Another 'am I being fair' question.....

anguk

tinktinktinkerbell wrote: »

the way it works here is we each have 3 meals a day which since we go shopping once a fortnight is 42 meals between shopping days each

so when we go shopping we each make sure we get enough food that will do us 42 meals

and a few snacks here and there

I can understand making sure you have enough food to last the fortnight between shopping but I don't understand the "each"? If we shop fortnightly I make sure we have enough food for 42 meals for the family, not 42 meals each. Or do you work shifts so eat at different times? I would just find it so strange walking round a supermarket with my husband saying "well you've bought that to eat so I'm buying this". :huh:

It just seems odd to me that in a family food is separated out so if one gets something the other does too so everything is equal, normally enough food is bought for everyone and everyone eats it? But I guess everyone is different.

peaceandfreedom

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

my children of 6 and 4 always ask before getting anything how else am i suposed to stop them from filling them selfs up with crap between meals?

When my kids were little, they had to ask before having a 'treat' food and things like chocolate were rationed because they would simply eat it all day long if not.

Now they are all teenagers, all 'treat' food is there for anyone to eat. It's just there, people eat it and then there's no more until the next food shopping. We don't all get the same amounts of stuff but that's fine - if I ate the same amount of food as my teenage son I would be morbidly obese (he's as thin as a rake).

There are occasional complaints - and one child will call another 'a greedy pig' but such is life. The idea of getting a 24-pack of crisps (for example) and dividing it equally between all family members is just bizarre.

I mean, do people have special places where they keep their ration? What happens when you crack open the Quality Street at Christmas - does everyone keep picking one chocolate and then hide their stash somewhere safe? I can't see the reasoning behind any of this, it's very odd.

picnmix

peaceandfreedom wrote: »

I mean, do people have special places where they keep their ration? What happens when you crack open the Quality Street at Christmas - does everyone keep picking one chocolate and then hide their stash somewhere safe? I can't see the reasoning behind any of this, it's very odd.

We had someone like this at work, at Xmas we had a tub of Celebrations given to us, she worked out how many people were in the dept then divided them up into little bags for us - so we all got the same amount.

Needless to say the rest of us all came in, tried to hide our shock and then emptied our little bags of sweets back into the tub. She didn't, kept hers and then much to our amusement kept helping herself to the sweets we had put back :rotfl:

tinktinktinkerbell

anguk wrote: »

I can understand making sure you have enough food to last the fortnight between shopping but I don't understand the "each"? If we shop fortnightly I make sure we have enough food for 42 meals for the family, not 42 meals each. Or do you work shifts so eat at different times? I would just find it so strange walking round a supermarket with my husband saying "well you've bought that to eat so I'm buying this". :huh:

It just seems odd to me that in a family food is separated out so if one gets something the other does too so everything is equal, normally enough food is bought for everyone and everyone eats it? But I guess everyone is different.

sometimes we eat at different times yes, like OH can jump out of bed and eat, i have to wait 1-3 hours or i will be sick

and we eat separate things not the same meals that why we should we get enough meals each for the fortnight

mandragora_2

peaceandfreedom wrote: »

I mean, do people have special places where they keep their ration? What happens when you crack open the Quality Street at Christmas - does everyone keep picking one chocolate and then hide their stash somewhere safe? I can't see the reasoning behind any of this, it's very odd.

Funny you should say this...

I will never, ever forget my (slightly dotty and always somewhat selfish/negative) M-I-L making her four grandchildren (aged between 4 and 9) close their eyes and put their hands in to take out ONE and ONLY ONE sweetie from the tin of Quality Street because 'If they can see what they're getting, they'll only pick the ones they want':rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

There's nowt so queer as folks!

peachyprice

SandC wrote: »

What I'm saying is are you all really lucky enough to have families who really aren't bothered about food very much, or do you actually sub consciously buy in x item for him, x item for her according to individual likes so you don't really have to think about sharing cos everyone has different stuff? My mum would not have bought a tub of vanilla ice cream and a tub of strawberry. It would be one or the other - because it's a treat.

There is a certain degree of buying what individuals like, for example all three of my children prefer different flavour crisps so I buy say a six pack of each which are then tipped into a big box, they know each others faves so will avoid them unless they have a real fancy for each others. OH and I like ice cream cones with nuts on, which the children don't like so they only really get eaten by us but there is a varied supply of yogs in the fridge in the flavours they like but we don't, but no-one would be in the least upset if someone ate their fave.

I also think it helps that from a very young age my children always asked if they wanted a snack and were so used to hearing 'yes but make sure there's enough for your brother/sister' etc. that they do it automatically now and tend to consider each other/us before scoffing the last of anything. Now that they are older the boys rarely ask, DD still does if she knows it's near to dinner time or getting late, but the good habit of being considerate is ingrained in them.

anguk

peaceandfreedom wrote: »

I mean, do people have special places where they keep their ration? What happens when you crack open the Quality Street at Christmas - does everyone keep picking one chocolate and then hide their stash somewhere safe? I can't see the reasoning behind any of this, it's very odd.

In our house when the Quality Street gets opened DD and I stuff our faces and OH normally gets the toffee pennies that are left in the bottom of the tin.

peaceandfreedom

anguk wrote: »

In our house when the Quality Street gets opened DD and I stuff our faces and OH normally gets the toffee pennies that are left in the bottom of the tin.

Hee hee, I particularly like the toffee pennies. I know in some houses it's the really soft ones that get left till last - the strawberry and orange creams - in our house, it's the toffees - suits me fine, there'll always be some for me.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

anguk wrote: »

In our house when the Quality Street gets opened DD and I stuff our faces and OH normally gets the toffee pennies that are left in the bottom of the tin.

My ex used to steal the biscuits from the cupboard and hide them in his bedside cabinet just so the children couldn't have them. Did similar with the toothpaste and shampoo he liked as well. And the most expensive items from my toolkit, batteries, pens - anything that was nice and the children might have liked/used/needed, really.

He really was a t0sser.

Buttonmoons

elvis86 wrote: »

Did your increasing resentment over the unequal consumption of ice cream eventually cause the relationship to break down?

Perhaps if you'd labelled them individually when you got home from the supermarket, you'd still be together?:(

No, more his self pleasure to the girl over the road via webcam, but, if anyone asks unfair share of ice creams will be my next answer

I bought myself a tub of ben & jerrys (one with pecans mmm) and it lasted 3 weeks in the freezer, as DD doesn't like it, all for meeeeeeeeeeeee :rotfl: