Oh no done something awful, now scared.

londonsurrey

adouglasmhor wrote: »

I know a twisted lying creep with Aspergers, not all are the same.

And he does have Aspergers before anyone says he can't have it Aspies are not like that.

Of course he can be, and people who think otherwise are being naive. You can be a psychopath and ASD, or cancer and ASD, or Downs and ASD. The point is that Aspies are people too! The twist in the tale about him being an aspie is that what some of the lies that neurotypicals(NT) consider lies will not be deliberate lies on his part, while some lies he tells will be from a totally unexpected direction from an NT's point of view.

Artytarty

It has been an eye opener for me to learn that my weak and rather unenthusiastic response to taking her and her mother out for lunch became a firm arrangement in her mind.
Of course she may not have ASD.
we have it this far over the years because up until yesterday I took it all on the chin, the tactless blunt comments, the criticism for being 5 minutes late etc.but yesterday we both crossed a line and I think there is no going back.
As for me being a bad friend well,I let her away with that, manys a one would have reported her for assault full stop.Look what nearly happened to Gary Mckinnon ,ASD was no excuse in the eyes of the USA..

tenke

I think it would be necessary to raise the " physical assault " incident with the Police, mainly because if there was another future incident of agression, then you have recorded evidence from before.

A person that is depressed and reacts agressively like that, is somehow unstable and this is something that should be taken seriously.

I would put the case to the Police, accept her apologies if she did try to reach out again, but distance myself in a polite, non confrontational way.

Hope all is ok for both parts and that there are not future confrontation, they can be stressful.. Good luck :j

ruby-roo_2

OP I really hope you are okay. This has been an interesting thread with views given from every perspective. From your original post I got the impression that with a little hindsight you wished you had handled things differently and were remorseful for having deleted the emails.

You were concerned about the repercussions of your actions, and were well aware that deleting the emails was not a good idea. I think you did it not out of malice but as a spur of the moment reaction to the way your friend berated you. We have all at some point said or done things which we later regret. It is part of being human. In very little time you were on here asking for advice on how to rectify what you did. Not the actions of a person with no concern or respect for someone elses privacy.

I feel that when your friend started shouting at you and said what she did, this was the straw that broke the camels back, I think things have been building up and your friendship has caused you grief and upset for a while. This would go some way to explaining why you decided not to accept your friends apology. There is only so much any of us will tolerate from another person after all.

Your friend then decided to assault you for not accepting her apology. I dont wish to go into details here, but I know from personal experience that it is not easy to think clearly, or sit down and articulate your thoughts well after suffering an attack. I dont think your posts read at all like your only concern is for yourself. However things progress with your friend from now on I hope you are alright and feeling better about the whole situation

Artytarty

Ruby roo you have a clear grasp of the situation and thanks for your kind and considerate post.
I do feel better and whatever transpires I am not going to spend any more time beating myself up about it.
I have not washed my hands of her yet but we need a lot of space between us for a good while .

londonsurrey

Artytarty wrote: »

It has been an eye opener for me to learn that my weak and rather unenthusiastic response to taking her and her mother out for lunch became a firm arrangement in her mind.

That smacks of ASD. Forget the subtext of the way you said it. What a typical aspie hears is "Yes", "No" and if you're lucky, "Maybe". To an aspie "Yes", means "Yes", regardless of grimaces being pulled. Think of it as a conversation via text, as they will probably not notice any expressions on your face, or the tone used.

Bravehearted_2

Chavs.

Sigh.

meritaten

I think this thread is getting way out of hand! you have diagnosed someone with Aspergers on NO evidence whatsoever - Artytarty is getting castigated for nothing more than deleting some emails (!!!!!! - is THAT the end of the world?) after getting assaulted for not accepting an apology!
Arty - If I were you hun - I would ask the mods to close the thread - you seem to be getting more upset than the situation warrants! honest - my nan would have called it a 'storm in a tea cup'! and then said 'least said - soonest mended'!
Some people on here are deliberately winding you up! Ignore them!

Welshwoofs

Well this thread is hilarious - armchair psychiatrists diagnosing all sorts of things based on a couple of bloody postings. Christ, makes you wonder why people actually bother going to all the trouble of getting into the professions when there's so many experts right here willing to dispense their extensive medical knowledge.

Op - whatever your friend's issue is really isn't your problem. From your posts she appears to be a pain in the backside and more trouble than she's worth. She can't report you for 'hacking' - her account was left open on your computer so ignore that idle threat.

Longevity is no indicator of quality so do a clinical cost/benefit analysis on the relationship and if there are more negatives than positives, drop her like a ton of hot bricks.

victory

duchy wrote: »

It's Aspergers not asperges -and yeah I have a background both as the mother of a now adult Aspie and I've also worked with teenagers with the syndrome.
To answer your question .......No -not at all.
People with Aspergers take what people say at facevalue (see previous example about a meal out ) as most assume people are as (forthrightly) honest as they are

An R missed out ........................:)