MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

savageHK

EL.Smith wrote: »

Hi Ladies, do you mind if I join you? I was reading the pregnancy thread a bit in the last month or so but never managed to keep up with it enough to post.

I had a baby girl at 11.30pm on 1st Oct so she will be two weeks old tomorrow. She was born at home in the birth pool and I didn't even use the gas & air that the midwife had brought to the house a few weeks before my due date.

Ooh, mind if I pick your brains a little? I'm thinking of home birth for mine (due end Nov)

jediquigley

The cossato noodle high hair is the one I have picked not sure in what design but have 10% code for kiddieCare and £40 of gift vouchers so getting it next week.

Re the Kelly mom breastmilk calculator it said 3.1oz for Niall but he downed it so have been experimenting and he still downs 4.5 oz....going to try 5 next.

Beolla Niall had baby acne, it's not nice I did feel sorry for him, mostly cleared up by 6 weeks now he gets the odd spot (9weeks)

Nct sale was fab got 4 reusable swim nappies, cloth book, other books, tshirt, booties, teethers and car blinds for £12.50.

Niall had a crappy reaction to his jabs had a fever for a day and has developed a cold. He was up every 2/3 hours that night.

He was a tough customer to get to sleep last night, took us 3 hours, usually it's half an hour. He has now started sucking his hands and clothes when trying to get to sleep I guess as a comforter as he doesn't have a dummy.

Yay for getting out and about sexymouse I found first few trips scary with a crying baby and worrying about bfing and changing. What do people do when thy need the loo and have baby? Go in disabled loo

Brought 6 reusable little lamb nappies for £24 as they have them on offer, can't wait to try. Going to look into getting some tots bots and bum genius as well. Dhs friend works for amazon and can get 20% off which helps.

Really long post, sorry I had a lot to say

Laura

fluffnutter

sexymouse, talk to me about J and the fact that you're still expressing exclusively (which is fantastic btw). Is he still having trouble latching? How often do you try him on the breast? Are you getting support from a lactation consultant? Has he been checked for tongue tie?

I'm not trying to put you on the spot lovey, just trying to see if there's anything I can help with. As you know, I had to express on the right for about 10 days or so, and I know how tiring it is. I was very keen to get Freddie back on the boob as the merry-go-round of feeding, expressing, sterilising is exhausting. Every time I saw a midwife or HV, they'd ram him straight on my boob (whether he needed a feed or not!) to try to get my confidence up.

On another note, I've signed up for baby massage with Julie the midwife. Can't wait! It will be lovely to see her again

Elelyn

Hello and welcome EL.Smith.

Sexymouse, glad baby sensory was good. I am hoping to start taking Theo to a similar group but I’m a little shy and it takes me a while to work up the courage to do new things. I don’t want to pass my shyness/anti-socialness onto Theo though so need to work on it.

Is it too early to expect to be able to get into some sort of routine at 6 weeks? And if so, how do people go about this? It’s driving me mad that every day is still so different. Also, I know people say “never wake a sleeping baby”, but he sometimes sleep such long stretches during the day that I worry about him going so long between feeds. I could do with trying to get him into a routine just so I don’t worry about him so much.

Tomorrow we have our 6 week check with the GP. Theo will be weighed again so at least I’ll have a bit more reassurance that he’s doing okay (I know he is, but I still worry about him!). I’ve decided I’m going to sign up to Weight Watchers online afterwards as I have about a stone and half of weight to lose to get me back to my pre-preg weight and I was a couple of stone overweight already :-(

turtlemoose

Elelyn I'm going to say that really annoying but unfortunately true line....every baby is different.

For me, at a similar age I stressed myself out about routines that just weren't happening, and after breaking down on the phone to my mum, who told me not to be so hard on myself and just go with it a bit...I ditched trying to force my routine. Immediately I felt much more relieved, and enjoyed being with Reuben much much more. Before, I was setting up expectations, that weren't being met, and so I was frustrated. It really helped me to break that cycle by not setting myself those expectations in the first place. I then had a clear mind to look at it differently.

One thing that helped me massively was an app on my phone. It's called Baby ESP ( which stands for Eat Sleep Poo!) and you can track all sorts on there. I just put in feeds and sleep as that was all I was interested in. Over the course of about a week to ten days, I realised that there WAS a pattern, albeit a loose one, but there was a pattern there. I then, as he got older, based my routine on his natural preferences, and now we have a routine that works for both of us (most of the time!). I don't use the app now but it was well worth the (around) £2.99 I paid for it!

fluffnutter

Elelyn wrote: »

Hello and welcome EL.Smith.

Sexymouse, glad baby sensory was good. I am hoping to start taking Theo to a similar group but I’m a little shy and it takes me a while to work up the courage to do new things. I don’t want to pass my shyness/anti-socialness onto Theo though so need to work on it.

