Child stealing food, now needs to lose weight - anyone else been in this situation?

Mojisola

blue_monkey wrote: »

she will have a cereal bar after school and then some fruit. She then has a sandwich, crisps (if she has been active, gym, or PE for example) and as many yogurts/fruit as she likes. She will sometimes have rice pudding or a baby bell. If we have pasta she will have that and not a sandwich.

The issue is not what she eats now as such, but more what she WAS eating has caused her weight to rocket. I need to limit the higher fat foods (and yes, these do include cheese and full fat yogurts) so she does not put weight on. I am happy for her to stay the same while she grows but to do that I need to ensure she does not eat too much of the bad stuff.

It depends how you define "bad stuff". The list of food she has in the evening is all high glycemic stuff which gets digested quickly, gives the body a blood sugar high followed by a drop which makes you want to eat again. Most low fat foods compensate for the reduced fat by increasing the sugar (or sugar substitute) levels.

gunsandbanjos

Well done for doing something about it Blue.
Whilst not everyone agrees on the best way forward the fact you are making an effort should be applauded. Too many people just call their kids cuddly, a bit chunky etc when in fact they are storing up massive problems for the future.


As an aside all this talk of percentiles etc made me check DD's numbers. She is on the 2nd percentile for height and weight! Before anyone jumps on this she has a host of medical issues that are causing it.

Gillyx

gunsandbanjos wrote: »

Well done for doing something about it Blue.
Whilst not everyone agrees on the best way forward the fact you are making an effort should be applauded. Too many people just call their kids cuddly, a bit chunky etc when in fact they are storing up massive problems for the future.


As an aside all this talk of percentiles etc made me check DD's numbers. She is on the 2nd percentile for height and weight! Before anyone jumps on this she has a host of medical issues that are causing it.

As long as the percentiles are around the same, I don't think there's much of an issue anyway well according to my OH's mum who's a school nurse, they don't do much about it, if a child is at say 95 for both height and weight, it's when they don't marry up, there are concerns.

dirtysexymonkey

LittleMissAspie wrote: »

Me! I complained to my boyfriend last night because he ate too much spinach, the pack was supposed to last two meals and he used it all for one meal, it was a 1kg pack. This is why we are always over our food budget.

he ate 1kg of spinach?!!! what from? a bucket?!

gunsandbanjos

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

he ate 1kg of spinach?!!! what from? a bucket?!

:rotfl: that made me snort!

adouglasmhor

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

he ate 1kg of spinach?!!! what from? a bucket?!

That cooks down to about a cupfull.

stargazer59

spaghetti_monster wrote: »

Hi Stargazer, I do agree with you mainly. I know that for myself I always feel better when I'm busy and active and don't eat between meals.

I guess one of the main questions on this subject is how to teach children moderation. You said that you still have chocs over from Christmas - are they not what you'd call a treat? And from what you say I'm guessing that your son would not be likely to open a big box and eat it all for breakfast? So he knows that they're not everyday food and to be eaten in moderation?

No they are not classed as a treat to us, a treat is a day out, the cinema etc, he knows they are there and he can eat them if he wants and so can i, he just seems to have learnt that just having one or two is enough i guess. In the past yes he would open a selection box at Christmas and demolish the lot in fact one year i remember he disappeared with his advent calender and ate all the chocs! I think he has just learnt for himself that he doesnt need to binge as they will still be there. I believe this is due to not making a big deal about it and not having treat foods or banned foods.

I may of course be totally wrong:rotfl:

stargazer59

blue_monkey wrote: »

The problem then arises when you have a child with a disability and you cannot get out more which is our problem. Unless I have a friend with me just going for a walk or a trip to the park is not something you can do and that others really take for granted. Until I find someone to have him so I can go out for a walk or take her somewhere (because we cannot take him with us as he needs 1:1) then we cannot do these things together unless my husband is not working.

Offers of help seem to be in short supply though.

And the walk to school is all of 300 yards so cannot even have a long walk to school each day.

When we can get out, we do, but without having someone to give my son 1:1 then we cannot. That is the card that life has dealt us, so we have to deal with it.

I have no issue with her being unfit at all, she can run, cycle, trampoline and run around on the soft play for 2 hours without a break - if she could not do any of these then I would have more cause for concern - but she is certainly not unfit, however, there is a boundary and I need to ensure that she does not get too far overweight so that she cannot do these things. As a parent this is what I need to do.

Please do not think i am saying you are wrong! As parents we all do what we think is best for our child, my eldest son has ADHD and now in his twenties it still affects his life and i am sure i made many mistakes with him, It was not as well known in the early nineties as it is now.

I am disabled and struggled to get my youngest out and about so i know what you mean about it being difficult, i am so thankful he has discovered BMX ing and is out doing flips and jumps all the time( except for the cost of parts!)

Hopefully you will find a way to get more time to be able to get out with your daughter more in the future, good luck:)

blue_monkey_2

peachyprice wrote: »

Buy why does this annoy you so much?

The walls, yes I can understand, furniture in her bedroom, although annoying, it's in her bedroom, my DD has a desk that she scribbled on in permament marker, she wishes she hadn't but has to live with that, it's her desk that is ruined.

As for the toys, they're her toys, why does it annoy you that she puts her make-up on them or draws on them? Surely she can do what she wants to them? Do you not think perhaps by taking away her things because she's done what she wanted to them you are buliding up unnecessary resentment towards you?

Just quickly as I am about to do dinner - why does it annoy me. Would it annoy you if you paid £300 for matching units in the bathroom and your child came along and gouged them with pen. or that you spent £50 on a present just to have her draw on it? or that you have to hide anything special away from her reach as, even though she knows it is not hers and it is special to you, she will draw on it or take it and lose it? I should not have to be hiding things in my own house.

You said your daughter wishes she hadn't drawn on the desk - well she learned not to do it again, my child does not learn to do it again and will do it over and over and over again. There is no wishing, she just does it.

While the toys may be 'hers' she should appreciate that they were gifts and not destroy them. She was given a special silver charm bracelet and charms, just chucked into the corner with the other crap in her room - I am sorry but this is not normal IMO.

Rules are there for a reason. And yes, when her doll is covered in greasy lipgloss it went in the bin. Actions and consequences - she was told that if she put the make up on the toys they would be thrown away. And still she does not learn from that. So there has to be an issue as to why she is not learning from it or why she is finding the need to do it.

Regardless of that, I have had these issues for a long, long time now but have not had anyone to listen, we are now having the family worker from school speak to us in the next couple of weeks - me first and her second so I am going to make a list of all of these issues I have, and if there is a problem we might be able to get some help for them.

Oh, and she even broke her laptop (Tesco glitch laptops I might add) because she thought the 'no water by the computer' rule did not apply to her. She expects me to go and buy another for her though or takes her brothers. And then puts a glass of water next to it.

rosie383

You are right BlueMonkey. She should be respecting hers, and other peoples' things.
I think you sound like you have your head screwed on the right way. Keep going.
I know she is a bit older than a toddler, but you might gets some tips from supernanny. I have learnt so much from things like that, which are helpful with both my kids, 4 and 12.