Birth Mother

seven-day-weekend

We all visited today, had a lovely time. They are hoping to visit us next time.

Mother told me that she saw me being taken away from the Home when I was adopted, she was looking out of the window. (My adopted mum told me something similar). How very sad. She was told not to look, but did anyway. She said she wished she could have kept me and that we'd met earlier.

It's her birthday next week, unfortunately I am away in Durham, but will send her a nice postcard and birthday card and will give her a present next time I see her. I shall phone her on the day.

Torry_Quine

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

We all visited today, had a lovely time. They are hoping to visit us next time.

Mother told me that she saw me being taken away from the Home when I was adopted, she was looking out of the window. (My adopted mum told me something similar). How very sad. She was told not to look, but did anyway. She said she wished she could have kept me and that we'd met earlier.

It's her birthday next week, unfortunately I am away in Durham, but will send her a nice postcard and birthday card and will give her a present next time I see her. I shall phone her on the day.

really good to hear. Enjoy Durham

RAS

I get the feeling that having got over the initial awkwardness your decision is giving great pleasure to a least one elderly lady?

Mojisola

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Mother told me that she saw me being taken away from the Home when I was adopted, she was looking out of the window. (My adopted mum told me something similar). How very sad. She was told not to look, but did anyway. She said she wished she could have kept me and that we'd met earlier.

That is sad. She must be so pleased that you are now in contact with her.

seven-day-weekend

RAS wrote: »

I get the feeling that having got over the initial awkwardness your decision is giving great pleasure to a least one elderly lady?

I hope so. Hopefully two elderly ladies.!

My son today has met his new Grandma and Great-aunt for the first time. I hope that gave them pleasure too.

pollypenny

Glad it has all gone so well, SDW. Like having an extra, loving family.

RAS

Really makes stark how much attitudes have changed in the last 40 years; I knew 2 girls aged 16/17 who were forced to give up their babies for adoption; one was locked into the house for months before the birth. Others "had to get married" including the head boy whose A levels were due to be taken in a few months.

Today the family shame and practical difficulties that reduced their options are rarely an issue. And there is support if they want to try and make their own way.

jackomdj

So pleased for you, I got a bit excited when I saw there were new posts on here. I think you have a lot of people following your thread, posters and watchers.

Raksha

RAS wrote: »

Really makes stark how much attitudes have changed in the last 40 years; I knew 2 girls aged 16/17 who were forced to give up their babies for adoption; one was locked into the house for months before the birth. Others "had to get married" including the head boy whose A levels were due to be taken in a few months.

Today the family shame and practical difficulties that reduced their options are rarely an issue. And there is support if they want to try and make their own way.

Its only been the last 50 years that 'closed'adoptions have been the norm, before that it was quite common for the birth mother to retain contact, even if she wasn't recognised as the childs mother. Both my father and my mother in law were raised by their single birth mothers, they were born during the 20s and 30s

seven-day-weekend

Update:

My aunt's nephew on her husband's side texted me today to say that he is going to bring Mother and Aunt over to my house in May His wife is coming too. I hope I have enough chairs!

It will be good to show them where I live and it is actually quite near the home that Mother was in for the six weeks after my birth when she had to look after me before I went to live with my adoptive parents. I can show it her if she wants to see it. Don't know whether she will or not. It's an old peoples' home now.