Has anyone ever married and kept it secret?

barbarawright

I wouldn't get too fussed about the public notice of register office weddings. I work in a register office (I'm in a different department) and walk up and down the corridor where people queue to be sent to the right place and I've never noticed a board. If it's anywhere it's in the waiting room - I shall enquire as you've piqued my curiosity now. There's certainly no board with forthcoming weddings outside the building though.

blossomhill_2

Fascinating thread!

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Has anyone got married in secret without telling anyone? If so how did it work out?

Yes I did with my first husband ... but when the bump on the head where I'd coshed him wore off and he found out what I'd done he made me get an annulment! :rotfl:

gyromain

Voyager2002 wrote: »

Well, Romeo and Juliet got married without telling friends and family. I don't think it worked out very well for them!

Another fictional secret marriage is in the film Casablanca - between Ilsa Lund (Ingrid Bergman) and Victor Laszlo (Paul Henreid).

pinkmami

DH & I got married in secret. We told no-one & went to Gretna Green with our 2 small daughters. It was our day. Our wedding, our ideas & no one else had their say. No interfering relations who didn't want to sit next to so & so, no one saying "I don't the choice of food for the reception"......things I've heard my friends say at weddings.

Our witnesses were 2 older sisters staying at the Gretna Hall Hotel. The staff at teh Gretna Green Blacksmiths cottage ask them for us on the morning. They were ever so grateful to us for the honour & I bought them little gifts the next day & asked reception to take them to them. I sent them a letter after we got home to thank them again & sent them a photo (got the address of the certificate) & they sent os a 1st anniversary card too.

The cottage we stayed in was wonderful & the lady next door saw me standing in the back garden after calling my mum & said "you look beautiful. I hope you & your new husband will be as happy as my husband & I were". She was a widow who came to the cottage for a few days - 1st break withough him. I was so tearful after speaking to her but her words were so kind. She bought us a card & bottle of champage.

Everyone was happy for us! An if we did offend anyone? Tuff. Our lives. Our decision. They lost nothing cos we spared them spending £££ on gifts/clothes/shoes blah blah blah.

So if you want advice? Come to me! PM me! x

Gloomendoom

I've done it both ways... a secret runaway wedding and a big, everyone invited, wedding.

The big wedding was the best.

missprice

Have only been married once and it did not last very long (4 years all in)
It was not a secret but I and the hubby really had no one to tell:o

I took our then 18month old and was preggers with other one when we married
had 2 of my friends as witnesses and don't see either of them now.
hubby was brought up in a children's home with one of his many sisters and not close to the other sisters pyhsically or emotionally and I have next to no family left to be bothered telling
in fact I think I told my uncle about a year after the wedding simply because we are not close and that was the next time I saw him:rotfl:

sad really but it was fun at the time to be married

psychopathbabble

Someone I know got married after 20 years, didn't tell a soul except one friend who was a witness. Even now they haven't told anyone and don't wear wedding rings. Weird but true. (They don't know that I know!)

Lotus-eater

We got married in secret, we told our parents when they arrived at our house, that instead of going to a fancy restaurant, we were actually getting married.
An hour later we got married in a register office, with our parents and our kids there.
We took them all out for a posh pub lunch afterwards.

Afterwards we told everyone else. I surprised my wife with a night away in a lovely B&B/restaurant meal and my inlaws were already in on it to look after the kids for the night.

Nice and simple, no fuss, we got married for exactly the same reasons as the OP. But it was still lovely for us.

Mistral001

Apparently Gyles Brandeth kept it a secret for two years:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1345393/Gyles-Brandreth-I-kept-wedding-secret-parents-2-years.html

WhiteHorse

Yes. Aggressive, unpleasant families on both sides.

They were really angry when they were eventually told. The thought of so many frustrated control freaks still makes me smile.