Birth Mother

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Spendless wrote: »

I've had to quote this as my question was really clumsily worded without it.

Was this man potentially your half brother, born in wedlock? Someone with an ancestry subscription could possibly find this out. If you're half siblings then if your father was already married to this man's mother, I can see how distressing it must have been for your birth mum when she realised he wouldn't be standing by her.

Alternatively had he got 2 girlfriends pregnant at similar times, but chose to marry the other one? Again very distressing for your birth mum.

I was wrong on his birthdate. I have looked him up on FB, he was born four years after me. I have found his birth record so this has verified it.

His father got married two years before I was born, so I think my mother must have been his 'bit on the side ' (don't mean to seem disrespectful), if indeed it was this man who was my father.

Whilst looking for his birth record, I came across a birth record for one of the other man's daughters, she was born four years before me.

So either way it appears he was married to someone else, whichever one it was.

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Tabbytabitha wrote: »

It could also be very distressing for the possible half brother or the two possible half sisters - their feelings need to taken into consideration as well.

Absolutely and that again is another reason I have to tread carefully.