Is this abuse?

Mrs_Arcanum

Mad-Frog wrote: »

Butterflymind

I am so glad you are getting some independent advice, how did it go?

What you have to realise on MSE, I have noticed reading lots of posts but not really posting much myself is that some people on this board would qualify for sainthood i.e. never losing their temper, never shouting at a child, never breaking any rules what so ever

Real life as you must know is not like that, we all try to do the right things, and I defy anyone to tell me they have never ever gone above the speed limit whilst driving (somebody will you betcha but modern cars these days always seem slower than they actually are!)

Listen to Steel and others that have been through what you are going through, they and only they can give you the support and help you need, if you choose not to do anything with that advice yet that is up to you but please let us know how you are doing from time to time some of us don't judge and would like to know how you are getting on
And that includes whether or not you decide to stay x

PS I hope WA is also giving you support too

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Best advice yet. Good luck BM & dog, both now and for the future.

Butterflymind

Dear all

Thank you for your continuing support.

Seeing WA keyworker tomorrow, as meeting had to be re-scheduled....

Finally motivated when OH punched me.....

Will let you know what happens...

BM

SmallL

Im sorry it had to come to physical violence hun

neneromanova

Please hun, he will kill you soon if you do not leave! I don't want to be one of those that says "I told you so" But everyone could see the signs and said it would happen. Mainly because they have been through it before. Please. Walk out that door with your dog and away from that man.

I hope you called the police as well about that!

Aesop

Aw hun that is truely awful.get out quickly.

Bitsy_Beans

Butterflymind wrote: »

Dear all

Thank you for your continuing support.

Seeing WA keyworker tomorrow, as meeting had to be re-scheduled....

Finally motivated when OH punched me.....

Will let you know what happens...

BM

:(:( hugs for you xxxxx stay safe, get the hell out of there xxx

And :mad::mad::mad: to your !!!!!y OH :mad:

Triker

Butterflymind, keep your courage and keep looking forward.

Cheering you on in your journey to escape your abuse.

Butterflymind

Dear all

Thank you... This is what's happening:

I am now having a support plan set up by W.A.

Spoken to counsellor & WA keyworker, seeing both weekly.

Told parents, not everything, so they don't worry. But they offer more support, and are in more contact.

Told DWP, who said they can change signing on days/times if I need to.

Seeing GP this week, still doing A/d's & counselling.

Still job-seeking, up-dating CV, etc. doing positive things.

Did ask for divorce (after confrontation/arguement with OH); this finally ended up with him punching me.

So far, he is now being extraordinarily nice to me and dog, but, still continuing with WA & counselling.

Emotionally, I am still in shock, using denial just to keep going, as it's driving me quietly insane thinking about what's happened, know it's a cliche but never thought he would hit me... Hardly sleeping but keeping going. Now he's back at work can rest more.

Didn't report to police as he claims he hit me by accident, driving me mental as emotionally want to believe him, still have feelings, but, logically can't see how anyone can hit that hard 'accidentally'...

Befuddled BM

Bitsy_Beans

How does one accidentally punch someone else? :mad: even if he was just waving his arms around people generally gesticulate with open palms do they not?

I know you're in shock, I am glad WA are there to help you but read this and let it sink in

IF HE CAN HIT YOU ONCE HE CAN HIT YOU AGAIN.

You are not safe and the fact that he's being extraordinarily nice makes me want to vomit. But hey that's how they work.

If you can live with your parents then just pack a bag and leave. Don't wait til it's too late for you or little dog

Think back.....who is it you have feelings for? Your H in the early stages of your relationship? When things were lovey dovey and nice or the H you have NOW? If its the former that man don't exist anymore and possibly never really did. Don't waste your life on a man who doesn't actually exist, these feelings are for a figment of your imagination.

Lotus-eater

You can't punch someone accidentally, FULL STOP.