15 year old son trading goods at cex

squeaky

OK Done deal

Good luck

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thorsoak

Putting it bluntly, your son has stolen items from his brother. He is a thief

He has to realise this, and imo, should be punished by having to make reparation to his brother and also be grounded for however long you feel necessary.

Maybe even a short chat with the local police who could let him know that if his brother pressed charges he could have criminal record?

Tiddlywinks

You need to dig deeper about why he needed to steal to get money - that's what he's done.. he has stolen from other family members to sell their goods to get money. Why?

Bullying at school (to pay them off)? Addiction (slot machines, food, drugs etc)?

louhel

I agree he is a thief and believe me he was told in no uncertain terms this morning.

He is grounded for a minimum of a month, has had his phone and ipod removed (im selling the latter to replace the games) and I wont hesitate to go to the police.

Im thinking it could be scratchcards, I know he has bought some before but grounded him then and "thought!" we had stamped that one out.

I honestly dont think bullying as he is so popular, I dont know, thats the worst thing about it.

He gets plenty from us so I dont understand why he could possibly need more. I even asked him if he wanting money for drink/drugs?

His brother is devestated, the other one he has taken a game from doesnt know.

I just feel so let down by him :0(

daska

OK, I know very little about CEX except that DS2 mentioned them not long back. But, I did have a look then and remembered there was a list of things they'd find acceptable so went searching again.

To summarise what's below: If he got vouchers it's an exchange membership, if he got cash it's a full membership. If it's a full membership they should have insisted on ID. However, it looks as if they would have accepted his debit card as 'proof'. (It's also worth remembering that lot of CEX stores are franchises. They will have to comply with their franchise conditions.)

http://uk.webuy.com/help/storehelp.php#membership_requirements

Membership Requirements
If you don't want to sell your old goods to our site and would prefer to trade with one of our stores, you will need either an exchange membership (which means you'll be paid with CeX vouchers) or full membership (which means we'll give you hard slabs of cash for your old stuff).

Remember that prices and terms & conditions in-store may be different to those featured on the website.

Before you head down to your local branch to sign up, take a look at the information below so you'll know what information you'll need to take with you.

Exchange Membership Requirements

You do not need to bring ID to sign up for Exchange Membership.

Note: Exchange Membership allows you to trade-in all items except mobile phones. If you want to trade-in or sell mobile phones, you will need Full Membership.

Full Membership Requirements

To sign up as a full member you will need to be at least 16 years old (except for our Manchester branch, where you have to be at least 18), and need to present ONE of the following ID:
Current Signed Passport
Valid EU National Identity Card
Current UK photocard Driving Licence (full/provisional)
Current full paper (old style) UK Driving Licence
Disabled Drivers Permit
Police/Armed Forces Warrant Card
Valid DWP Benefit Book or Card
Utility Bill (not more than 6 months old)
Valid debit/credit card
A current bank/credit union/building society/credit card statement (not more than 6 months old)
Valid Council Tax/Rent Book

Please note, in our Edinburgh store, you'll need a photo driving or a passport as well as proof of address (utility bill, bank statement etc. ) dated within the last 3 months.

Tiddlywinks

Don't underestimate the power of addiction - you need to try to find out what has made him do this.

Anger won't help - yes, be firm and dish out the "consequences" of his stealing but try to leave out the heat otherwise he won't be able to open up (if he wants to).

You really need to find out what he's doing with the money - what makes you think scratchcards? Is there anyone you can ask for information? His friends, the local newsagent about what he buys?

You say he's popular at school - popular doesn't necessarily equal happy. Has anything happened recently that may have made him a bit depressed or feel the need to escape?

System

At a push you can replace the games your son stole but i'd be delving deeper into why he took them in the first place. Not wishing to scare you but something similar happened to me a couple of years back and it opened up a can of worms that had to be dealt with.

daska

louhel wrote: »

I agree he is a thief and believe me he was told in no uncertain terms this morning.

He is grounded for a minimum of a month, has had his phone and ipod removed (im selling the latter to replace the games) and I wont hesitate to go to the police.

Im thinking it could be scratchcards, I know he has bought some before but grounded him then and "thought!" we had stamped that one out.

I honestly dont think bullying as he is so popular, I dont know, thats the worst thing about it.

He gets plenty from us so I dont understand why he could possibly need more. I even asked him if he wanting money for drink/drugs?

His brother is devestated, the other one he has taken a game from doesnt know.

I just feel so let down by him :0(

While you say you give him plenty, is it worth considering what it is you're giving him plenty of. Is it money, material things or your time and genuine attention? From personal experience I know my behaviour was hugely influenced by my parents refusal to listen to, understand and deal with things that were causing me huge distress. Having spoken to people who knew me at his age, it's obvious that I had learned to put on a happy front, but the only reason I was still alive was that I didn't know enough to make a successful attempt at suicide. Not saying that's what it is but surely worth considering?

Seanymph

At 15 he's also too young for stratchcards - so I'd be visiting whatever outlet was selling them to him.

CH27

As others have said you need to get to the bottom of why he is doing it.