Should she stay over?

System

The best sex i ever had was when my parents let my boyfriend (who went on to be my husband) stay over and although we had seperate beds it didnt stop us.

What were my parents thinking!

FatVonD

I'd say no but possibly for different reason to others. It sounds like it would have been inconvenient if he'd asked for anyone (even a friend) to stay over that night and plus you have other younger children in the house. On another occasion (when they'd been together a little longer maybe) if the other kids were away I'd consider saying 'yes' but on condition that I could speak to her parents beforehand to check what they'd been told the sleeping arrangements were.

FatVonD

Judi wrote: »

The best sex i ever had was when my parents let my boyfriend (who went on to be my husband) stay over and although we had seperate beds it didnt stop us.

What were my parents thinking!

I don't think I'd be capable of having sex knowing my parents were in the next room :eek:

Person_one

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

I think the odds of me trying to have sex with someone younger than the legal age of consent less than 2 foot away from a light sleeping 10 year old is fairly minimal, no matter how old or hormonal I get.

Not sure what that's got to do with my post, but hey, good to know!

Person_one

FatVonD wrote: »

I don't think I'd be capable of having sex knowing my parents were in the next room :eek:

Pssst, when you were a kid your parents probably had a lot of sex with you in the next room, they know all about it!

19lottie82

You say she is your sons first "serious" gf? They've only been going out a month, that is not serious!

Personally If he is a good lad in terms of school, home life etc, I'd perhaps tell him "no" at the moment, but you will review the situation in six months when / if they prove that they are really serious about each other, after you have discussed it with her parents of course.

Just to confirm when ur DS asks for her to stay over does he expect her to sleep in his room?

peaty

Hi again,

Thank you for the replies and advice!
My son came back to me about an hour later and apologised for being immature!
He is a good lad, a really kind and considerate person inspite of the odd huffy fit. He is 16 and his girlfriend is nearer 17.
We have always been very open and honest about things expecially when it comes to sex, we have spoken about it since he was very young.
I suppose its not the thought of them having sex - they would have plenty of opportunity when they are alone in the house.
I would like to think that we are firm but fair parents, but when you are being told that you are really strict it does make you wonder if you are over-reacting. I know this a teenage tactic to get what they want - so I am standing firm!
At the moment his girlfriend comes round on a tuesday night and gets picked up about 10-10:30 which I think is reasonable - however my son went to her house at the weekend and her parents dropped him back at 12:30, which again I don't mind - but because of the shifts we both work and having other children we are usually in bed by 1030-11.
Again thanks for all the advice - it's reassuring that I am not as rubbish at parenting as I think I am!

ruby-roo_2

OP I think you gave your son reasonable reasons why the sleepover was not possible. Having read through the thread and learnt that he and his girlfriend have only known each other a month, I feel it is a bit early.

I think the girls parents may back you in taking this stance. If they were so keen on permitting sleepovers your son would have stopped at theirs before now, instead of being brought back to your home by them.