MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

Sammie_03

sunshine_1988 wrote: »

Yummy! Am sure chasing three boys around will burn it off!!

Just watched im a celeb on v+, helen is sooo annoying!x

She didn't even try in the last trial! She is frustrating now, and she has been picked to do the next one. :mad: I think they should be allowed to do a maximum of 3 trials then you can't vote for that person again.
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sunshine_1988

Gillyx wrote: »

I do want to go back to work, I do feel a bit meh about being at home but at the same time I do want to be a Stay at home mum, my mum and dad both worked long long hours when I was younger and I do feel like I never saw them, and I always said when I had kids I'd stay at home for a bit but the reality is never what you imagine is it? I have no idea what to do really I was a Cash Office Supervisor. Nothing exciting

Think of it as you now have some time to really think about what you would like to do, and when. Your old role will most definately have some transferrable skills so think of what knowledge and infotmartion you have from that which you could input into something else.

Maybe a little part time job or perhaps term time only when Aaron gets bigger. I dont think anyone can imagine the reality of having a baby....its so different to what you think in all aspects.

Either way, certainly dont feel down or hard on yourself xxx

sunshine_1988

Sammie_03 wrote: »

She didn't even try in the last trial! She is frustrating now, and she has been picked to do the next one. :mad: I think they should be allowed to do a maximum of 3 trials then you can't vote for that person again.
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My OH said something similar. I hate the way she pouts all the time!!

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Sammie_03

Gillyx wrote: »

I do want to go back to work, I do feel a bit meh about being at home but at the same time I do want to be a Stay at home mum, my mum and dad both worked long long hours when I was younger and I do feel like I never saw them, and I always said when I had kids I'd stay at home for a bit but the reality is never what you imagine is it? I have no idea what to do really I was a Cash Office Supervisor. Nothing exciting

I know how you feel at times Gilly. I have been a stay at home mum for a few years now, even though I love it and realise I'm lucky to be in the position where I can be at home with the kids it can be very repetitive at time. I am a qualified hairdresser so I could go mobile when the boys are older to fit in with them still.
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Gillyx

Ah I know, I just feel like no matter what I do I'll regret it. I love being at home with him don't get me wrong, some days I could just pop out another, I'm so happy, but then some days I feel so down and think I can't do this day in day out for the next 2-3 years. I worry I'm failing him too, friends babies who have gone to nursery are so clever now and I worry if he's gonna fail because I can't do that for him. He's so content to play on his own sometimes I worry if I'm not interacting with him enough but then I know that's a good thing too.

Ahh being a mamma, it's not easy is it?

Sammie_03

sunshine_1988 wrote: »

My OH said something similar. I hate the way she pouts all the time!!

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Yeah that annoys me too, whenever she appears in the paper she's doing a stupid pout! It looked like Ant and Dec are even getting fed up with her now.
Woohoo we are off to a baby sale tomorrow, I have 2 to go to next Saturday too.
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sunshine_1988

Gillyx wrote: »

Ah I know, I just feel like no matter what I do I'll regret it. I love being at home with him don't get me wrong, some days I could just pop out another, I'm so happy, but then some days I feel so down and think I can't do this day in day out for the next 2-3 years. I worry I'm failing him too, friends babies who have gone to nursery are so clever now and I worry if he's gonna fail because I can't do that for him. He's so content to play on his own sometimes I worry if I'm not interacting with him enough but then I know that's a good thing too.

Ahh being a mamma, it's not easy is it?

Oh hun. I feel the opposite, like we will lose some of our bond through him being at nursery. But I know I will value my time with him so much more. I couldnt have really dropped my job, as I work for the Council its hard to get in and I have a good pension etc, had I been in my old career as a nursery nurse I probably would have stayed off.

I suppose it just depends on what the situation is at the time.If we were to have another I would really have to think about what to do re work and nursery, or wait till he hits 3 and gets funding.

Could you maybe take Aaron to a baby group? Then he could mix with others and you wouldnt feel so guilty? You are definately not failing him what so ever.

If you plan on moving nearer yout family is there anyone who could have him a couple of afternoons? Perhaps just a small part time job would give you a little freedom or make you feel a little more independent?

Its definately not easy!! I still dont know if going back to work is for the best!

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Sammie_03

Gillyx wrote: »

Ah I know, I just feel like no matter what I do I'll regret it. I love being at home with him don't get me wrong, some days I could just pop out another, I'm so happy, but then some days I feel so down and think I can't do this day in day out for the next 2-3 years. I worry I'm failing him too, friends babies who have gone to nursery are so clever now and I worry if he's gonna fail because I can't do that for him. He's so content to play on his own sometimes I worry if I'm not interacting with him enough but then I know that's a good thing too.

Ahh being a mamma, it's not easy is it?

I think every mother feels the same. I'm sure he won't fall behind because of nursery so don't beat yourself up about that. My boys never went to nursery, they started play school at 2yrs 9months then obviously straight to school and they are fine.
If you do feel like you need some "You" time would it be possible to take on an evening job to see how you feel about returning to work?
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sunshine_1988

Sammie_03 wrote: »

Yeah that annoys me too, whenever she appears in the paper she's doing a stupid pout! It looked like Ant and Dec are even getting fed up with her now.
Woohoo we are off to a baby sale tomorrow, I have 2 to go to next Saturday too.
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How do you find baby sales? I dont think there are any near me!

Oh and I always wanted to be a hairdresser lol...ruined many barbie dolls practising!

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Gillyx

We live slap bang in the middle of the city center, so there aren't much baby groups etc around here it's mostly just business' at this end and shops at the other. We don't have a car so not even possible to go other places. Public transport here isn't great for it being a city

We are hoping to go back home, with regards to someone looking after him, not really all my relatives are well below retirement age and still work full time or are so old they're not well enough to do it. My OH would be working mon-fri - 8-6 or similar so here is scope for me to get weekend and evening work, which I can't do atm as my OH's shifts are all over the place.

I am so thankful I don't have to make the choice though, and that I do have this time with him. I just think now I feel a bit sorry for myself I know I'll look back when he's independent and grown up and think why the hell did I feel like this