MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

wendz86

I have a baby carrier and has been quite good for taking Poppy places like into London as taking a pushchair is a nightmare. Hurts my back though.I have heard the wraps are better for your back etc and baby. If she doesn't mind you doing the housework and isn't crying then i wouldn't worry about leaving her a few mins. It's when they cry whenever you leave them that you end up carrying them everywhere.

I always thought I wasn't feeding right as she was such a snacky baby but she has grown well and is a pretty happy baby so must be doing something right!

carolineb23

Thanks loumac! Sophia hates getting out of the bath and having clothes put on :-) so we bath in the morning rather than the evening due to the stress it seems to cause her! I'm breastfeeding on demand so I guess that's another reason routines aren't really going to work with us.
Wonder Womble I remember you from the preg ancy club thread when I was on there, sorry to hear you're struggling. I would second the advice to see your doctor about pnd, don't suffer in silence hun.
We bought a second hand bt baby monitor from ebay, I use it when I have a shower in the morning and it's fine. I wanted an all singing all dancing one before I had S but to be honest, I don't need half the features really. It's like the stupidly expensive gro-egg room thermometer we bought, it's not been on since she was about 2 weeks old!
Regarding the baby groups, I go to one every wednesday at my local children's centre and it's a godsend. I'd like to go to more things really, now Sophia's 3 months she'll probably enjoy some of the classes that are on. We're starting baby massage in a couple of weeks and I'm hoping to meet some more new mums there as it can be a bit lonely on maternity leave. That said, I'm really enjoying it and dreading going back to work!

jennynoo

Hello from the parents thread! Just though I would share this guardian article on colic incase anyone is suffering. If you do want any advice on attachment and positioning please feel free to send me a pm or ring the breastfeeding network helpline. http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2005/mar/30/familyandrelationships.healthandwellbeing?fb=native&CMP=FBCNETTXT9038

Emily926

Lauralou wrote: »

Hi all.

Spoke to a HV today about some questions i have about feeding, as i feel like i'm not doing it 'right' but seems like i am. Theres a breast feeding group tomorrow at 9.30, thinking off going but i'm not normally dressed and ready by 11! and plus my car battery has died so i would need OH car but i can't take him to work at 7 beccause then would need to get DD into her outdoor outfit into her car seat and then what if she wakes for a feed. OH does only work 5ish mins away in the car.

How do you cope when your OH's went back to work. OH goes back tomorrow and i'm really not looking forward to being on my own. I was nearly in tears yday thinking about OH not being here.

Lauralou I would definately try to get to the BF group if you can. I went to one for the first time last week as I was also full of doubts. Isabella was only feeding for between 5-10 mins at a time and I was convinced she wasnt getting enough or my position was uncomfortable for her. Speaking to the other mums there really helped as some of them said that their little ones only fed for 5 mins. There was also another mum who was struggling and it was nice to know i wasnt the only one. I would stick LO in her winter suit over her pjs and drop OH off, if she wants feeding she wont have to wait long as his work is so close. i also fed Isabella at the BF group my first time feeding out of the house, it gave me some much needed confidence.

I was also dreading OH going back to work, he went back last week and it was hard, I didnt realise how much he did. Still today has been much better as i seem to have found a rough routine following EASY. I feed her, change her, put her on her playmat and then when she starts fussing put her down for a nap. Then I have 1-2 hrs (sometimes!) when i have a brew, a snack and maybe do some chores or have a nap. Its really hard when she doesnt settle tho!

katchambers

jenjade wrote: »

thanks doglover.

painted nails you show off!!!

what age did everyone else put their babies in thier own room cot etc

I put Nate in his own room last week, so he was 5 weeks old, he still slept in the moses basket though, but inside the cot. This is because me and LO both snore and we both kept waking each other up, now we both sleep better

kat x

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jenjade

Ellie has had a day of firsts today. first bottle :-( and first feed with nipple shields :-(

Wonder_Womble

Winnie_in_Pooh wrote: »

Womble - have you had any help for PND? I was referred to our local mental health team because my GP was convinced I was about to top myself and I refused any medication while I'm bf'-ing. The lady I saw was brilliant and made me feel so much better about things and basically said that I'm not suffering PND, just "porridge brain" and extreme tiredness. At that point, I hadn't slept for over 3 months so I figured she was probably right.

