Grrrr Problems with OH over DMP

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Sea
You're not a failure - you're a star and you're dealing with things. Stay strong honey. Take care.
Love as always
IDA
xx

Gemmzie

Oh sea, I'm so sorry to hear that

I'm on the same dreaded meds, so just wanted to say, keep going - the first couple of weeks are the hardest but they will help in the end, and feel free to PM me if you have any questions about it

rose28454

Hi
Jus keep your chin up. You can get through this and have a peaceful life. Dont worry about the creditors. Go to the CAB they are brilliant. Lots of love and hugs. Be brave and think of yourself and the children.

Scottishmummy

Hi Sea
Hadn't seen this thread before so just read through from the start. Knew a little bit of what you had been going through from posts on the DMP thread but didn't realise it had been that bad. My heart goes out to you:grouphug:

Noticed you mentioned you were going to stay in the area due to schools etc. Does that mean you are planning on moving out of the house. If so please reconsider that. You are in a better legal situation if you remain in the house. Stay there until you have had advice from a solicitor or someone at CAB at least.

So glad your mum is there with you just now as you do need physical support as well as what we can give you.

Let us know how it goes over the next few days.

chevalier

Hi there sea
Have been following your thread with intersest. And I am sorry that this has happened to you. Especially on a holiday weekend.

I agree with other posters, stay in the house. With dependent children it can't be sold I don't think.

As someone else said, take stock over the weekend and then see the CAB on tuesday if you can
chev

Seaxwyn

HI Sea

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news.

I hope things will work out well. If it's any comfort I have a friend in a similar situation, she split with her husband last November and despite the stresses and sadness says she is now happier than she's been for many years. She's talking to a solicitor about divorce and has been assured she has the right to stay in the family home until the youngest child leaves school - even though she is not currently living in it.

Very best wishes to you and your children

Sea78

Hi

Well - just found out through an outsider inlaw that he went looking for support with his family and they sided with me!! BUT he hasn't told them we're splitting and so to me he's saying after this weekend we'll get legal advice and sort out where we want to live etc but to his family we're just having 'problems' so I have to go there this weekend and do the whoel family thing - I feel like I need to for hte children and I've got loads of things sorted (egg dye, little things made for rolling eggs, making little cars for eggs etc).

Really annoyed me = would swear but it'll just end up as !!!! !!!!!!!!!! !!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!! !!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!! OH!!

Sea xx

*zippy*

Hi Sea

I must have missed your thread for the last couple of days so just wanted to add that i'm sorry to hear things have got worse with your oh. :grouphug:

Sound like you have a lovely weekend planned for the children.
take care

zippy x

ZTD

Sea78 wrote: »

Hi

Well - just found out through an outsider inlaw that he went looking for support with his family and they sided with me!!

Yes, hence my comment earlier about him not finding things like he imagines it outside of your relationship.

He was probably expecting "Of course you're better off with out her, you're wonderful, and she's horrible." when in fact he got "She's fine. You're a bit of a turnip."

It does depend on how you feel about him (now, or still). Playing "Happy Families" is probably what he wants to deflect critism from himself - but how you feel about it?

jinky67

Sea78 wrote: »

Hi

BUT he hasn't told them we're splitting and so to me he's saying after this weekend we'll get legal advice and sort out where we want to live etc but to his family we're just having 'problems' so I have to go there this weekend and do the whoel family thing
Sea xx

It seems he doesnt want to tell them because he knows they wont like it.Why do you have to go?I wouldnt, and that would leave him to explain why.Or you could go and explain to them you are only there for the kids but tell them what is happening and why.
I know you probably wont feel like it just now but I think you will be better off without him unless of course he SERIOUSLY changes his ways!:grouphug: