Been looking at husbands internet history..

daisiegg

I'm intrigued by the hotpants btw...what does he want you to do in them? just...wear them? and what with? lol sorry, as someone who has an entire spare wardrobe full of inappropriate lingerie (I'm sure I single handedly kept La Senza afloat, no idea why they collapsed!) the idea of him being desperate to get you in hotpants tickles me (in a good way). It seems a very specific desire! Why not really push the boat out and grab a pretty basque to go with those hotpants? ooh or like a cute little cheerleader t shirt...

And for god's sake GET THE DAMN HOTPANTS NOW, no matter how fat you feel! I'm sure OH doesn't think you are fat and unsexy at the moment, but if you act like you are by refusing to wear sexy things, maybe he will start to think you are. When I start to feel the fattest I know that's the time to break out the corsets, the very frilly pants (that hide a multitude of sins!) and the sky high heels to force myself to feel slightly attractive again. The urge is to cover up in giant t shirts and pyjama bottoms 'until you've lost the weight' but that is just not good for the relationship!

BitterAndTwisted

Maybe the hot-pants should leather ones or rubber? Who cares as long as they're hot-pants? I doubt the OP's husband is that picky

daisiegg

Oh well I was picturing pink sparkly ones actually!

Hovel_lady

daisiegg wrote: »

Oh well I was picturing pink sparkly ones actually!

Found a few...;)

http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=pink+hotpants&go=&qs=n&sk=&form=QBIR#x0y891

daisiegg

Hovel_lady wrote: »

Found a few...;)

http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=pink+hotpants&go=&qs=n&sk=&form=QBIR#x0y891

There you go OP, loads of inspiration!

Not in ANY way trying to trivialise your situation, btw. Just hope to make you smile a tiny bit...

daisiegg

Ooooh look, these http://www.annsummers.com/p/lila-hotpant---black/20shszas1003006 are half price and have TASSELS! Tassels hide fat. Fact.

make_me_wise

whatshouldido wrote: »

MMW - we do have other serious issues, issues that many couples would divorce over! but they are righting themselves very slowly at the mo..And on the flip side many people tell me that the first year of marriage is always hard because you need to get used to living together etc..?

I lived with my husband for 3 years before we got married. Looking back the first year of living together in the same house was a time of adjustment, learning to compromise and work together.

We got use to each others little ways. If something drove the other one nuts then we talked it through and sorted it out. Mostly we have a 'live and let live' motto in our house and dont stress over small things.

I am not asking this so that you divulge any of the issues you mention above. However have these been fully resolved or are they simmering rather than slowly righting themselves? If things build up then resentments sit and fester and it makes any problems seem harder and harder to live with and get past.

As hard as it may feel to do, just laying all your cards on the table and doing lots of straight talking is the only way to clear the air.

make_me_wise

Oh I have just noticed you mention you were married to each other before. So this isn't your first year of living together then. In which case a good relationship shouldn't be as hard to be a part of as you are describing here.

Of course every relationship needs working at but there are limits. I do not know you, or your husband, so this may not apply in your case. I know full well though that if I were describing my relationship as you do yours to my friends or family they may well tell me I was flogging a dead horse.

adelight

Op have you spoke to him yet?
I've read through the thread and communication is clearly a huge problem for you two. You need to have a good talk about this (and other things) but be very clear, do not assume he gets the gist of anything or leave any room for guessing, be brave and be very, very clear and calm.
Have you told him that you don't like being expected to initiate sex all the time? Without being aggressive or too emotional(lot of men seem to switch off if there are too many emotions flying around). Does he know that you're up for sex just as much as he is? Doesn't he realise that if you're both in the house and he wants sex he should try and initiate with you rather than the computer and you'll respond positively?

I read something at work about women being more hurt by emotional cheating, even things like flirty facebook messages. I mentioned it to my OH when I got home in a "what do you reckon?" kind of way and he actually got a bit upset as he thought I was trying to coax him into confessing something! I have to read all the naff womens mags for my job and I swear Cosmo, Company etc should be cited in many divorce cases! They can put so many ideas into your head you never even considered and make out like every road leads to cheating.

Bettybigboobs

How do I look at cookies if the history has been deleted? Serious question by the way lol