Thanks Winnie, my HV referred me to the peri natal mental health team, but we couldn't get an appointment for a few weeks. OH has rang them every day to ask if they have had any cancellations and they have said they can come out tomorrow at 10am.

alison2020 wrote: »

Wonble I bled on and off for 6 weeks. Stopped for 4 days or so at times then started again. I breast fed for 5 weeks otherwise I would have had a period start at 6 weeks. As it was I think I was 8 weeks before period started. So I had a 2 week gap then onto the pill so no period since, thank goodness.

Womble have the doctors or HV any advise about the mucous? It sound like it is really disturbing her sleep (and yours!) It wouldn't be a touch of asthma would it? Or a sensitivity to pets? Is she phlegmy during the day or just at night?

Thanks for the info re: bleeding. LO has a GP appointment tomorrow morn about the mucus. It is mainly phlegmy at night, although that could be because she won't sleep in her moses basket long enough during the day for it to start. We don't have any pets, and it sounds too 'moist' to be asthma, if that makes sense?

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Wonder Womble I have been reading some of your posts recently and I can totally relate to how you are feeling. It reminds me so much of me after my DS was born - he turned 1 on Saturday.

I know that you are probably sick to death of hearing it, but it honestly, truely gets better and more managable. The first few weeks I found pretty hideous. Everything from total exhaustion to finding breast feeding difficult and painful.

I remember the health visitor used to come and visit and I would be so tired I could hardly understand what she was saying to me.

I also remember the horror of my OH going back to work. I cried my eyes out and was practically hanging onto his ankles the day he went back! I thought I would NEVER be able to cope, and often (to my great shame) wondered why on earth I'd had a child in the first place.

I also felt that he was never going to settle into a sleep pattern and I would never get a good nights sleep ever again! My OH was wonderful (like yours sounds) and a few nights slept in the living room with DS in the moses basket so I could get some sleep. I think he recognised that I was getting to breaking point, and that me totally knackered was going to be no use to anyone!

I read tons of stuff in both books and on forums on the net about routines and how to get baby to sleep better. I also remember feeling real jealously if any of my NCT friends appeared to be nailing it with getting their LO's to sleep for chunks of more than 3 hours!

I melted down on many occasions and felt totally lost and miserable. I don't know if what I was experiencing was full on PND or just extended baby blues, but it was a horrible time. And through it all, my baby was actually the most precious and wonderful thing I had EVER done, and I look back now on pictures and videos of him and wish I'd appreciated him when he was really tiny more as they do grow so fast!

Anyway..sorry for the ramble! Just wanted you to know that it will improve, your LO will sleep and you will feel 'normal' again!

The bleeding should be starting to ease up about now (6 week), but if you are still going in a couple more then maybe speak to your GP. I think once that stops, it makes life a lot easier and more comfortable too!

x

Thanks so much for this post, it has made me feel a lot better to know I am not the only one, I can relate to everything you have said.

katchambers

Wonder_Womble wrote: »

I would but she has her own baby and has had PND too so I wouldn't want to put any extra on her. OH sent me to bed yesterday afternoon, but I just can't sleep. I think it is the anxiety/PND. I lie there with thoughts rushing around my head and then I'll start to drop off to sleep and suddenly think something like - I must remember to put the red book in LO's bag for the baby clinic on Thurs, even though it is only Monday!!Then I won't be able to sleep for thinking about this

honey, I have that problem when I have a lot on my mind, and you know what helps, if you write down, or put a reminder on your phone or something, that way your mind knows that you have noted it somewhere and that it won't be forgotten, so next time you take a nap, take a pad and pen to bed with you and if you think of anything just write it down for later. HTH
Kat x

loumac

katchambers wrote: »

honey, I have that problem when I have a lot on my mind, and you know what helps, if you write down, or put a reminder on your phone or something, that way your mind knows that you have noted it somewhere and that it won't be forgotten, so next time you take a nap, take a pad and pen to bed with you and if you think of anything just write it down for later. HTH
Kat x

I do that! I have a post it pad and pen by the bed for such occasions. A few nights back I was mithering that Sadie hadn't drunk enough that day and kept going over what she'd had so in the end I jotted down the times and amounts that I'd fed her and then fell straight to sleep. xx