Really need some help [Merged]

poppysarah

heledw wrote: »

I cannot thank you all enough...
Today not been a good day, thinking loads unable to distract myself, im just so lonely, need to make friends, but don't know where to start...

Tiny steps.

Small things like talking to someone in a shop, or knocking on next doors and introducing yourself (or if you know then asking them if they've got time for a brew)

Make a list of things like swimming pool opening times. Go swim for an hour a couple of times a week. Really. It's good for you.
Go to the library. Most are most social than they used to be. Ask about reading groups - or what events they have on. You can organise yourself a social life without any major outlay or commitment or needing to go with someone.
See if there's a social group for people your age. Volunteer when you're feeling stronger - there's always somewhere looking for help.

And make a list of all the things you don't want to get done but have to relating to house etc

heledw

trying to get shifts, but none available, have rung today and yesterday

Spoke to mortgage lender, got an appointment on Wednesday straight after Shelter

I promise Im not making any decisions as yet, just loads of thinking, If Im honest, really still feel negative about everything, thats why Im trying to obtain advice from Shelter etc, before I do anything rash....

I was so proud buying my first home, It was something that I achieved as other half did not contribute one penny towards deposit and I proved to myself that if you work hard enough you can achieve your dreams, but at this moment in time he has smashed my dreams to smithereens...

Just wish I could meet you and a few others on here that have offered support as you are very special people, you have listened to me and that means so much to me...
I will never be able to thank you enough

heledw

"Small things like talking to someone in a shop, or knocking on next doors and introducing yourself (or if you know then asking them if they've got time for a brew)"

Not enough confidence for that at the moment, but library a good idea, will actually give that a look!!

I wish I could work 12 hours a day at least there was distraction there...

I have been looking for part time work, but work pretty scarce by me, but advert on spare room.co.uk, are there other sites i can place an ad for a lodger