Internet Dating Discussion

Souk08

Hey I use Gumtree. It's free. I'm 30 and just looking for fun so it's perfect for me but it also has a section for relationships and have met a few guys through that too. Been doing it for over a year and met some lovely guys and some I just didn't fancy but nothing ventured, eh. Loads of oddballs on there and loads that have been on for ages but I always think you can weed them out anyway. So long as you don't take it too seriously then it's fun. I would say NEVER meet anyone who doesn't post a pic. It's a waste of time. XXX and Good Luck

mutley74

xx_Jo_xx wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies.

Match - I thought, was quite expensive.

£29.99 for one month, or £77.94 for 6 months, equating to 12.99 per month.

about the same i paid for another dating website.....
how much is dating direct out of interest? last time i checked quidco were offering some CB for joining dating sites, will check again!

giantmutantbroccoli

Has anyone on here tried dating off the internet? Did it work out for you?
And does anyone know how to spot a dodgy reply?
I put an ad on a dating website as a sort of spur of the moment thing, not expecting any sort of response. I didn't really think about it. Checked my emails this morning and I've got a bunch of replies and I'm not exactly sure what to do with them :eek: What's the ettiquette on this sort of thing? If you get a reply you're not interested in, do you email back saying "Sorry" or just ignore them? If you get a reply that is interesting, how do you sort it out so you can meet the person safely?
I'm a bit lost tbh, I feel like there's some sort of code I'm missing

Zazen999

If you don't like it, delete it and black that person.

If you do like it, exchange some more and as soon as you don't like it anymore, delete it and block them.

I met my OH online - but had to sift through some fairly 'interesting' responses before finding him.

Maria81

I can't help with my personal relationship as i met my BF at a wedding some years ago.

But my sisters, they both have met people online. Some good some bad, just with life you don't know who you're going to meet and when.

I've never been on a dating site so don't know where the land lies with how soon you meet etc. My sisters met people through a chat room type thing.

And when it does come to meeting, only do it if you feel comfy with it.

Always tell someone where you're going, when, with who and what time you think you'll be back.

Take a phone/money obviously.

Meet somewhere very public. And don't give out where you live/phone number etc right away, if you can.

You never know maybe something good will come out of it.

Good luck and have fun.

mackemdave

If you have manners a polite "thanks but no thanks" reply does no harm...how would you feel if you spent the time sending someone an email and they didnt have the courtsey to reply...Use blocking as a last resort.

Safety issues re first couple of meets...daytime meeting in a busy place...ie coffee bar..dont venture outside of your comfort zone until ready...NEVER give out your home address until you feel at easy with the person...BEWARE of married people(males AND females) looking for a bit on the side....

Im seeing a lovely lady who I meet on an internet site...so yes it does work
Good Luck

Person_one

I met my partner on a dating website just over a year ago after 2 years of being single, we've just moved into our first home together.

My first question is which dating site are you on? Some of them are better than others and some of them seem to attract far more weirdos than others!

You don't have to reply to people you aren't interested in, you aren't being mean its the way its done and a reply can open the floodgates for them to try to convince you you're wrong or get abusive because you rejected them.

The ones you do like, start slow and e-mail back and forth a few times, if you want to go further you could IM or chat on the phone (I never phoned anyone because I'm terrible on the phone!). I'd suggest that if there any things that are hugely important/dealbreakers for you in a potential relationship, such as religion or 'must want kids' you get these out in the open at this stage.

When you meet someone for the first time, my rules would be:

Meet in a public place
Make sure someone knows where you are and what you're doing
Have your phone with you
Don't get drunk!
Don't let the person walk you home/see where you live

Obviously you can relax a little as you get to know the person!

My last tip would be to start browsing for people you like and make the first move yourself, you don't have to wait for them to come to you.

Good luck have fun!

SailorSam

In the forums on PoF this is one of the subjects that crop up over and over again, people are rude. Everyone seems to complain because of a lack of replies, if someone has taken the time to write common courtesy should mean you reply, even if it's just 'no thanks i don't think we're compatible'.
Obviously if the initial email was not very nice, people can write some disgusting things, don't reply just delete and block them.

As regards to meeting or speaking on the phone (only ever give out your mobile, never your landline), you need to go with the flow, i'd say you need to do a few messages first then maybe onto Msn before giving out your number.
But everyone is different, you need to try and feel the vibes and go with your instinct.

MrsTinks

Does it work? I'll let you know... I think another 5 years will tell me Been married year and a half, have an 8 month old DD and met nearly 5 years ago through internet dating
I think he's a keeper but as I say... I'll let you know

In addition to the above then make sure you let someone know where you are going for your date etc and text you regularly to check you're ok

I met now DH less than a week after first speaking to him online - it all just clicked But I did meet him in a very public place, went for lunch (nearly 3 hours!!! :eek: we just couldn't stop talking!) and the rest as they say is history
I don't think it's any less safe or sensible than people meeting guys in clubs etc - if anything it's probably safer as you can weed the weirdo's out to a greater degree and you won't be drunk!

SugarSpun

I met my husband through an expat group who have a forum and arrange group meetings online. It's not quite the same thing, but it worked for us...

If someone doesn't appeal to you, write back and thank them for their email but say you're not sure you're compatible. Manners cost nothing.