Urgh, Demanding Bridesmaid...

MrsShawToBe

Sorry! thought I'd clicked to start a new thread!!

sugarwalsh

Some of the posts don't come acorss that way to me at all I'm afaraid. Hollie, for example, says the BM's would basically have to wear what she chose, regardless of what they thought of the dress. I have read other posts (In other threads too) about people saying their BM's are being a nightmare because they wont wear what they have been told to. Whilst I completely understand we all have an image of how we want our own day to be I don't see how having an unhappy BM fits into this.

It is just my opinion though and the world would be a boring place if everyone agreed.

Megan

Hollie84

sugarwalsh wrote: »

Some of the posts don't come acorss that way to me at all I'm afaraid. Hollie, for example, says the BM's would basically have to wear what she chose, regardless of what they thought of the dress. I have read other posts (In other threads too) about people saying their BM's are being a nightmare because they wont wear what they have been told to. Whilst I completely understand we all have an image of how we want our own day to be I don't see how having an unhappy BM fits into this.

It is just my opinion though and the world would be a boring place if everyone agreed.

Megan

Maybe i wasnt overly clear the OP stated the BM didnt want that colour pink i stated that they shouldnt have say on colours or style I.E short or long afterall its not there wedding.i also said i wouldnt want my BM feeling uncomfortable either

mildred1978

Hollie84 wrote: »

i stated that they shouldnt have say on colours or style I.E short or long afterall its not there wedding. either

So it's a dictatorship rather than a fun event? Lovely.

Hollie84

mildred1978 wrote: »

So it's a dictatorship rather than a fun event? Lovely.

There was me thinking this forum was for expressing opinions not getting critiscised for them.ive expressed my opinion as have everyone else

trinity_enigma

mildred1978 wrote: »

So it's a dictatorship rather than a fun event? Lovely.

Only sign of a dictatorship is people editing what has been said to create propaganda to meet their own needs. If you like the ministry of truth can edit past events if you want some help.

Probably best not to take information out of context as you seem to have missed half a sentence in your quote...

stir_crazy

mildred1978 wrote: »

So it's a dictatorship rather than a fun event? Lovely.

Obviously being asked to wear a certain style of dress is part of being a bridesmaid. People dont joke about BMs having to wear awful dresses for nothing, but I think more brides are thinking more about the BMs comfort as well as the overall look.

Like Hollie says, you can stipulate whether you would like them in a long or short dress, or colours that go with your overall scheme - yes its my wedding and no I dont want pictures of my BM in a dress so short her backside's hanging out.

FunnySaving

IMO there's a big difference between a size eight clothes horse being asked to wear a dress that might not be their particular style and someone who's size 20, and carrying baby weight that they're self conscious of, being asked to wear something that makes her look like a sack of potatoes. It's worth considering that an uncomfortable-looking bridesmaid will be much more of a distraction from the bride than one who's just gliding along perfectly happily in the background.

I also think that it's good that the OP's BM is being constructive - it's all very well to say that you want final say on style, but at least the lady in question is trying to give ideas on what they would be happier with rather than just moaning about the dress the OP has chosen. There's nothing worse than coming up with idea after idea just to have someone shoot them down without any feedback on what might appeal to them more.

wanchai_2

FunnySaving wrote: »

IMO there's a big difference between a size eight clothes horse being asked to wear a dress that might not be their particular style and someone who's size 20, and carrying baby weight that they're self conscious of, being asked to wear something that makes her look like a sack of potatoes. It's worth considering that an uncomfortable-looking bridesmaid will be much more of a distraction from the bride than one who's just gliding along perfectly happily in the background.

I also think that it's good that the OP's BM is being constructive - it's all very well to say that you want final say on style, but at least the lady in question is trying to give ideas on what they would be happier with rather than just moaning about the dress the OP has chosen. There's nothing worse than coming up with idea after idea just to have someone shoot them down without any feedback on what might appeal to them more.

I agree with this post 100%.