“I get to do what I want to do on a weekend”

pimento

What's an LO?

mildred1978

balletshoes wrote: »

so when you had the baby, what did you expect to happen? ie did you expect your OH to change his job so he could be more than a weekend dad? did you expect to be a SAHM for however-long (I don't know if you're intending resuming your career at any time)? what did you expect, and did you and your OH discuss this and come to agreement about it all?

I didn't think I should need to point out to my OH how precious his time with LO is, and that it should be at the top of his priorities.

mildred1978

pimento wrote: »

What's an LO?

Little One.

pimento

Six pages and a Google search and I still couldn't work out what it meant.

Sambucus_Nigra

What are you looking for out of this? Are you prepared to split up over it?

Person_one

Caroline73 wrote: »

But you and the baby don't use all 6 bedrooms and 4 bathrooms do you? 2 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms at most. The other 4 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms cant get that dirty or messy. They'd only need 5 minutes each a week. That's only half an hour.

In 2012 are we really saying that the answer to a husband who refuses to pull his weight and be a part of his family is for the wife to just work harder to compensate?

balletshoes

mildred1978 wrote: »

I don't think he sees me at all.

just today? or all the time? if its the latter, i think thats an issue.

CH27

Person_one wrote: »

In 2012 are we really saying that the answer to a husband who refuses to pull his weight and be a part of his family is for the wife to just work harder to compensate?

I think Caroline is just on about better time management.

candygirl

Have you spoken to him yet hun?:D

DKLS

mildred1978 wrote: »

It's the opposite for him. He works with some of his best friends (some from uni). Most evenings he doesn't even bother ringing me/us to see how we are.



Well, that's what I decided too, but I changed my mind for him and look where it got me.

I always ring at least twice an evening, with a coupe of texts as well, its important for us to keep the communication going as its not easy working away.

Thankfully we had a surgical intervention so we are fixed on the child free issue. I do know a similar bloke who was desperate for a child of his own, sadly the reality was way too much for him and he scooted after the first trashy blonde that came across his path, and he hasnt seen his child for over 2 years now.

I would suggest an old fashioned heart to heart discussion, preferably on neutral territory to try and find a way forward that addresses the needs and desires of BOTH of you, although I do have a sneaking suspicion that he may be playing away, hence the hostility, I hope I am wrong on that one though.

As afore mentioned tyke I would tell him to grow a pair and MTFU.