Seating etiquette in cars

wantnomoneyworries

generaloneill wrote: »

"Shotgun, front seat" /close thread.

Yep this happens in our house too. In all seriousness if I was getting into someones car who was giving me a lift I would expect to get in the back. If YOU offer the front seat up that's a different story but for your husband to tell you where you are sitting... I think that's out of order!

conradmum

Sorry, you've married a g i t. Every single comment he makes regarding the car reeks of it.

You bought it, but because he drives it and pays the ongoing costs it's his?!? Items within a marriage belong to both partners, or at the very least to the person who bought them in the first place!

He doesn't like giving you lifts in the car you bought him???? No, he isn't a taxi service, he's a husband. Maybe someone should explain to him that spouses generally help each other out.

He makes you sit in the back because you're a woman? Is he living in the 1950's or something?

Poor you. What a w*nker.

missprice

Default is front seat for me but if kids are involved and its a shortish journey
its Shotgun bagsie front.

longer journeys I don't care, I have long legs and will not sit in the back to be cramped up.
It has never been a problem and if I want a lift home I ask and get
If OH said get a bus/taxi/walk he would soon be my EX

RadoJo

If OH is driving, I might offer the front seat to someone who is tall, but it's for me to offer, not for OH to dictate. It simply wouldn't occur to either of us that his word was law when it comes to who sits where and I very much doubt he would even mention seating arrangements let alone try to impose his views on them, unless it was a case of needing someone to give directions etc.

Seanymph

I drive my car, and OH sits in the passenger seat - all kids, step or otherwise sit in the back. If I go in OH's car I sit in the front, he drives, and all kids, step or otherwise sit in the back.

The exceptions are OUR parents - OH gave up his seat to my ex MIL who came to stay for a few days on the way back from the restuarant the other night, but I think it was becuase the back of my car is so filthy, (I do a lot of tip runs in it!).

If his parents are up I would take a back seat to his father or mother - although last time we took out his father and partner I offered and they said no and sat together in the back.

With the kids eldest goes in the front.

SkintGypsy

Front seat is mine, unless I offer it up out of courtesy. I offer to my parents and inlaws, my siblings in law and also if there are two carseats and a small adult needs to squeeze in between. I don't ever feel like I am obliged to give it up, but I do to my elders and betters. I certainly wouldn't offer to a child/youth. The front seat can move forward to allow more legroom behind if that's an issue.

itzmee

I don't drive so DH does all the running around and I always sit in the front seat. Although I don't pay the daily running costs of the car I do contribute towards the loan that paid for it. I don't give up my place for the kids (unless I'm feeling nice) and my 16 year old son who is taller and has longer legs than me sits behind me, but I move my seat forward so he has plenty of room! I would give up my seat if we give a lift to my mum or DH's dad (both in their 70's) but that's about it.

DH is happy to run me around and even moaned at me for walking home the other day when he would happily have come and picked me up when I was just 10 minutes away! It's a bit of a different story though when he has to run around after the kids and then he moans about feeling like a taxi .

burnoutbabe

saying to his male friend, oh you have to sit in the back as the wife has to be in the front would make him look a bit of a sap. I'd generally expect if the partner has a friend, they sit together, my role as OH doesn't trump anyone, how strange to feel slighted by a thing like that. (well that one incident, rather than a whole trend of behaviour)

Luckily we have a 2 seater so it doesn't arise.

sunflower_2

an ex once picked me up from work with his son in the passenger seat, forcing me to get in the back:eek:

it was a convertible and i felt like a total idiot esp in front of colleagues.

OP i can totally sympathise with you - i am still getting angry at how it made me feel that day !!!

lostinrates

Whichever of us is driving we always offer a guest the frint seat with more than one guest it might change who is offered it. A large or tall person would be offered it first, then probably someone of the same sex as the driver, if wvery one is small! E.g. Last time we shared the car wipth friends i drove, dh and our female friend sat in the back and her bf sat ion the front.....because he was taking photos, the view made sense. My dad comes in the car with us a lot and he also is given the front seat because he is tall. Usually i drive. So eti es my dad asks to sit on the back, so dh and io can sit together up front.