Been looking at husbands internet history..

whatshouldido

men and their sex drives/inclinations!! Im not being sexist but honestly!!! Just do a search on the web and you'll find this sort of story everywhere - its a bit depressing that men succumb so easily without a thought for their OHs

Im sure it happens the other way round too but its def rarer..

I need to be sure before we continue TTC, thunderbird, I know I should talk to him and I will but it doesnt always mean that it goes away does it? Im being pessimistic arent I?

I would say to any man reading this, be upfront about your sexual needs, activities, dont do any of it in an underhand way, its so destructive to trust. If you look at !!!!!! then you should tell your OH and be open about it, as this kind of thing only gets found out in the end anyway..

tom9980

There are a few websites that you can visit that have these live cam popups it happens everytime you visit without fail and im not in the least bit interested in them. It may look frequent to you but the fact is he could easily be closing them straight away to go find what he is looking for.

You can sit here all day worrying about it or actually you know talk to him?

Lotus-eater

VestanPance wrote: »

Your not using Internet Explorer are you?

Firefox .................

thunderbird

whatshouldido wrote: »

I need to be sure before we continue TTC, thunderbird, I know I should talk to him and I will but it doesnt always mean that it goes away does it? Im being pessimistic arent I?

yes and I think you are in danger of getting caught up in a vicious circle of negative thoughts and convincing yourself things are true, even without hard evidence. You need to talk to him and understand what it is he wants and why he goes on these sites and then hopefully to be able to trust him. Otherwise you are going to make yourself ill with worrying all of the time.

VestanPance

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Firefox .................

Wipe your cookies and check your pop-up exceptions list.

Lotus-eater

whatshouldido wrote: »

I would say to any man reading this, be upfront about your sexual needs, activities, dont do any of it in an underhand way, its so destructive to trust. If you look at !!!!!! then you should tell your OH and be open about it, as this kind of thing only gets found out in the end anyway..

I've always been very open about my sexual needs, before we got together properly I told my OH what would be required of her and it sounds like your Oh tried to do the same when he told you to keep it interesting. Admittedly he didn't spell it out enough, but alot of people do have trouble talking about sex graphically.

I suspect men don't tell their partners about them using !!!!!!, as they don't know what the reaction will be. There have been plenty of posters on here saying it would be divorce time.

daisiegg

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I've got my browser set to no pop ups and it still comes up somehow.

Ditto...they must find some way to get around it. Those wily, naked people.

whatshouldido

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I've always been very open about my sexual needs, before we got together properly I told my OH what would be required of her and it sounds like your Oh tried to do the same when he told you to keep it interesting. Admittedly he didn't spell it out enough, but alot of people do have trouble talking about sex graphically.

Yeah I will admit I have laxed a bit on keeping things interesting, but then so has he! We're both not communicating I guess..He did ask me to buy some hot pants for him (TMI I know, sorry!!) so at least he is still interested in me doing things for him, which is some consolation I guess..

Hovel_lady

thejames wrote: »

Haha found this v amusing! Women view sex so differently, for woman it needs to be our most intimate moment (quite rightly too and men need to remember that) but for men it's not it's and urge that is unlike ours (and on the same token we also need to remember this).

My BF must be the exception to the "all men" rule because we both agree that sex is our most intimate moment.

I have read on MSE (and elsewhere) so many times that men and women view sex completely differently that I'm surprised the popualtion isn't in terminal decline.

daisiegg

Hovel_lady wrote: »

My BF must be the exception to the "all men" rule because we both agree that sex is our most intimate moment.

I have read on MSE (and elsewhere) so many times that men and women view sex completely differently that I'm surprised the popualtion isn't in terminal decline.

I'd also take exception to the 'all women' rule - it's not so for me! There are far more intimate things than sex, in my view, and sex doesn't always have to be emotional and intimate.