son and condoms

Lotus-eater

Person_one wrote: »

To be honest, I think if you're too embarrassed to buy condoms its a pretty good sign that you're too immature for sex

Good job I didn't live by this rule, I wouldn't have had sex till I was 27!

I did buy them, but I was embarrassed

!!!!!! shops no problem. Condoms from Boots..


Oh yes and OP, talk to him or get your OH to talk to him, soon!

lostinrates

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Good job I didn't live by this rule, I wouldn't have had sex till I was 27!

I did buy them, but I was embarrassed

!!!!!! shops no problem. Condoms from Boots..


Oh yes and OP, talk to him or get your OH to talk to him, soon!

What would have helped you feel differently? It's a really important lesson IMO to drive home in young people, and not just for pregnancy.

I do sort of agree that if you are mature enough to have sexual relationship with a partner you should be mature enough to buy condoms. Feiw I think that applies to both sexes.


I'd even consider buying sons a box to experiment with, I think nerves over handling them without familiarity could bother some kids, and remind them not to open the packet with their teeth.:D

lostinrates

Memory_Girl wrote: »

Buy a big box at the supermarket and "ask" him to put them away in the bathroom. Sure he will cringe in embarrassment, but at least then he will know where they are.:D

Be completely non-plussed about the whole condom thing - or be a real witch and take him with you the next time you have to shop for female sanitary products - now THAT's embarrassing for a teenage boy.

MG

Fwiw, my husband's Mother died when he was a teen and he did the purchase with and for his little sister as an older teen. ( his mother also worked away a lot and tbh not sure whether she was alive or not when he did this shopping). It is remarkably sexy for me in a man to not be squeamish or childish over such things, and I think as mothers having everyday sanitary items as familiar bathroom items, not 'shameful ' ones probably goes a long way to help sons, their future wives, girlfriends and daughters, as well as any girls in the home.

Lotus-eater

lostinrates wrote: »

What would have helped you feel differently? It's a really important lesson IMO to drive home in young people, and not just for pregnancy.

I do sort of agree that if you are mature enough to have sexual relationship with a partner you should be mature enough to buy condoms. Feiw I think that applies to both sexes.


I'd even consider buying sons a box to experiment with, I think nerves over handling them without familiarity could bother some kids, and remind them not to open the packet with their teeth.:D

Parents attitude, mine were terribly repressed.
Being brought them, talked to about them, seeing them apart people putting them on their heads and blowing them up, as I think most got used when we were 16

It wasn't till I left home and ummm, experiemented and met new people, that my sex life took off.

I'm very very open with my kids about the whole thing and we regularly have discussions about it. The rule is, they can ask anything they like and I have to give an (correctish) answer.

Errata

Do I buy him some condoms, there is no way he would buy them?

Buy him a starter pack or ten. Better for you both to be embarrassed than for him to be paying child support for the next 18 years.

Carl31

I can't think of anything worse for a teenage boy than his mum buying him condoms

Just leave him, I'm sure he knows what he's doing.

Mojisola

Memory_Girl wrote: »

Buy a big box at the supermarket and "ask" him to put them away in the bathroom.

Isn't this more of "sex is too rude to talk about openly"?

I bought some condoms long before the lads were sexually active so that they could play about and practise with them.

It's no good them having condoms in their pockets if they're not confident enough about using them and leave them in the pocket when the moment comes. (No pun intended!)

19lottie82

Carl31 wrote: »

I can't think of anything worse for a teenage boy than his mum buying him condoms

Just leave him, I'm sure he knows what he's doing.

Erm??? How about an unwanted pregnancy @ 15?!

lostinrates

Carl31 wrote: »

I can't think of anything worse for a teenage boy than his mum buying him condoms

Just leave him, I'm sure he knows what he's doing.

I can, and not the pregnancy, but an std, and then passing that around later.

Condoms might not be everyone's long term protection of choice, but IMO there downsides are overplayed.

rachbc

see if there is a c-card scheme locally and get him to sign up - lots of schools do it in our area as well as chemists, youth clubs, libraries..

My mum worked in sexual health and there was always a bowl of condoms on the hall table for us and any mates to help themselves to