So - your 8 year old is having a tantrum... do you?

mishkanorman

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Of course not. Mum does wear a badge on her coat, so if she's facing you, you should know (if you notice it).

I'm actually very unlikely to be offended, personally (I don't take offence unless it's very clear you intend to be offensive!), but I know some people have thought her rude or off-hand when the plain truth is she doesn't know they're speaking to her. Should she leave them thinking she is rude or off-hand? Isn't it easier to say "I'm deaf, I don't hear always hear people greet me / speak to me."

I just think it's helpful, if you want understanding, to say what you want it for. I've been known to say "I'm sorry, he's behaving very badly today, he's not usually like this, we're off home now". I'm not excusing his behaviour,
and I'd expect any mother to understand that ALL children have bad days sometimes, and that I'm doing my best to deal with it.

Actually, I hope the mum I offered help to in the swimming pool didn't think I was interfering or judging her. I wished she could have shut him up, because he was hurting my ears, and actually he did stop bawling a bit when I spoke to her, probably realised that I was paying attention to her not him! But I've been there!

but I know some people have thought her rude or off-hand when the plain truth is she doesn't know they're speaking to her. Should she leave them thinking she is rude or off-hand? Isn't it easier to say "I'm deaf, I don't hear always hear people greet me / speak to me."


Some people dont give you a chance though do they ? I remember being in a cinema with my OH who has a sometime disability that makes him stumble, he slipped down a couple of the steps and instead of checking he was ok the person next to him at the top of his voice announced "effing state of that, shameful" Nice. made hubby feel so low he didnt respond he just left. the narrowminded person didnt give a second thought they may be a reason for it.

You did the right thing with the swimming pool situation, i can think of dozens of times when I've felt the glare of others but rarely anyone steps up to help.

Some people dont take offense easily, others come home and write about it on a forum way of the world I guess !

Padz_2

masterlumps wrote: »

i am truley glad you are not my childs teacher

nice that you can be 100% sure a child is not on the autistic spectrum, i am astonished you can tell at a glance as it took upwards of 20 professionals over 4 years to diagnose my son as having aspergers syndrome

Only on MSE could you read a comment such as this one.

I've now been surprised twice in one night. :rotfl:

Padz_2

The child's mother told me she was 8 years old if it helps.

mishkanorman

Padz wrote: »

The child's mother told me she was 8 years old if it helps.

absolutely it does, it shows you had quite an exchange.

Im puzzled why you didnt tell the whole story in your opening post, you say the mother was abusive - did she not offer up any apology/excuse ?

faerie~spangles

faerie~spangles wrote: »

Pick the kid up by the ankles and give it a good shake.;)
Then sit it down to a plate of offal:D

Alternatively scream out loud and cause a massive fuss.

Because you are an adult ADHD sufferer.

(works for me) hahahhaahaaaaaaaaaaaa

POPPYOSCAR

OP I think you already know the answer to your question.

The bottom line is that there are those that live in a world where only they matter.We see this everyday.

Thankfully not everyone is like this.

mishkanorman

Okay, I have to ask, what's DV ??

make_me_wise

It is domestic violence.

Gingham_R

onlyroz wrote: »

When I said "pleasure" I didn't mean that I enjoyed watching his tantrum. I was just surprised that a boy who is apparently extremely bright could behave in such a babyish way.

Thanks for explaining. It's a common mistake to make. It's not talked of much so people dont' know much about it. I was a teacher and I was never trained to recognise the problems often associated with high IQ. Then I had my eldest child and I had to learn - and fast.

POPPYOSCAR

mishkanorman wrote: »

Okay, I have to ask, what's DV ??

I would hazard a guess at 'Domestic Violence'?