Another 'am I being fair' question.....

SandC

Yes, there was no such thing as buying in bulk to that extent when I was a kid anyway. A multipack of crisps was 6 packs max and choc only came in up to 3 bars.

elvis86

SandC wrote: »

Yes, there was no such thing as buying in bulk to that extent when I was a kid anyway. A multipack of crisps was 6 packs max and choc only came in up to 3 bars.

Whereas now, obese people can visit discounted websites and bulk buy chocolate for their obese children and obese other halves to fight over like there's nothing more important in life.:cool:

ladymarmalade1970

I haven't read the OP's posts but am shocked at the amount of posts on here that have children and say they are not allowed to help themselves.

For the families that do allow their children to help themselves then i can completely understand sharing out stuff like a 4 pack of flakes etc.

I have so much food in our home we could live for > 2 months and we DO have nice stuff as we go to Costco and bulk buy but i do get annoyed if one of my children eat 3 out of a 4 pack of say Pepparami's or something. It's selfish and rude as another poster has pointed out.

I feel it prudent to mention, given the attitude of most of the posters on here. We are ALL in the healthy BMI level in my family!

Also, the OP had stated that they were saving for a family holiday and the money was going into the holiday fund. This could have been a discussed and decided way of saving money towards it by all of them!

The fact that many of you have pointed out her weight doesn't put you in a very good light. In fact, if you have the time to read through all her other posts and then that is your only contribution to this thread, i pity you!

Wickedkitten

fluffnutter wrote: »

Why would you get angry just because someone's had both the salt and vinegar and left you with the two ready salted??

Jeez, some perspective is required!

I only said the bit about getting angry because someone earlier in the thread said they do get angry when they come back for chocolate and find it all gone.

My perspective on things is fine ta, we are just considerate like that.

tinktinktinkerbell

ska_lover wrote: »

What if the other one doesnt WANT a bag of crisps though? or Four pasta meals? Do you have to cram them down so he hasnt had one up on you?

no, if we dont fancy X or Y we get something else

pelirocco wrote: »

Because it can be pretty petty to make sure you all get exactly the same .

I have 2 sons at home , one will eat all the eggs , and any meat in the fridge and the other would eat all the crisps ( if i bought any ) and has a nasty habit of eating the choc chips i buy for baking ! Its annoying , but I get over it .

its not petty, why should one of us get more then the other

rachbc wrote: »

Because its really really petty. Sometimes I just don't fancy something, sometimes we want different things - sometimes I just have a taste for some crisps but hubby won't. Men need more calories a day than women- should he pay more for the food as he eats more? It all evens out over all. I share my life, my bed, my hopes and dreams with my partner - I'm not fussed if he has a extra packet of crisps than me regardless of who paid!

same here, thats why we get different things

elvis86 wrote: »

I eat what I want to eat and what I fancy, when I want to eat it. Aside from how petty it is, it's not terribly healthy to eat something because someone else did, rather than because you're hungry. Are you overweight?

Do you ration everything in the same way?

If you have an extra shower after the gym (not that I imagine you go, if you're the kind of person who'll force a bag of crisps and 4 pasta meals down your grid just because your OH did and you don't want to be short-changed), does your OH jump in after you to make sure you haven't used more hot water/shower gel/shampoo than him?

i eat when im hungry too

ooh the insults are flying now and not to mention the assumptions, listen darling, im a body builder, i work out 5-6 days a week

as for showers, we share, so much fun

fluffnutter wrote: »

TBH, it's not normal to do this. It's all symptomatic of a bigger problem. That's why many of us are thinking this is all a bit silly. It is silly. But only to people who've got normal attitudes towards treats.

I know I'm being a bit rude here but tinktinktinkerbell has posted in defence of splitting food like this. It's probably no surprise that she's battled with weight and food issues in the past (probably still is) and is pretty skint. Fits a pattern, doesn't it.

not rude but wrong

i do not have food issues

Caroline73_2

ladymarmalade1970 wrote: »

I haven't read the OP's posts but am shocked at the amount of posts on here that have children and say they are not allowed to help themselves.

For the families that do allow their children to help themselves then i can completely understand sharing out stuff like a 4 pack of flakes etc.

I have so much food in our home we could live for > 2 months and we DO have nice stuff as we go to Costco and bulk buy but i do get annoyed if one of my children eat 3 out of a 4 pack of say Pepparami's or something. It's selfish and rude as another poster has pointed out.

I feel it prudent to mention, given the attitude of most of the posters on here. We are ALL in the healthy BMI level in my family!

Also, the OP had stated that they were saving for a family holiday and the money was going into the holiday fund. This could have been a discussed and decided way of saving money towards it by all of them!

The fact that many of you have pointed out her weight doesn't put you in a very good light. In fact, if you have the time to read through all her other posts and then that is your only contribution to this thread, i pity you!

Considering you haven't read the OPs posts its a bit unfair of you to berate others for what they've written. Many posters, myself included, have written and offered support to the OP, which she has ignored and then deleted her original thread. This is on numerous occasions, not just this thread.

I haven't even bothered to comment to the OP as she doesn't actually give a monkeys about what anyone says unless they agree with her.

mummyroysof3

my children of 6 and 4 always ask before getting anything how else am i suposed to stop them from filling them selfs up with crap between meals?

anguk

Food is communal in our house and I've always allowed my kids to help themselves to food with a few exceptions, for example I've got 2 kids so if I bought 4 Cadbury's yoghurts I would say you've got two each. If I bought something for a meal or special occasion I would keep it separate so everyone would know not to touch it. Both my kids are now grown ups, healthy and a normal weight with no food issues.

Personally I think if you try to control food too much with your kids it does become an issue, especially once they've grown up and no longer under your control. I had a very controlling mother, food was strictly meal times only, portion controlled and no eating between meals. I used to sneak things out of the cupboards and walk to school so I could buy snacks with the bus fare. And I left home as soon as I was old enough.

As for adults in a relationship having to have the exact same amount? :eek: I find that astonishing! I couldn't care less if my OH has more than me or I have more than him. I'm 5ft1, OH is 6ft1, if I ate the same amount of food as he does I'd be massive! And if he ate the same amount of chocolate as I do his diabetes would be out of control. Surely as adults we're past the "you've had this so I want that" stage?

tinktinktinkerbell

anguk wrote: »

As for adults in a relationship having to have the exact same amount? :eek: I find that astonishing! I couldn't care less if my OH has more than me or I have more than him. I'm 5ft1, OH is 6ft1, if I ate the same amount of food as he does I'd be massive! And if he ate the same amount of chocolate as I do his diabetes would be out of control. Surely as adults we're past the "you've had this so I want that" stage?

the way it works here is we each have 3 meals a day which since we go shopping once a fortnight is 42 meals between shopping days each

so when we go shopping we each make sure we get enough food that will do us 42 meals

and a few snacks here and there

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Why, with all the rages and rows and arguments, why are you still buying the sweets and whatnots in the first place?


You don't need any of it, your OH frankly gets hysterical over it - or over the prospect of one of the boys getting more than him - and it costs too much.

If he wants something, he can go out and get it himself, hide it in a corner and call it his Preciousssssss. The boys can get a small amount of money, just enough to get one or two items at a time, and your OH has no need to be involved in what they eat.


TBH, it sounds like a house of junkies where they are squabbling over a communal stash.



OH is still the major problem here - but take away the drug and you take away one of the major things that he loses the plot over. He then has to get his own, you lot have no involvement in his sweeties and he has a sense of power that at the moment is only obtained by tormenting the boys.


One day they will look at him and laugh in his face as they leave. Then he'll have you and all the food all to himself.