Should she stay over?

krlyr

My mum never let boys stay over, even when I was 18+. Her house, her rules, and I respected them.

rachbc

22 years ago when i was 16 my parents let me bf stay over and I was allowed to stay at his - as long as we did our homeowork first ;-)

I'll do the same for both my kids too.

ETA - this was after a few months not a month

POPPYOSCAR

I agree.

It is his home but your house and your rules apply.

claire16c

peaty wrote: »

thanks for the replies, its very reassuring!
My son has said she can sleep in his bed and he will sleep on the floor, they have only been together about a month so I think it is too soon. I am not naive, I understand that at 16, they will be thinking about sex an awful lot, but I also I don't think they would do anything with both parents and 2 children either side! I suppose its all a bit much a bit soon.
thanks for the advice, I will stick to my guns!

Thats what I told my Dad the first time my boyfriend slept round to persuade him.. I think he probably slept on the floor for about 2 mins :rotfl: We even had a sleeping bag in my room to make it look like he really was sleeping on the floor. We laugh about it now as that was 10 years ago and we are now married. Of course, your son may genuinely mean it.

But at 16 and together for a month, there is no way I would have been allowed!

newcook

the first 'boy' that my parents allowed to sleep over was only allowed to do so because he lived the other side of town (about 20-30 minutes drive) and he ahd to sleep on the settee. he was only allowed to sleep in my room when we got engaged. I was 22 at the time!!

even now at the ripe old age of 31, I agree with my mom it was the right thing - her house, her rules!

I also doubt he would sleep on the floor!!

VfM4meplse

albionrovers wrote: »

Call me old-fashioned, I'm a Dad with 2 daughters ...

Not on your life.

My Dad would say exactly the same thing! (His two daughters are fast approaching 40 ).

TeamLowe

I'm the youngest of three girls and my now husband was the first of our partners (i think) to be allowed to sleep over and in the same room. when i was 22. even then the deal with my mum was that i had to keep the door to my bedroom and the door to the spare bedroom closed to maintain the illusion that we were in seperate rooms to my dad lol

i don't think there being people next door will stop them from doing what they want. never stopped me!

A month is very soon to me, when i was their age the only people sleeping at each other's houses were the 'serious' relationships, people who had been going out for about a year x x

onlyroz

I wasn't allowed to share a bed with my partner in my parents' house until I was married to him ;o)

Before then we were strictly in separate rooms. However, I never had a boyfriend when I was only 16, and so this particular issue never cropped up.

daska

Your house, your rules! Doesn't matter a jot what her parents think or do.

N.B If they're determined they'll find the time and space to do the dirty regardless of any rules you put in place.

daisiegg

On the floor in the same room? nooooo.....unless you are happy with them having sex (it is legal..but I wouldn't be happy about it in your position!) then surely staying over would need to be in a separate room! And if you ARE happy to accept they are going to have sex then abandon the pretence and let them sleep in his bed together.

As others have said, your house = your rules and for what it's worth I think you have made the right decision.