Seating etiquette in cars

minimoneysaver

Sounds like you'd be much better off without him. No-one needs to be made to feel like a second class citizen.

the_cat

I've just read your other thread. This has nothing to do with car seats. You are being abused

LEAVE

Valli

daska wrote: »

This is the guy who removed her internet access because he didn't want to talk about things and didn't want her to either... no doubt he'd try hard to find a way to prevent it if he didn't want her to do it.

Oh my!

Didn't realise it was the same poster.

OP you only have one shot at life - is it REALLY worth it being treated like a second class citizen:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(

as the cat says LEAVE

Bangton

I know leaving someone is hard but I am completely at a loss as to why you would stay with such a man...

*Louise*

musictomyears wrote: »

The ones that get me though, are his friends. He offered a lift to a friend (male) when we were going out, and told his friend to get in the front. I was upset with him when alone, and asked why - after all it wasn't the leg issue, as this guy is way shorter than me! DH said it's manners to offer the male the chance to ride with another male.

Wow!!

Now, I will happily sit in the back and offer to let other people (elders or longer-legged people) sit in the front, but because I myself have decided it, not because some sexist git had told me to and said he would be angry i I didn't. At that point my stubborness would kick in and I would be in that front seat come hell or high water! :mad:

You should remind him that as his wife, YOU come first.

xxlouisexx56

DF is the driver and I am taking lessons

We both pay towards the car although he pays more than me.

We have 2 kids so it's rare we actually give anyone a lift and if we do, they squash up between the kids

The only people I sit in the back for are my parents in law as they have weight and mobility problems and could not sit comfortably in the back


We generally work by the rule that no adult sits in the back to let a child sit in the front

*Louise*

Just read the other posts and realise who the poster is - stop putting up with this, please - you know it's not right for him to treat you the way he does, the only person who can make that first step to stopping it is you.

musictomyears

Thank you all for your replies. I do know that some of this behaviour is not right, though I probably am difficult to live with too.

I feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall sometimes.

He's just announced that he's spent over £70 on some house toy thing for our other DD. Apparently they are over £200-300 new, so it is a massive saving. Nevertheless, to me it's a big outlay when we're not rolling in money. In fact I've never seen a bank statement, as it's all done online, so I have no idea how he can spend as much on our daughter as he does. To me it doesn't add up, and that is a scary position to be in. I feel I have no autonomy.

Mojisola

musictomyears wrote: »

In fact I've never seen a bank statement, as it's all done online

Now that's scary!

How would you cope if he died tomorrow? Can you access the online accounts?

lindsaygalaxy

musictomyears wrote: »

Thank you all for your replies. I do know that some of this behaviour is not right, though I probably am difficult to live with too.

I feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall sometimes.

He's just announced that he's spent over £70 on some house toy thing for our other DD. Apparently they are over £200-300 new, so it is a massive saving. Nevertheless, to me it's a big outlay when we're not rolling in money. In fact I've never seen a bank statement, as it's all done online, so I have no idea how he can spend as much on our daughter as he does. To me it doesn't add up, and that is a scary position to be in. I feel I have no autonomy.

This is really not a good sign! You cannot blame yourself for how he gets away with treating you so bad! I sense that no matter what anyone says on here you are not ready to leave him, abuse is not only physical - I know its only after I left a relationship (well actually he left me for someone else!) that I really see the damage he did to me. Try look at it from other peoples point of view. If you left tomorrow would he be more upset about you leaving, or the fact there is no one to do the housework? Leave and find out.