really matter how far my partner decided to mOve .. This is side tracking from what difficulties that are happening now.

killiebabe

Ch27 call me wat u like! The childs best interests are all tht matter not you snidey put me downs!

thatgirlsam

killiebabe wrote: »

Also does it really matter how far my partner decided to mOve .. This is side tracking from what difficulties that are happening now.

Of course it does!

The difficulties that are happening now are because of how far away his dad is. Or at least they are compounded by it.

thatgirlsam

killiebabe wrote: »

Thatgirlsam ... No one is saying shes a bad mother,, certainly not me.. There was jus difficulty surrounding the parental skills at the time..

Still, it makes me wonder why he moved so far knowing there were difficulties with parenting.

You're a Mum - In all honesty, hand on heart, would YOU have done that to your children?

londonsurrey

The most important thing is the boy.

Are you saying that the main obstacle to taking the child on holiday is the 6 hour drive, and that the father is not doing it because he wants the grandparents to shoulder half the journey?

If that's the case, he's not fit to be the child's primary carer. Parenthood is not about possession of the child, and refusing to help out because the "other side has the child". If an extra 6-7 hours however many times in the year isn't worth it, how can he cope with having the child full time?

Think about it. If the wellbeing of the child truly is the aim, it doesn't matter who's "got it". All parties that care for it should be busting a gut to ensure it's alright. And not expecting a pat on the back for it, or to have the trophy/child to show round.

CH27

killiebabe wrote: »

Ch27 call me wat u like! The childs best interests are all tht matter not you snidey put me downs!

Well put him first then!

killiebabe

Ch27 my partners son will be put first n in the end im sure we will find the right soloution that keeps everyone involved in his life .. Happy ! Whether it be to remain where he is or to move to be with his father. Thank you for all ur imput.