Is this abuse?

Tamsin_Temrin

Nearly every man you meet is a decent, reasonable human being who would never, ever consider behaving like this. But objects like Butterflys husband give men a bad name. it stinks.

Butterfly - we are all taking this really seriously. And we are all rooting for you. Good luck!

Valli

BM if you're still around your orginal question was
'Is this abuse'

time to ask yourself new questions now

'Am I living the life I want to? Do I feel happy and safe?'

if the answer's no - go. Don't look back.

green1970

I hope you've confided all in your friends and they've given you a lift, BM. Read your posts again, add everything up and just walk away without a backward glance. Time to move forward and start a new adventure full of wonderful new emotions and experiences, without fear. Go for it hun, when you've done it, you'll wonder why you didn't find it easier to go much earlier. It'll be okay, it really will but you have to get away at the first opportunity.

HeatherintheHills

Tamsin_Temrin wrote: »

Anyone else on pins to see if Butterfly is safe?

Yes, very much so.

Please keep in touch with us BM xxx

Butterflymind

Dear all

Sorry couldn't post... Still at home, may exit here fast.

Talked to colleagues, who wanted me to go parents.

Couldn't do it. But finally rang WA at last, and will get key worker.

Baby steps. So drained after telling friends, like all my energy sapped, got questioned a lot, and v tired.

OH hogged pc a lot, so first chance to post..... Get feeling that he doesn't want me on here.

Don't think, even though things bad, that I have got to the point in my head yet to be able to leave IYKWIM? Crazy, tired, weary, hope WA can help

HeatherintheHills

Oh! Well done for phoning!

You have taken the first step. So proud of you (((BM))) :A

Tamsin_Temrin

Relieved you are safe

Of course he doesn't want you on here - you may get an alternate pov

Keep holding on to what we have been saying, keep in touch with WA. Your h will try and cut you off from all support. Take care - slightest doubt, 999 and leg it! Seriously.

Bitsy_Beans

I am really glad you are OK and a big well done for ringing WA, excellent step forward. Keep going lovey you can do this.

I am, like everyone else concerned for your safety, especially after your shower incident. If you feel you are in danger please ring 999 and leave xx

Tamsin_Temrin

btw - if he suspects that you are getting support via pc then expect virus, him hogging it, him checking your internet history, unexplained sledgehammer through motherboard...

You can always log on at library etc. Or just call one of your friends.

boddy

Well done that's the first step. Though I feel you should get out now. I'm worried in case his weird behaviour escalates. The bathroom incident was very strange. Its him having power and control over you and thats not good. Please please get out soon. You will have lots of support. Its scary I know but just think how much better your life will be not walking on eggshells all the time. You can do it I know you can. I'm thinking of you.