feel like all my dreams have been snatched :-(

pyjamadays

the testing is between him and his ex. my ex is aware of the move, he is ok with it so it's not 'dragging' them away from him!! if he had been a better father/ husband then we would still be together and they would be more keen to see him. I'm trying to make the best of my situation taking EVERYONE into consideration, otherwise I would have gone without thinking about anyone else! some people are too quick to start throwing daggers!

tinktinktinkerbell

why did you and your ex split?

*max*

tinktinktinkerbell wrote: »

why did you and your ex split?

What has that got to do with anything? Seriously, I can't believe some of the things people come up with on here.

pyjamadays

no he doesn't have sole custody.

tinktinktinkerbell

*max* wrote: »

What has that got to do with anything? Seriously, I can't believe some of the things people come up with on here.

relax max, was only curious as to why she was saying if he had been a better father/husband

was just wondering what he had done thats all

pyjamadays

not that it has anything to do with the initial post but it was mainly down to a complete lack of interest from him for many years, until he realised he'd lost us of course.

Gillyx

Until he gets things sorted with his ex and finds out whether he is a father or not, I'd be taking a back seat to be honest, I have seen a similar situation almost destroy a man.

I also couldn't be with someone who was sticking there head in the sand and hoping for the best, surely either way it's better he finds out sooner rather than later?

SailorSam

tinktinktinkerbell wrote: »

why did you and your ex split?

That's got nothing to do with us, people split up all the time.
People just grow apart, it's no bodies fault.

Padstow

*max* wrote: »

Where on earth did you get the adultery thing from??? If this is based on nothing, then your judgemental attitude is out of order.

Also, why is it "so wrong" for a 14 year old to have a boyfriend?? It doesn't mean they are sexually active. Nothing wrong with it!

Keep up, the boyfriend was cheating on his wife, making him an adulterer. Get it?

A boyfriend at fourteen is sexual, like it or not, it's sexual.

Don't care as I don't know the OP , but wish all three children well.

jonesya_2

I was the child in this situation about 9 years ago, i did not want to move at all, fell out with my mum, arguments the lot. Had to go anyway (despite saying i would live with my grandparents) a few years later we all laughed about it as i had to admit that it was the best thing i ever did! i did make friends, did well at school no affects at all.That wasn't to say it was easy at first but you get there. I felt lucky in a way having had the experience of moving and having the family in the other part of the country meant i could always visit when i wanted and keep up with friends and have that link. Your right about when she's older if she still feels like it she could move back. It does all seem like the end of the world at that age though but its a great experience for what's to come when you leave school, college, work ect.
I hope it all works out!