fffurious with OH

sashadesade

Maybe he thinks you showed him up by saying it was too expensive? Which is silly, but it's my best guess.
The price is ridiculous though, and it will only be more expensive when you factor in travel, a gift and anything else, so I would have refused the expensive option too. I can't fathom why you'd be required to devote two days to a wedding either. Too much time and money for the sake of someone you hardly know.

DVardysShadow

Wirenth wrote: »

Back on topic for a bit....

Meritaten, if you were my husband, I'd be irritated with you because YOU made the decision on behalf of both of us, without discussing it with me. Personally, I'd have responded to the best friend's wife with a "have to discuss with OH". Together, you may have both come to an acceptable compromise (the B&B with taxis) and then responded to the query. The way you have acted comes across as very dictatorial. I'm a woman, btw, and if one of my boyfriends had done that he'd have been torn a new one!

I would have to agree with this. The outcome would probably have been the same in terms of the plan, but miles better in terms of how everyone feels about it.

Alias_Omega

I would say that £310 is shocking, even at the wedding discount prices.

For £310 you could put on a small minibus and run 10/12 people to and from the wedding reception.

I would be at the local travelodge..

Gingham_R

meritaten wrote: »

I just had a phone call from OHs best friends wife concerning her daughters wedding which is in 2013 - wanting to know if we wanted to book a room in the hotel which would cost £310! i immediately said that we wouldnt pay that much and would book a room in a B&B. and take taxis.

I'd have done the same as you. There are times when we have to discuss stuff as a couple before we make decisions and there are times when it's just blindingly obvious what we have to do and one of us would make the decision on our own. The above, to me, is a clear example of a time when it's obvious what should be done.

I have no idea why he's miffed, but I hope it's all resolved now!

victory

I agree with the other posters, no idea why he is so miffed, you were on the phone, you had to make the decision, you made it and the price was just madness tp pay, does your OH have a special bond with the mother? Daughter? Was really looking forward to going? Does he feel that now if he goes he will be shown up that he cannot afford what he sees as everyone else affording? It is a hel of a lot of money for not actual relations and why for his daughter did he not pay?

If it is about the money you are right, if it is about him not being consulted well yes and no, you could have asked him first and rang back but no that amount of money and a decision I would have stopped that one in its tracks straight away, I am not sure though that anyone would have rang me and asked me to pay that amount for someone elses wedding, in this recession times everyone would think to keep the costs down low and try to include all guests with that in mind.

Gingham_R

victory wrote: »

I am not sure though that anyone would have rang me and asked me to pay that amount for someone elses wedding, in this recession times everyone would think to keep the costs down low and try to include all guests with that in mind.

I've just been asked to pay similar for a hen night. Just out of the question but I'm pleased I was invited. I suspect quite a few of the guests will be struggling with that one. Going to be difficult enough to meet the cost of the wedding - present, outfits for all of us because we dont' have smart clothes etc.

Sooki

Hanging_by_a_thread wrote: »

BTW I must have led a very sheltered life because this whole pearl necklace thing is going straight over my head. Anyone wish to explain?

ROFL!

Not on here, suggest you look it up in Urban Dictionary or something like that! You might find what you said quite ironic!

Sorry I hadn't read 2nd page before answering!

victory

Gingham_R wrote: »

I've just been asked to pay similar for a hen night. Just out of the question but I'm pleased I was invited. I suspect quite a few of the guests will be struggling with that one. Going to be difficult enough to meet the cost of the wedding - present, outfits for all of us because we dont' have smart clothes etc.

That is so true because when the wedding invite comes it is not oh the accomodation and that is it, oh no, it is haircuts, new outfits, the petrol to get there, the present, the wrapping paper, bow, card, new shoes (well his school shoes are so scruffy:rotfl::rotfl:) oh and having to buy 'posh clothes' that you resent buying for because you are never going to wear them again, thank god for charity shops or car boot sales or the debenhams 70% off:D;)

Sooki

Back on topic!

I think I'd be mad with your friends rather than your OH, possibly would have spoke to him first.

Once you've paid hotel, transport, drinks, food, present outfits etc... This is going to be a lot of money, have you been presented with the wedding list yet?

If you haven't already RSVPeed I'd be really tempted to book a holiday and play the whoops card!

Mojisola

I can understand that he might think he's lost face by you saying the hotel was too expensive but, if I'd got that phone call, the "No" would have been said before I'd had time to think - it's such a ridiculous price!

I'd be quite concerned just why he's so keen on this wedding when he obviously wasn't bothered about his own daughter's special day. That would niggle at me until he could give me an explanation.