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“I get to do what I want to do on a weekend”
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mildred1978 wrote: »6 beds and 4 baths. And with a genetically messy baby and mum, quite a lot!
Not to mention that we merged 3 properties worth of stuff into this house that is very very slowly being worked through.
Mildred none of us are perfect & have to work at our faults.
Maybe you could work at being tidier & then it's less work for you.
I still think you need a serious chat about the future with your OH though.Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.0 -
mildred1978 wrote: »That no other couple he knows works like this (all of our friends have children).
Thing is, most of our husbands seem to be like this to one degree or another.
That's not an answer - what other people do is nothing to do with it. Why does he feel that he gets the weekend's 'off' and not want to spend ANY time with his family - that's you and the boy, not the ones in Yorkshire.If you haven't got it - please don't flaunt it. TIA.0 -
Perhaps you could ask your OH to be available for a family on one of the 2 weekend days? If he won't agree to that, he's too selfish to spend the rest of your life trying to establish family time when he so clearly wants to be a non-family man.
PS - A SAHM works every day, not just week days!" The greatest wealth is to live content with little."
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Caroline73 wrote: »Fair enough. So did you say to your husband "nothing in the cupboards so I'm just going to place this order and then I'm all yours I won't be more than half an hour so pop your shirts in the machine, then we can take baby to the park for a bit of fresh air" or did you just leaves him to get on with his on thing?
I'm just being devils advocate by the way. He does sound like he's being an !!!!.
I asked him to put LO down for his nap so that I could sort the food order out.
He did that, came back in as I finished the order, and opened his laptop. I asked what he was doing and he had a hissy fit and stormed off. He hasn't come back downstairs since, so is either sleeping or in his laptop.Science adjusts its views based on what's observed.
Faith is the denial of observation, so that belief can be preserved.
:A Tim Minchin :A
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I work away from home during the week, and am a Yorkshire man, I manage to wash and dry all my work clothes for the week on a friday evening, and iron them back at my work location, doesnt take much effort really. As a backup I have a stash of the £4 shirts from Primark that can be binned after a few uses.
I would prefer to not work away from home, but whats available locally is paying around 30k less so needs must and all that.
I also go out 2-3 evenings during the week for meals n drinks, and whilst some of my contacts have become friends it is still very much a work related activity, I would much prefer to be going out with my wife instead.
Thankfully we decided to be child free so we dont have that additional workload/heartache.0 -
lilac_lady wrote: »Perhaps you could ask your OH to be available for a family on one of the 2 weekend days? If he won't agree to that, he's too selfish to spend the rest of your life trying to establish family time when he so clearly wants to be a non-family man.
He begged for years for me to have a baby. Do you think I gave up a career and a childfree life, at the age of 34, to have him be a father 1 day a week?lilac_lady wrote: »PS - A SAHM works every day, not just week days!
I'm not sure what you mean by that. I'm not expecting weekends off!Science adjusts its views based on what's observed.
Faith is the denial of observation, so that belief can be preserved.
:A Tim Minchin :A
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I also go out 2-3 evenings during the week for meals n drinks, and whilst some of my contacts have become friends it is still very much a work related activity, I would much prefer to be going out with my wife instead.
It's the opposite for him. He works with some of his best friends (some from uni). Most evenings he doesn't even bother ringing me/us to see how we are.Thankfully we decided to be child free so we dont have that additional workload/heartache.
Well, that's what I decided too, but I changed my mind for him and look where it got me.Science adjusts its views based on what's observed.
Faith is the denial of observation, so that belief can be preserved.
:A Tim Minchin :A
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Mildred please don't take offence at this but i've read several of your previous threads & you have imo an unconventional way of bringing your child up.
Do you think you have sidelined your OH & this is the result?Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.0 -
Mildred please don't take offence at this but i've read several of your previous threads & you have imo an unconventional way of bringing your child up.
In what way?Do you think you have sidelined your OH & this is the result?
No.Science adjusts its views based on what's observed.
Faith is the denial of observation, so that belief can be preserved.
:A Tim Minchin :A
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Sounds like you resent him for 'making' you have a child for him and then 'making' you give up your career (the redundancy was voluntary not enforced, I think you said?) so that you can be a SAHM. Would you be happier if you were working full-time and he were to be the stay-at-home parent?:heartpuls Mrs Marleyboy :heartpuls
MSE: many of the benefits of a helpful family, without disadvantages like having to compete for the tv remoteProud Parents to an Aut-some son
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