Is it too early to expect to be able to get into some sort of routine at 6 weeks? And if so, how do people go about this? It’s driving me mad that every day is still so different. Also, I know people say “never wake a sleeping baby”, but he sometimes sleep such long stretches during the day that I worry about him going so long between feeds. I could do with trying to get him into a routine just so I don’t worry about him so much.

Tomorrow we have our 6 week check with the GP. Theo will be weighed again so at least I’ll have a bit more reassurance that he’s doing okay (I know he is, but I still worry about him!). I’ve decided I’m going to sign up to Weight Watchers online afterwards as I have about a stone and half of weight to lose to get me back to my pre-preg weight and I was a couple of stone overweight already :-(

Why do you want to be in a routine so strongly? Is it just the weight thing? If so, then rest assured that a hungry baby will wake up (and wake up screaming!). If he's sleeping it's because that's what's best for him. That might not be the case with teeny weeny babies (sometimes newborns need a bit of encouragement to feed in the first few days and it's for their own good to be waken) but by six weeks, if your baby's well, I'd expect him to wake and feed when hungry.

Hopefully, your mind will be put at rest when you get him weighed at his six week check. But generally I'd say that babies really do find their own routine and don't need one imposing on them.

katiechoc_2

Glad baby sensory was good sexymouse, and that you met some nice mummies too.

Elelyn it is hard to walk into baby groups for the first time but once you find a good one its definitely worth it. I've suggested it to others on here before but netmums.com was a lifesaver for me, they have a "meet a mum" section where you can post and reply to adverts from other mums in your area that are looking for new friends. I replied to one and a group of us met at a coffee shop and I see one of them regularly now. Was easier as we were all in the same boat of not knowing each other so didn't have that pressure of being the 'new girl'. It does vary from area to area though, a couple of the others on here had no luck. Might be worth a try though.

katiechoc_2

fluffnutter wrote: »

Why do you want to be in a routine so strongly? Is it just the weight thing? If so, then rest assured that a hungry baby will wake up (and wake up screaming!). If he's sleeping it's because that's what's best for him.

I can't speak for elelyn but I found it very hard in the first 2-3 months before George found his pattern, one day he'd sleep for 2 hours be up for two hours, sleep again etc then the next day he'd sleep for 30 minutes be awake for hours , sleep for an hour... I like to have an idea of when I can get stuff done, like plan when I can get a stew cooked for tea, the unpredictability was a killer. Now he's fairly reliable - up for 2 hours, sleep for 1, repeat until bedtime.

But he found his rhythm, and I follow his lead now. On the odd occasion I've tried to get him to nap when I want it always ends in a upset baby and worn out me. Sorry, elelyn, that's probably not what you want to hear!

katiechoc_2

janninew wrote: »

Hey Ladies,

Been missing for a few days, still not sleeping so great here and I'm soooo tired!

Aww Sunshine I know JUST how you feel and was comforted to read Mozzyc's advice! I'm back 3 weeks today :eek: and I'm dreading it. I know Poppy will be fine with my Mum but I'll miss her so much. I finish work at 4.30pm and my Mum is on the way home from work so will at least have a few hours with her at night and my 3 day weekend, plus the school holidays - I'm really trying to see the positives! I'm also really looking forward to Poppy's 1st Birthday, we are having a small family party and I've started to go mad with banners, balloons etc! I've also ordered her a butterfly cake from our local bakery! Plus I really can't wait for Christmas time, so lots to look forward to!

I hope your appointment goes well with your little moggy sexymouse, I hate it when any of my dogs are poorly.
xx

Meant to say hello Jannine, sorry you're not getting much sleep at the moment. Party planning sounds good, you'll have to post some pics of the birthday girl!

fluffnutter

katiechoc wrote: »

I can't speak for elelyn but I found it very hard in the first 2-3 months before George found his pattern, one day he'd sleep for 2 hours be up for two hours, sleep again etc then the next day he'd sleep for 30 minutes be awake for hours , sleep for an hour... I like to have an idea of when I can get stuff done, like plan when I can get a stew cooked for tea, the unpredictability was a killer. Now he's fairly reliable - up for 2 hours, sleep for 1, repeat until bedtime.

But he found his rhythm, and I follow his lead now. On the odd occasion I've tried to get him to nap when I want it always ends in a upset baby and worn out me. Sorry, elelyn, that's probably not what you want to hear!

Oh, I agree. I too found it far more exhausting when Freddie's day was more chaotic - it's so much easier now he's a little more predictable. The thing is, I don't think there's an awful lot you can do to hasten the establishment of a routine - you've got to let the baby lead the way. I was just wondering what was upsetting Elelyn most and if it's just concerns about Theo's weight I was hoping to encourage her to relax a little.