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Which is fair with regard to stepchildren/own children

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  • daska
    daska Posts: 6,212 Forumite
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    Person_one wrote: »
    This is an old thread in case anybody hasn't noticed. The original OP has separated from her husband over this issue so probably doesn't need our advice anymore!

    It's still an interesting one though :D
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  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
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    Person_one wrote: »
    This is an old thread in case anybody hasn't noticed. The original OP has separated from her husband over this issue so probably doesn't need our advice anymore!

    When did that happen?

    I seem to remember recent posts where she said she was expecting a baby.
  • Person_one
    Person_one Posts: 28,884 Forumite
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    POPPYOSCAR wrote: »
    When did that happen?

    I seem to remember recent posts where she said she was expecting a baby.


    Earlier in the thread. Who knows, the situation may have changed several times over by now!
  • Kayalana99
    Kayalana99 Posts: 3,626 Forumite
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    Well the thread is more then a year old maybe they sorted things since then...

    Seems a silly reason to break up over no offense to OP!
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  • Bluemeanie_2
    Bluemeanie_2 Posts: 1,076 Forumite
    Hello everyone. Yes I am expecting a baby. I did split up with my Husband for a short a while, when I posted I did, but we are back together now. I, as always appreciated the opinions on the stepchildren/my child which is fair issue.

    Now we are going to have a child together, it has become even more relevat!

    Bluemeanie.
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  • Bluemeanie_2
    Bluemeanie_2 Posts: 1,076 Forumite
    Kayalana99 wrote: »
    Well the thread is more then a year old maybe they sorted things since then...

    Seems a silly reason to break up over no offense to OP!

    No offence taken :o

    There was more going on than what I put in the thread.
    I'm never offended by debate & opinions. As a wise man called Voltaire once said, "I disagree with what you say, but will defend until death your right to say it."
    Mortgage is my only debt - Original mortgage - January 2008 = £88,400, March 2014 = £47,000 Chipping away slowly! Now saving to move.
  • Person_one
    Person_one Posts: 28,884 Forumite
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    Bluemeanie wrote: »
    Hello everyone. Yes I am expecting a baby. I did split up with my Husband for a short a while, when I posted I did, but we are back together now. I, as always appreciated the opinions on the stepchildren/my child which is fair issue.

    Now we are going to have a child together, it has become even more relevat!

    Bluemeanie.
    xxx


    Congratulations!

    I do hope you're going to treat all the children equally and that you've overcome the difficulties you were having with this issue last year.
  • Bluemeanie_2
    Bluemeanie_2 Posts: 1,076 Forumite
    Person_one wrote: »
    Congratulations!

    I do hope you're going to treat all the children equally and that you've overcome the difficulties you were having with this issue last year.

    Thank you.

    I do have a new worry though! We are going on holiday next year with the baby. We've asked if the Stepchildren can go and the answer is no. Stuck between a rock and a hard place. When we go and the kids can't they might feel hurt we've left them behind, but if we tell them their Mum won't let them go and it's not that we won't take them, we're slagging her off and causing trouble. Grrrrrrr! This is so hard all the while!
    I'm never offended by debate & opinions. As a wise man called Voltaire once said, "I disagree with what you say, but will defend until death your right to say it."
    Mortgage is my only debt - Original mortgage - January 2008 = £88,400, March 2014 = £47,000 Chipping away slowly! Now saving to move.
  • Person_one
    Person_one Posts: 28,884 Forumite
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    Bluemeanie wrote: »
    Thank you.

    I do have a new worry though! We are going on holiday next year with the baby. We've asked if the Stepchildren can go and the answer is no. Stuck between a rock and a hard place. When we go and the kids can't they might feel hurt we've left them behind, but if we tell them their Mum won't let them go and it's not that we won't take them, we're slagging her off and causing trouble. Grrrrrrr! This is so hard all the while!

    Let their mum tell them why!
  • mum2one
    mum2one Posts: 16,279 Forumite
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    Its a minefield - oh Christmas day my daughters dad did not even bother with a christmas present for his daugther - this is the daughter he spent 18mths dragging me through a court hearing - she was 8 at this time - the reason he had met someone else dumped his then wife for this woman with 6 kids and then there expecting no 7 (he as dad)

    Try explaining to a very upset 10 yr old why has her dad dumped her, and has his son and the stepchildren not got christmas presents ....... I bet there tree was loaded up!!
    xx rip dad... we had our ups and downs but we’re always be family xx
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