son and condoms

Lotus-eater

Bennifred wrote: »

You should talk to him - if you think this talk is difficult, imagine the one about any consequences! He'd be more embarrassed if you had to take him to a clinic or to visit a maternity unit.......

I used to chant "No sex without a condom" (jokily - well it amused me anyway) at my boys every time they left the house after a certain age. It got to the point that they'd shout it at each other (and their Dad and me :eek:) if they heard anyone leaving the house.

That is very funny and I'm going to nick that as my idea when mine grow up.

What certain age did you use?

daska

DS1 has just turned 15 and I've made it clear to him that I don't think he should be having sex yet but that preventing pregnancy, should he choose to do the dirty, is entirely his responsibility. And I've said the same to DSD - no-one should ever rely on anyone else to avoid passing on an STD or to prevent a pregnancy. Until recently I had left the provision of condoms at "Do you need me to go to the chemist for you?" but he was assuring me that he didn't need any and wasn't going to have sex until he was at least 16 - but unfortunately I think the current girlfriend might have other ideas...

Love Person_1's advice to girls to not have sex with anyone not brave enough to buy their own condoms.

Bennifred

Lotus-eater wrote: »

That is very funny and I'm going to nick that as my idea when mine grow up.

What certain age did you use?

You're welcome!

I started when DS1 was about 14/15 as he has always been a bit of a girl magnet, and is very laid-back; and then when the younger two reached secondary age (well - they'd been hearing me yell it DS1 for years by then and it seemed rude not to:p)

I think it must depend on the boy, really - might not be so amusing to a shy, reserved 15 year old only child........

I wonder if I'd have done the same with girls?:think:

Bennifred

Just read daska's post. I have been amazed at how often it has been girls taking the lead on these matters - opposite to my own personal teen experiences! They are very confident these days, it seems to me.

daska

Yep, I really don't approve of this one. I haven't met her but even from what DS1 has said she appears to have a reputation for being a slapper. And she dumps him every five minutes so she can go out with one or other of her exes. DS1 is, though I say it myself, a NICE lad - aka not really boyfriend material, more doormat material to a hard nosed b**** like her. I am biting my tongue hoping that he sees through her before I tell him exactly what I think.

Mojisola

daska wrote: »

from what DS1 has said she appears to have a reputation for being a slapper. And she dumps him every five minutes so she can go out with one or other of her exes.

He definitely needs to use condoms if things reach that level - just imagine what she might be passing round!

make_me_wise

rev229 wrote: »

15yr DS has a girlfriend fairly sure they are active:eek:. Now he knows all the graphic details about why he should not do it and about using condoms. We no longer have a family planning clinic where we live, not that he would go! Do I buy him some condoms, there is no way he would buy them? Or hope that he has a supply from wherever. What do other mums do. A girlfriend pregnant is the last thing he/we need t the moment!

Depending on the age of the girl he could also be prosecuted for having under age sex. The last of his problems could be a pregnancy.

peachyprice

Carl31 wrote: »

I can't think of anything worse for a teenage boy than his mum buying him condoms

Just leave him, I'm sure he knows what he's doing.

Yeah, just leave him to it, he'll knock the girl up then he'll have the embarassment of tell his mum she's going to be a granny. Way to go.

It's the 21st century !!!!!!.

peachyprice

rachbc wrote: »

see if there is a c-card scheme locally and get him to sign up - lots of schools do it in our area as well as chemists, youth clubs, libraries..

My mum worked in sexual health and there was always a bowl of condoms on the hall table for us and any mates to help themselves to

My boys have these now.

rachbc

Bennifred wrote: »

Just read daska's post. I have been amazed at how often it has been girls taking the lead on these matters - opposite to my own personal teen experiences! They are very confident these days, it seems to me.

I think girls have always wanted sex just as much as boys (I know I did) but it wasn't as socially acceptable as it is now for them to admit it... though sadly it seems that certain old attitudes remain that see sexually active girls as 'slappers'